The Anxious Love Coach28 Aug 2023

72: Yes. In this day and age, lower your expectations

In this episode, I talk about the curvature of expectations held in marriage/partnership over the centuries, and how in this day and age, it is beneficial, in some ways, to lower your expectations. I also address the "alpha male" and "high value man" conversation, and why we ought to be cautious and discerning about it. If you wish your partner was more spiritual or brought home more money, this episode will bring you some perspective, and how lowering your expectations will paradoxically open you up to receive MORE than you ever dreamed of in your partnership.

Links:

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Time Stamps:

3:00 Being happy with a loving, nonabusive, stable partner

5:25 Having both masculine and feminine sides to yourself

7:23 Ways I would "test" my partner in the past

16:00 Wanting your partner to "be more masculine"

18:12 The dangers of seeing your relationship as a competition

25:25 My thoughts on the new Barbie film

32:00 Social messages telling us to be extraordinary

33:23 Holding a desire for the life that you want vs. having expectations of your partner

36:50 The feminine will always want more

39:45 Don't compare your nuanced relationship to a polarizing fantasy

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