Matthew Quick 3rd Time: Mental Health, Alcohol, Anxiety and Getting Healthy

So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help In This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and… That anger is a natural and normal response Utilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize us How anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over time Finding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertainty Mindfully noticing and naming our anger Anger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fight The danger of blocking our anger That we feel anger as energy that wants to get out Using fantasy to release the energy of anger  When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourself Noticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t control The critical choice of what to do with the energy of anger Being informed by our anger instead of reacting out of it Channeling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging ways Getting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other people Getting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our anger When we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodies Setting the intention of doing no harm  That fear is often underneath anger Not acting out of anger because it can be abusive Links to Other Episodes: Rick Hanson Hilary Jacobs Hendel Ruth King David Richo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Mars 202050min

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg. In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and… Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our help The connection between anxiety and uncertainty Accepting the truth that there are many things we cannot control Being attentive to what we can control How reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeutic That dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to reality How to abide in a space of not knowing The paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing down Reorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumption How to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisis That constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage  Creating meaning amidst suffering How psychological flexibility can help us move through difficulty How to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growth Ways to work with your anger towards others during this crisis Ways to work with your fear about this crisis The helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisis Looking for ourself in others to bring empathy  What it means to connect to our hearts and souls The importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisis How loving-kindness meditation can help us How staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreat A guided meditation from Sharon Salzberg Calm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf  Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you're looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com  Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs' diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee. Links to Other Episodes: Parker J. Palmer Mirabai Starr Lewis Howes Steven C. Hayes Scott Stabile Sharon Salzberg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Mars 20201h 16min

As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the result. These mini-interviews are with 4 experts on the subject of human behavior and Eric talks with each of them about how we might go about structuring our time, environment and mindset on living and working from home. These are all new conversations with previous guests, David Kadavy Charlie Gilkey, Chris Bailey, and Liz Fosslien You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help In This Episode, We discuss… How to set boundaries for yourself in your time, space, and mind The Pomodoro Method Ways to divide your physical space for work Setting up mental boundaries to get into and out of a work mindset Misdiagnosing distractions when they’re actually challenges of competing priorities Pre-work, lunchtime, and post-work routines Making your environment work for you That your environment matters more than your willpower over the long term How to be productive while in crisis mode Replacing your commute-to-work time with self-care activities Best practices for consuming the news while working from home How it’s ok to feel feelings during this difficult time Best practices for managing people  Deciding the next day’s priorities at the end of the previous day Not letting praise be something that gets lost while working virtually Emotionally proof-reading your messages before sending See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Mars 202056min

Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at The University of Texas at Austin’s Department of Educational Psychology. With her partner Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically-supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion that is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as the book, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program: A Guide For Professionals. In this episode, Kristin and Eric dive into the topic of self-compassion and discuss what it is and isn’t. Kristin also shares how to practice self compassion as well as leads listerns through a self-compassion practice.  The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Kristin Neff and I discuss Self Compassion and… Her book, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook That what we practice grows stronger The science of contemplative practice What self-compassion is Treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show to a dear friend  Starting with mindfulness The connectedness of compassion  The fact that we suffer unites us as human beings Quintessential question, “What do I need?” Myths of self-compassion and how it is a powerful antidote to shame The Inner Ally vs. Inner Enemy Constructive self-criticism How to practice and the physiology of self compassion. The self-compassion break  Why and how self-criticism harms us Kristin Neff Links: selfcompassion.org Twitter Facebook Daily Harvest delivers delicious organic, carefully sourced, and chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial. If you enjoyed this conversation with Kristin Neff, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Kristin Neff (2015) Guy Winch Elisha Goldstein See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Mars 202044min

Eric talks about how to best deal with fear during these uncertain times See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Mars 202017min

Norman Fischer is a poet, author, Zen Buddhist teacher and priest. He’s a graduate of Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop and he’s been publishing poetry since 1979. He’s the author of 17 books of poetry, 6 books of prose on Zen and religion as well as numerous articles and essays. In this episode, Eric and Norman discuss his book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Norman Fischer and I discuss Spiritual Growth through Imagination and… His book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path Redefining imagination and discovering it’s prevalence and role in life The role of imagination in spiritual paths How we don’t see the world exactly as it is, but rather through filters Loosening our grasp on what we think of as absolute reality Constructing useful stories in our mind rather than living by our default stories The essential ways in which imagination enriches the experience of our lives When we realize we are making our lives for ourselves, we have the power to make it differently The Bodhisattva: A Buddha in training Compassion, Love and Service for the benefit of others The Bodhisattva Path The myth of separateness and the truth of interconnection and love That holding two (seemingly contradictory) ideas in our mind at one time offers us depth perception How ideals can inspire us rather than put pressure on us The disease of perfectionism How to engage in “Joyful Effort” when you don’t feel very joyful and don’t have much effort to spare Patience: Just keep going and be of benefit to others Turning toward what’s arising: facing it, embracing it, breathing into it and going forward with it The problematic nature of favoring one’s own suffering over the suffering of others Norman Fischer Links: normanfischer.org Poems by Norman Fischer Essays by Norman Fischer Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  Blinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up! Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. If you enjoyed this conversation with Norman Fischer on Spiritual Growth through Imagination, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Shinzen Young Robert Wright Benjamin Shalva See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Mars 202047min

Kamla Kapur is an award winning author, poet and playwright. She was born and raised in India and studied in the United States. Kamla now divides her time between living in the remote Indian Himalayas and in San Diego, California with her husband. She holds a Master’s Degree in Literature from Kent State University in Ohio and she studied Creative Writing at the University of Iowa. Kamla was on the faculty of Grossmont College in San Diego for 18 years and her stories, poems, and plays have been published in many prestigious Indian and American journals. In this episode, she and Eric use her new book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart, as a jumping off point to discuss the transformative powers we experience through various life experiences. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Kamla Kapur and I discuss Transformative Powers in Life and… Her book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart The deep wound to Rumi’s heart that transformed him and brought forth his treasured body of work that we now know and love How suffering can be our greatest tutor and guide in life The idea of expansion and contraction in our lives That when your heart breaks, it breaks open  How suffering can open us up to being more aware and connected to our higher selves That those who transform as a result of their suffering are open to a different way of thinking as a result of the difficult things that happen to them The transformative powers of hope, joy, and love Rumi’s stories of characters embracing suffering How all suffering has the power to awaken us The transformative power of suffering The transformative power of acceptance How Rumi says, “When the candle of your youth dims, you have to light the candle of the spirit.”  Actively ascending to our aging The awe and wonder of existence and the mystery of life that we as humans can perceive Kamla Kapur Links: kamlakkapur.com Twitter Instagram Facebook If you enjoyed this conversation with Kamla Kapur on Transformative Powers in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Stephen Mitchell Mary O’Malley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Mars 202048min

Ryan Oelke is the co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and is the founder of Awakening In Life. Ryan is a meditation teacher with an MS.Ed. in Counseling Psychology and has 18 years of experience in meditation. He is also a certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. In this episode, Ryan and Eric discuss using Radical Curiosity and embodying our experiences to Awaken In Life. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Ryan Oelke and I discuss Awakening in Life and… Practicing Radical Curiosity Coming home to yourself as you are in this moment Being radically open to what is happening to fully see it How nothing collapses consciousness faster than judgment How being curious implies being engaged with the subject matter Awakening in Life Life as the opportunity to awaken Ways to integrate spiritual principles into the moments of our life Cultivating capacity through formal practice How to use the little moments that might otherwise be “thrown away” during the day That focusing on embodying our experience enables it to become more deeply our own How awakening in life is a responsive, integral path A prescriptive path/model vs. a responsive path/model Having a deep trust in your own experience  Metta Dharma That the entire point of waking up in life could be to have an appropriate response. Ryan Oelke Links: ryanoelke.com Twitter Instagram Facebook Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  Calm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf  If you enjoyed this conversation with Ryan Oelke on Awakening in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Judith Blackstone Mary O’Malley Amoda Maa See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Feb 202055min