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Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can't think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Casper mattress 4th of July offer July 9th www.casper.com/savings up to $225 off your order  Quip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet free   In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss... Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment Awakening Waking up out of the dream of separation Waking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelings Awakening not dependant on or a precursor to one's psychological health Surrendering the need to uphold oneself Surrendering the psychological self The need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendencies The defense and attack found in righteousness The verticality of being Not having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it is How to be free from suffering The strength of life's intelligence The ripening that happens within oneself when you've finally had enough of running away from pain No real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you're doing is running away from it Am I willing to meet this exactly as it is? Trying not to try True fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basket The paradox of trying not to try Accumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you'll feel worthy and good enough Love is seeking to know itself Silence is ever present in everything     Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Juli 201842min

Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression - more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world.  Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Madison Reed - affordable, salon quality at home hair color kit get color matched www.madison-reed.com 10% off plus free shipping on first kit promo code WOLF   In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss... His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions The two kinds of human connection Intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations "Junk" values The more you're driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you'll suffer from anxiety and depression in your life Our society drives us to live in this extrinsic way The whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buying Extrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motives The 9 causes of depression and anxiety The need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalance That the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depression The loneliest culture that has ever been The importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we're so depressed and anxious Our sense of home and sense of belonging The problems manifested by being isolated and alone The benefit of being part of a "tribe" Realizing that you're not the only one who struggles and feels the way you do Grief and the diagnosis of depression Just having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn't have meaning Depression and not having your needs met Following the pain to its source Pathologizing Depression Johann Hari Links Lost Connections Homepage Twitter Facebook    Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Juni 20181h 5min

This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon. Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology. Solomon’s recent book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, published on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.” Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages. The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”  In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable. Using work to make the world a better place. The urgent business of living a moral life. How to decide what we should change and what we should accept. How hope can become the cornerstone of misery. The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children. The perfectionism of privilege. The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different. How we can grow through difficult circumstances. The poison of comparison. The idea of the “psychological supermodel”. Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is. Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences. A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression. How critical humor is in dealing with depression New approaches to treating depression. His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety. The shame of mental illness. If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes. A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty. How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea. The choices we face. How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Juni 201845min

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Please Support The Show with a Donation  Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf   LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organization In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss... Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed Depression being a calcified sadness Turning towards sadness The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of this Feeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment? The difference between anger and irritation in the body The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happy Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship! How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the space Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however Relax with what is and a space will open up Her take on suffering Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is Your life IS the spiritual path In meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhere Meditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment  Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Juni 201854min

Michael Pollan is a writer whose books have topped the New York Times bestseller list time and time again. He teaches writing at Harvard and The University of California Berkley. In 2010, Time magazine name Michael Pollan one of the most influential people in the world. His books and essays have historically focused on our interaction with nature and this new book takes that theme to a whole other level. Its title gives you a great idea of what it's about: How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence. No matter how many interviews you've heard of Michael Pollan talking about his new book, our interview will offer you a fresh perspective, things he has not previously discussed and things that you may not have previously considered. The very last concept discussed in Eric's conversation with Michael Pollan will for sure leave you thinking anew.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.  Our sponsor this week is Casper Mattress visit  www.casper.com/oneyoufeed and use the promo code theoneyoufeed for $50 off your purchase  In This Interview, Michael Pollan and I Discuss... His book, How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence How fear is a big motivator in people's action and inaction That your obstacles are all between your ears How consciousness is a big mystery What the newest science tells us about psychedelics The way psychedelics affect us by allowing us to look at normal, everyday consciousness in new ways The default mode network going quiet during a psychedelic trip The ego, idea of self in the brain and our life Psychedelics impact on the sense of self The experience of the dissolution of the ego The mind-expanding power of mystical experience The theory of the entropic brain How the brain works to reduce uncertainty and surprise The narrowing of consciousness by rigid thinking The stories our brains tell us Insufficient entropy in the brain perhaps leading to mental illnesses Psychedelics disordering the brain The similarities between a tripping brain on psychedelics and a meditative brain An ego-free state of consciousness through the use of psychedelics The mistake of seeing spirituality as the opposite of materialism The opposite of spiritual being egotistical The ego keeps us from having a deep connection with everything around us How psychedelics are "wasted on the young" That those in the 2nd half of their lives may benefit most from the use of psychedelics The importance of breaking the rigidity that growing older brings How psychedelics can help us make peace with our death Psilocybin benefiting those facing imminent death with great fear How psychedelics and a psychodynamic approach are not opposites "Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy" Positive trauma in the brain Administering an experience rather than a drug The importance of set and setting when taking a psychedelic How a spiritual experience alone doesn't make a spiritual life That ego is nothing but a contraction   Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Juni 201840min

Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who "navigates whiteness on a regular basis". After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion - regardless of where you are on that spectrum today.   Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss... Her book, I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for Whiteness The importance and value of anger How we can fight the monsters without becoming the monsters That anger reveals something is wrong White fragility - sadness and anger Naming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happens Realising racial bias Transformation comes after a moment of realization The idea of "whiteness being normal" Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injustice Disunity in Christ Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race How to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injustice Check out "Be the Bridge" The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliation Skipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you'll take next What reconciliation means to her Racial justice and reconciliation Radical Reconciliation How reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each other The celebration of blackness that is throughout the book Cultural misappropriation       Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Maj 201854min

This week on The One You Feed we have Frank Turner. In honor of Frank's new record we are re-releasing one of Eric's favorite interviews. This was the 22nd interview of all time for The One You Feed. We will be back with a new episode next week. Frank was a singer in a hardcore band, Million Dead. When they broke up he started out on his own with an acoustic guitar. He has released  five solo albums, two rarities compilation albums, one split album and five EPs. His seventh studio album Be More Kind was recently released In This Interview Frank and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable. The feeling that there is never enough time. The importance of friendship in feeding your good wolf. His role as a CALM Ambassador. Building a community around music. What punk rock meant to him as a kid. Staying connected to his values of openness and community as he gets more famous Music as a refuge for those that don’t fit in. Music that he turns to to feed his good wolf. Writing the press release for John K Samson’s latest record. The challenges of alcohol and drugs. Getting older and the changes in identity that come with that. His love of dogs and his amazing “dog policy” at shows His forthcoming record. Frank Turner Links Frank Turner Homepage Buy Frank Turner music on Amazon Frank Turner on Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Maj 201827min

Please Support The Show with a Donation Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.   Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.     In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss... Self-Inquiry Starting with I am not _____ Starting with all inclusiveness - I am _____ Being open to being wrong about things Experiencing an "uncaused" sense of well being Self-transcendent values It works best in life to ______ When you have less internal conflict you treat the world in a different way than if you have more internal conflict Removing the religious and cultural compass removes the moral north star We reorient ourselves to comfort being the north star Nothing mattering AND everything mattering That Adya is oriented towards truth and love Activities are neutral - it's what we bring to it that gives it meaning What is it about awakening that you want? What is meaningful moment to moment and day by day At every moment, we are giving expression to what we value How nothing shuts down awakening faster than judgment The spiritual persona of "I'm going to get out of this human game" or "I'm going to be here but not really be here" The importance of coming to grips with the human experience of imperfection... ...without turning it into an excuse for unwise behavior Be aware of your human limitations and don't see them as "wrong" The problematic experience of existential unworthiness The economic catastrophe of a collective human awakening Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Maj 201857min