Controlling Carnal Desires

Just a brief word about our day off and our goal for the new year. Thanks for listening!

3 Jan 20232min

While all toys are for trans folks (because anyone can use any toy with themselves and others), there are some toys that are specifically great for trans folks: specifically, toys that are gender-affirming, both in everyday use and in play. You can check out all the toys mentioned using our SheVibe affiliate link: https://shevibe.com/?rfsn=4817860.3efcec

2 Jan 202319min

A kink checklist is usually suitable for scene play and for very new or short-term relationships. For a longer-term relationship that involves a dynamic it's a good idea that all persons involved know each other on a more intimate basis. Here are some medical and health questions to help in your negotiations.

1 Jan 20239min

Happy New Year 2023 from BDSM United Podcast!! Here is an episode I recorded a few weeks ago on this relevant topic of BDSM and Kink resolutions and setting goals.

1 Jan 202311min

Negotiating a relationship is similar to negotiating a scene. Both come after a potential partner is vetted. Negotiations for a play scene are usually short conversations that happen before you meet for the actual play scene. However negotiating a relationship is a series of longer conversations that happen when a couple decides to consider a power exchange dynamic (such as D/s).

31 Dec 202214min

While it is more common these days for Dominant/submissive couples to have Top/bottom kinky play, the 1950's head-of-household style D/s relationship is an example of D/s without the T/b. In addition to no kink, some D/s relationships are not sexual either. Top and bottom are different than Dominant and Submissive. Therefore we can stop relating them to one another because ultimately we are making it even more difficult to learn their meanings by doing so.

30 Dec 20229min

When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave. Munches are a key part of the BDSM community. It is where people go to meet other kinksters, see old friends and to establish themselves in their local community.

29 Dec 20229min

There are people pushing the “must receive before you can give” ideology in the BDSM lifestyle. Meaning a Top (person doing/giving the kink) must experience a kink before they can give and fully understand that kink to a bottom. That would be ok if that Top was into receiving that kink, which is not always the case. Tops have likes and limits too!

28 Dec 20227min