680: Becoming More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier

680: Becoming More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier

Michael Bungay Stanier: The Coaching Habit

Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of eight books, including The Coaching Habit*, which has sold more than a million copies and is the best-selling book on coaching this century. He is the founder Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that’s trained thousands of people around the world to be more coach-like. His TEDx Talk on Taming Your Advice Monster has been viewed more than a million times.

One of the most common desires leaders espouse is wanting to get better at helping others grow. One great way to do that is to become more coach-like. In this conversation, Michael and I explore how we can do better at building this skill.

Key Points
  • Care deeply for others while also being disconnected from their outcomes. Give people responsibility for their own freedom.
  • Consider asking, “How much risk are you willing to take?” Allow the other party to define the boundaries.
  • Bring a difficult observation as a third point. Separate the message from the person and let them decide what’s true.
  • Avoid asking “why” questions of others to avoid putting people on the defensive and trying to solve their problems.
  • A helpful checkpoint: is this question something that’s helping me or helping the other party?
  • Silence is a measure of success. When you ask a question that lands, people need time to answer.
  • Your body leads your brain. Notice your physical presence and how it manifests when you’re listening well.
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