Brenden Dilley

I love Mark Manson's weekly newsletter called "Motherf*ckin’ Monday" where he discusses three ideas about the mind, life or the world. This weeks episode had three important ideas that I wanted to discuss and debate to some degree with Mark.  They are: 1. Your next big breakthrough is already here 2. Is the growth mindset just another fad? 3. Breakthroughs rarely feel good  As someone who focuses on breakthroughs, transformations and slow changes over the time and someone who has gotten some mileage out of the growth mindset, I wanted to add my two cents to the discussion. I hope you enjoy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Jan 202011min

Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode.  Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and… Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety Where the mind goes, energy flows The idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental health How to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossed Understanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life. The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disorders The dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellness Stopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxious Sitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape it The slow approach for dealing with Anxiety How walking can help Anxiety Ways handwriting can help Anxiety Ways space can help Anxiety Spiritual idea of contraction vs expansion Asking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?” Sarah Wilson Links: sarahwilson.com Twitter Instagram Facebook Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  Indeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting. Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf  If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Wilson on Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Dr. Ellen Hendriksen Matthew Quick See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jan 202049min

Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and… His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?” Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity” 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making  The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you  Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values Steven C. Hayes Links: stevenchayes.com Twitter Facebook Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf  Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Jan 202059min

Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and… His book, Comedy Sex God The nature of life Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life How sin is about being unconscious The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now The tension between being and doing Maintaining your center while doing a task When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny” The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way His favorite mantra That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed The role of curiosity When in doubt, zoom out How God is a metaphor for a mystery Pete Holmes Links: peteholmes.com Twitter Facebook Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you.  Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Jan 20201h 5min

Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger.  Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and… Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster The neuroscience of resilience All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience What resilience is  Response flexibility How you respond to the issue, IS the issue The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources Our own internal resources Differentiating between our perception and our response How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through Cultivating a resilience mindset The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty The default mode network Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute The things that accelerate brain change Changing every “should” to a “could”  That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?” How triggers become trailheads Linda Graham Links: lindagraham-mft.net Twitter Facebook Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf  Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED If you enjoyed this conversation with Linda Graham on Strengthening our Resilience, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Elissa Epel Rick Hanson See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Jan 202049min

BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how. Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and… His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad The Tiny Habits Method The technique of Celebration Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly  When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior Stop judging yourself Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward Golden behaviors The problem of “all or nothing thinking”  The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit. The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt Troubleshooting a behavior change problem The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator Ways we can make a behavior easy to do That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing BJ Fogg Links: bjfogg.com Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Michelle Segar James Clear (Part 1) James Clear (Part 2) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Dec 201957min

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee. Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona. In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts! That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life The vicious cycle of failure The sustainable cycle of self-care That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time The self-care hierarchy Michelle Segar Links Homepage Twitter LinkedIn See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Dec 201943min

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and… His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed. When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives Being an active member or your own life The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health Stress Fewer wellness behaviors Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later” Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior I won’t give in to feel good Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions When….then… Giving the monkey something to do What’s the next action? Keeping it small Hacks to work around our irrational thinking Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation The meaning behind our goals Meaning and Manageability Asking what will this cost me if I put it off? Being a Procrastinator Prefer tomorrow over today Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow” Affect forecasting Thinking of your future self as a stranger Developing empathy for future self Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode Links Homepage Twitter Tim’s Psychology Today Page See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Dec 201947min