128. When it's time to walk away from a relationship

128. When it's time to walk away from a relationship

One of the hardest dilemmas we have to face is when it's time to walk away from someone you still love because you know the relationship isn’t right for you. We can often find ourselves stuck in a constant battle between knowing what is right, and what our heart wants us to do. In this episode we break down the five key signs its time to walk away, particularly for those of us in our 20s, and why these reasons matter the most, exploring ideas of:

  • Fatal Attraction Theory
  • The biology behind our 'gut instinct'
  • The Reciprocity Principle
  • Equity Theory
  • Sunk costs
  • Expectant thinking
  • Fear of being lonely or of the unknown

We also explore why we find it so difficult, the reasons that hold us back, including as the stigma around being the one to initiate the breakup and feeling like a failure for your relationship not working out.

You should not be with someone who is not adding to your life in your 20s. This is your time to be your own person, to prioritise exactly what is going to make YOU happy, not stay out of obligation or because of fear, family pressure or expectations. Is this the life you want, with this person? Are they making you the best version of yourself? Are they making you happy? Why don’t you deserve someone who does, even if it takes a while and is a bit scary.

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ThePsychologyofyour20s

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/

Resources:

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

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397. The psychology of office politics

397. The psychology of office politics

When we think about office politics, you might think gossip, favouritism, or power plays - the kind of behind-the-scenes drama that makes work feel draining. But office politics isn’t just about one-u...

19 Mars 36min

396. Homesickness

396. Homesickness

Homesickness is more than just “missing home", it's a deep sense of nostalgia, grief, longing and also, as psychology will tell us, a unique kind of stress response. In this episode, we break down the...

16 Mars 34min

395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

The idea that depression is caused by a “chemical imbalance” is one of the most widely accepted explanations in modern mental health ... but is it actually true? In this bonus episode, we unpack where...

15 Mars 32min

394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

When one person tries to get closer to someone else, and the other person pulls away in response, they might be experiencing a pursuer-distancer dynamic. This can create a very painful cycle, where co...

12 Mars 39min

393. The psychology of stoicism

393. The psychology of stoicism

If you heard someone described as stoic, you would probably imagine they were unemotional and repressed, with a stiff upper lip. But stoicism has a PR problem. In fact, stoicism can teach us a lot abo...

9 Mars 37min

392. Why is whimsy so powerful

392. Why is whimsy so powerful

We often dismiss the small, playful things we do to keep life joyful: collecting trinkets, baking for no reason, blowing bubbles, looking for magic. They’re labelled childish, unnecessary, or unseriou...

5 Mars 39min

391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

We like to think we’re making conscious choices all day long - but a lot of what drives our reactions, habits, and gut feelings happens outside of awareness. The conscious vs. unconscious mind is a us...

2 Mars 42min

390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

Why do some people seem to move from relationship to relationship with barely any time in between, and why does being single feel almost impossible for them? In this bonus episode, we’re diving into t...

28 Feb 30min

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