La Sarmiento on Suffering to Acceptance

This week we talk to Tony Stubblebine about the science of behavior designTony Stubblebine co-founded Coach.Me (formerly knows as Lift) on the idea that positive reinforcement and community support could be deployed universally to help people achieve their goals. Prior to Coach.Me, he was the founder and CEO of CrowdVine Event Social Networks, which builds simple and powerful social software to help people connect and meet. He was part of the Wesabe launch team, Director of Engineering at Odeo.com and Engineering Lead for O'Reilly Media. He is the author of Regular Expression Pocket Reference (O’Reilly). In This Interview Tony and I Discuss...Searching for work that matters.Achievement that is not gratifying.How we all have a mediocre and excellent version of ourselves.The switch from Lift to Coach.me.The science of behavior design.The BMAT model.The three factors of behavior change: Motivation, Ability, Trigger.Designing our space to reinforce behavior change.Growth mindset vs fixed mindset.Changing our belief system about what we can accomplish.How our failures feel more visible.Using tiny habits to build momentum.Giving ourselves permission to start small.An experience is 10x more powerful than an opinion.Making a game out of behavior change.How meditation is not about clearing out our mind.Meditation is not all about being calm.How meditation isn't just for hippies anymore.The biggest benefits of meditation.Using meditation to disrupt your habitual responses.How without awareness we can't do anything about our issues.What cognitive budget is and how to use it in our lives.Majoring in minor things. Tony Stubblebine LinksCoach.meTony Stubblebine on TwitterCoach.me on Twitter   Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Feb 20151h 3min

[powerpress]  We all know that gratitude and appreciation are important but we need to actually do them for the benefit to occur.  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Feb 20157min

This week we talk to Gabriele Oettingen about rethinking positive thinking.Gabriele Oettingen is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and the University of Hamburg. She is the author of more than a 100 articles and book chapters on thinking about the future and the control of cognition, emotion, and behavior. She received her Ph.D. from the Ludwig Maximilian University in Munich and the Max Planck Institute for Behavioral Physiology in Seewiesen, Germany.Her major contribution to the field is research on the perils of positive thinking and on Mental Contrasting, a self-regulation technique that is effective for mastering one’s everyday life and long-term development. Gabriele Oettingen’s work is published in social and personality psychology, developmental and educational psychology, in health and clinical psychology, in organizational and consumer psychology, as well as in neuropsychological and medical journals. Her findings contribute to the burgeoning literature on life style change and businesses and institutions have increasingly become interested in the application of her research.Her first trade book, RETHINKING POSITIVE THINKING: Inside the New Science of Motivation was published in October 2014. In This Interview Gabriele and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How positive thinking can lead to worse results.How just fantasizing makes it less likely that those fantasies come true.What mental contrasting is.Using mental contrasting to increase your likelihood of success.How envisioning our obstacles can make us more likely to achieve the goals.What implementation intention is and how to use it in your life.The WOOP method- Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.Using WOOP to bring about success in our lives.How WOOP works on the unconscious mind.Eric gets WOOP'ed.Gabriele Oettingen LinksWoop Main SiteRethinking Positive Thinking BookGabrielle Oettingen Homepage  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jan 201552min

Routines don't drain us, they strengthen us when used correctly. Deciding what to do all the time wears us out and saps out strength.  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Jan 20159min

This week we talk to Alex Cornell about overcoming creative blocks.Alex Cornell is an interface designer, filmmaker, and periodic musician. He lives in San Francisco and is currently working at Moonbase. He released a book in 2012 called Breakthrough that is a collection of ideas on how to break through creative block.  He cofounded Firespotter Labs. and one of his creative projects was featured on the front page of the Wall Street journal. In This Interview Alex and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Using comparison as a tool."Getting burnt by other people's work".How his moods are highly correlated to his creative output.Creating instead of consuming.The importance of recharging and taking breaks during the day.Finding multiple outlets for creativity.How to remain motivated over time.Tying your work into a larger purpose.Finding meaning and value in your life where you are.Using other artists "spell books"A lot of the creative process is not visible to the naked eye.There are no easy fixes for creative blocks.Alex Cornell LinksAlex Cornell HomepageAlex Cornell on TwitterAlex Cornell on FacebookAlex Cornell on YouTube Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Jan 201539min

Today we discuss another parable and talk about learning to live with equanimity.  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Jan 20158min

This week we talk to Susan PiverSusan Piver is a Buddhist teacher and the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including The Hard Questions and the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life. Her latest book is entitled The Wisdom of a Broken Heart.Her eighth book, Start Here Now: A Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation will be published this year.She is also the creator of the innovative Open Heart project, an online community to help deepen your meditation practice In This Interview Susan and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How everything is possible.Having an indestructible presence.The positive thinking police.How do you know when you have felt an emotion enough.Her strange friend, depression.The difference between feeling and wallowing.Depression is when nothing means anything, sadness is when everything has meaning.The difference between our feelings and our interpretation of that feeling.Feel the feeling and drop the storyline.Basic GoodnessWhether the Universe is a friendly place.Taking responsibility of our own experience.How the moment to moment commitment to watch our thoughts can cut delusion.How wisdom and compassion are inseparable. Dealing with fear.Not being afraid of ourselves or our feelings.A courageous person is not afraid of their feelings.Susan Piver LinksSusan Piver HomepageThe Open Heart ProjectSusan Piver on FacebookSusan Piver on TwitterSusan Piver Amazon Author Page Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:James ClearSrini PillayDan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Jan 201548min

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11 Jan 20155min