Donna Hylton on Healing and Hope

Jonice Webb is the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)™ awareness. She is a licensed psychologist and has enriched and kindled the discussion of this overlooked and under addressed topic by writing the first self-help book dedicated to CEN recovery titled “Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect” In this episode, Eric and Jonice discuss Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), how it affects us as adults, and how to heal ourselves. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jonice Webb and I Discuss Childhood Emotional Neglect and… Her book,  “Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect” Defining and understanding what Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) How it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to find healing The subtle layers of emotional neglect from childhood that we may not remember CEN isn’t about what parents did, but rather what they didn’t do Symptoms and signs of CEN include discomfort and confusion with feelings and emotions Her work is trying to get people to reconnect with their feelings I.A.A.A. – Identify, Accept, Attribute, Act are the steps to process or deal with a feeling How writing can be a powerful coping technique when processing emotions Vertical and horizontal questioning  The first step to healing is owning and understanding emotional neglect The Emotional Neglect Questionnaire Learning to change your relationship with your emotions  Applying your newfound skills in your relationships The difference between minimizing and managing your feelings The importance of positive self-talk Jonice Webb links: Jonice’s Website Facebook Twitter When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonice Williams, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Energy of Emotions with Ralph De La Rosa Understanding Emotions with Susan David See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Maj 202254min

This is our 500th episode (!!!) and to celebrate the milestone, we decided to do something a bit different. In this episode, Eric and Chris reminisce about the very first episode of the show, and then we hear from many listeners of the show! We hear what the parable means to them, stories of their struggle and transformation, and what the show has meant to them. We would not still be doing the show if not for you, our dear listeners, and we thought it would be wonderful to feature you in this special episode.  Let us know what you think about this special episode – if you like it, we’d love to do more!  But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Eric & Chris on Friendship The One You Feed – First Episode with George Watsky See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Maj 20221h 6min

Caroline Williams is a science journalist and editor. She’s a consultant for and a regular contributor to New Scientist. Her new work has also appeared in The Guardian, the Boston Globe, BBC Future, and BBC Earth among others. In this episode, Eric and Caroline discuss her book, Move: How the New Science of Body Movement Can Set Your Mind Free. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Caroline Williams and I Discuss The Science of Movement and… Her book,  Move: How the New Science of Body Movement Can Set Your Mind Free How moving our bodies can affect the many parameters that affect how we feel Meditation is a way to tune in to our body and how we’re feeling How our brains were originally meant to inform us how and where to move in the world How physical activity positively affects our brains and mental health Interoception is the sense of the internal state of our body The powerful effects of physical movement on our thoughts and feelings Walking at a moderate pace turns down the thinking brain and increases creativity Having a strong core and good posture can improve the way we feel Strength training and its powerful effect on self-esteem The benefits of dancing  Breathwork and how breathing exercises affect the body Caroline Williams links: Caroline’s Homepage Twitter Instagram When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Caroline Williams, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Episode 135: Michelle Segar The Science of Breathing with James Nestor See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Maj 20221h 10min

Kevin Mitchell is an author and an Associate Professor of Genetics and Neuroscience at Trinity College Dublin. His research is aimed at understanding the genetic program specifying the wiring of the brain and its relevance to variation in human faculties. Kevin is also the author of the science blog, Wiring the Brain, and a number of books and publications. In this episode, Eric and Kevin discuss his book, Innate: How the Wiring of Our Brains Shapes Who We Are. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Kevin Mitchell and I Discuss the Genetics of Personality and… His book, Innate: How the Wiring of Our Brains Shapes Who We Are The missing third component in the Nature vs. Nurture debate Innate Underlying Traits in the Brain: Extroversion, Neuroticism, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness, Openness to Experience The relationship between genetics and neurobiology What “neurons that fire together, wire together” actually means The difference between Personality Traits and Character Traits The impact of parenting on underlying Personality Traits How people differ in the amount of “free will” that they have The connection between genetics and addiction That we become ourselves throughout lifetime Kevin Mitchell links: Kevin’s Website Twitter When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Kevin Mitchell, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Integration of Science and Wisdom with Jeremy Lent Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind with Chris Niebauer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Maj 20221h 2min

Carlin Quinn is the founder and current director of Education For Racial Equity. She is also a coach, facilitator, therapist, equity consultant to organizations, communities, and individuals interested in dismantling systems of oppression and co-creating cultures of equity, mutual liberation and rooted in compassion and non-violence.  In this episode, Eric and Carlin discuss her important work in bringing awareness to and helping others to engage in racial equity work. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Carlin Quinn and I Discuss Education for Racial Equity and… Understanding internalized and unconscious racism Moving out of our good/bad binary into curiosity keeps us open to learning How our ignorance of systemic racism is incredibly harmful The importance of white people tending to their own trauma and also staying present in racial equity work Becoming aware of what we are triggered by and asking who we become when triggered Her program with Resmaa Menaken, “Foundations in Somatic Abolitionism“ Defining “bodies of culture” as identified by Resmaa The fear and ambivalence in engaging in racial equity work Choosing to engage in equity practices in your life, with your children, and with your friends The need for educating ourselves both individually and communally Carlin Quinn links: Carlin’s Website Foundations in Somatic Abolitionism Program Instagram When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Carlin Quinn, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Racialized Trauma with Resmaa Menakem Deep Transformation with Spring Washam See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Maj 20221h 9min

Massimo Pigliucci is a Professor of Philosophy at the City College of New York, former co-host of the Rationally Speaking Podcast, and former editor in chief for the online magazine Scientia Salon. His research interests include the philosophy of science, the relationship between science and philosophy, the nature of pseudoscience, and the practical philosophy of Stoicism. He’s the author and editor of many books, including the one discussed in this episode: A Field Guide to a Happy Life: 53 Brief Lessons for Living.  In this episode, Eric and Massimo discuss what Stoicism teaches us about how to live a good and happy life. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Massimo Pigliucci and I Discuss How to Live a Happy Life and… His book, A Field Guide to a Happy Life: 53 Brief Lessons for Living What the term Stoicism means The Cardinal Virtues of practical wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance Origins of the Serenity Prayer How the judgments we have are ultimately in our control Coming to acceptance with our own death and then continuing on with life in the present moment The Dichotomy of Control The Discipline of Desire and Aversion in Stoicism The most important characteristic of a person in life Philosophical Journaling Massimo Pigliucci links: Massimo’s Website Twitter When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Massimo Pigliucci, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Applied Stoicism with Professor William B. Irvine Everyday Courage with Ryan Holiday See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Maj 20221h 2min

Emily White is a former lawyer turned writer. She is the author of Lonely, Learning to Live With Solitude. She has written for the Daily Mail,  the New York Post, the Huffington Post, and The Guardian. Her latest book is called Count Me In: How I Stepped Off the Sidelines, Created Connection, and Built a Fuller, Richer, More Lived-in Life. In this episode, Eric and Emily discuss how to deal with loneliness and strategies for finding belonging. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Emily White and I Discuss How to Deal with Loneliness and… Her book, Count Me In: How I Stepped Off the Sidelines, Created Connection, and Built a Fuller, Richer, More Lived-in Life. Understanding loneliness and the difference between depression  How “social depression” lifts when you connect with others Belonging is feeling welcome and needed How it takes time and effort to find belonging Finding belonging in something you value The difference between public belonging and private belonging Emily White links: Emily’s Homepage Twitter Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management, visit truthaboutweight.com When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Emily White, you might also enjoy these other episodes: How to Become Unlonely with Jillian Richardson Community and Connection in an Online World with Emma Gannon See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Apr 202245min

Liz Fosslien regularly leads interactive, scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging, help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Ted, The Economist, and NPR. She is also the co-author and illustrator of The Wall Street Journal bestseller, No Hard Feelings along with the book discussed in this episode, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok. In this episode, Eric and Liz discuss really specific, practical ways to cope with various Big Feelings. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Liz Fosslien and I Discuss How to Cope with Big Feelings and… Her book, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok The myths of Big Feelings Myths about Uncertainty Tools to help cope with Perfectionism Emotions are often a response to stimuli we’re taking in and a result of our brain chemistry How to stop “anxious fixing” The helpful phrase “I’m a person learning to….” How extreme language produces extreme emotions Naming your inner perfectionist  Finding a non-perfectionist role model The red flag of thinking “I’ll be happy when…” How envy can reveal what you value, and then thinking about your willingness to live the life that leads to that How to just make it through when you’re in the worst of it in life Liz Fosslien links: Liz’s Website Twitter Instagram When you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Liz Fosslien, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Embracing Emotions at Work with Liz Fosslien (2019) Befriending Difficult Feelings with Adreanna Limbach See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Apr 20221h