Negotiating Scenes
Negotiating a relationship is similar to negotiating a scene. Both come after a potential partner is vetted. Negotiations for a play scene are usually short conversations that happen before you meet f...
31 Dec 202214min
1950's Head of Household
While it is more common these days for Dominant/submissive couples to have Top/bottom kinky play, the 1950's head-of-household style D/s relationship is an example of D/s without the T/b. In addition ...
30 Dec 20229min
Munches
When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if ...
29 Dec 20229min
To Give You Must First Receive
There are people pushing the “must receive before you can give” ideology in the BDSM lifestyle. Meaning a Top (person doing/giving the kink) must experience a kink before they can give and fully under...
28 Dec 20227min
The Master's Creed
Today we want to jump back in time and share a snapshot from our past. Perhaps this is a bit of a romanticized look at the identity of a Master, you be the judge. But before we had Mottos like RACK an...
27 Dec 20228min
Effectively Processing Change
What level of intensity is your Power Exchange? How does your dynamic deal with change? Power Exchange can be messy and complicated because it involves people in a relationship. Because the more they...
26 Dec 202214min
Yuletide Breeding Kink
BDSM United joins the Heathens Podcast for a special Yule celebration. We talk about celebrating this season and winter solstice from both right hand path and left hand path mystic traditions. And we ...
25 Dec 202223min
LGBTQ Definitions Part 2
BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening ...
24 Dec 202217min
