Survivor Story - Hannah's Story for Sexual Assault Awareness Month

In this episode, producer Dan Moyle interviews Steven Wolhandler, author of How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Predators. Steven knows how abusive and manipulative people prey on the emotions of good people - and how good people can protect themselves. He offers a radically different view of these Emotional Predators and provides practical effective solutions. For Emotional Predators, he says, "Life is a strategy game to dominate and control, and you are either a player to be defeated or a game piece to be used. Without empathy or remorse, they’ll ruin your life, and traditional approaches will make things worse." If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

6 Maj 202047min

The benefits to therapy are many. In this episode, DASAS therapists Krista DeBoer, Elizabeth Alderson and child advocate Toriann Lawrence unpack how therapy helps sexual assault and domestic violence survivors. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

29 Apr 202019min

We've explored the dark world of human trafficking in a previous episode. Now we're helping connect how human trafficking and domestic violence intersect. Rita O'Brien, working on a Master's Degree in social work & intern at DASAS and Elizabeth Alderson, therapist at DASAS uncover how these worlds connect. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. Please consider helping us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

22 Apr 202019min

Sports help young people develop life skills,  have amazing experiences and stay healthy. Unfortunately, it's also a place where abuse happens. What do you do when sexual abuse happens in your child's world of their favorite sport? What about as an adult? And what can you look for as warning signs? Krista DeBoer, Sexual Assault Therapist at DASAS, and Dani Filipek, Sexual Assault Advocate at DASAS join Claudia Pahls to tackle this difficult subject. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. Please consider helping us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

15 Apr 202035min

One year. 52 episodes. Nearly 30,000 downloads. 50 states + 61 countries. It's been quite a journey. Join host Claudia Pahls, Producers Dan Moyle and Deborah Hackworth and DASAS guest Krista DeBoer for a retrospective on the first year of I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. Please consider helping us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

8 Apr 202045min

While much of the world is staying home, domestic violence victims find themselves trapped with their abuser. While COVID19 and the current quarantine won't create abusers, it does exacerbate the potential abuse in domestic violence situations. If you find yourself in need, call you local shelter or abuse hotline - DASAS is 1-800-828-2023. Safety planning: Safety During an Argument Stay in an area with an exit and avoid letting the other person get between you and the exit. Practice getting out of your home safely. Avoid rooms with weapons, such as the kitchen. Have emergency 911 phones hidden throughout the home. Tell trustworthy neighbors about the violence. Ask them to call the police if they hear or see any disturbance. Devise a code word or signal to use with your children, family, friends, and trustworthy neighbors when you need the police. Trust your instincts and judgment. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger. Safety When Preparing to Leave Establish your independence. Open savings and credit card accounts in your name only and specifically instruct institutions that your partner is not to have access. Leave money, extra keys, copies of important documents, extra medicine and clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly. Determine safe people you can stay with and plan leaving with. Review and rehearse your safety plan. Keep a packed bag at a trusted relative’s or friend’s home. Plan where you will go if you have to leave. Safety in Your Own Home Change the locks on your doors. (Landlords are legally obligated to change locks within 24 hrs if you are experiencing DV). Install locks on your windows. (Renters check with your landlord first.) Discuss and practice a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them. Inform your children’s schools or caregivers who has permission to pick up your children. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and to call the police if they see him or her near your home. Safety with a Restraining Order Keep your protective order on you at all times, and give a copy to a trusted neighbor, friend or family member. Call the police if your abuser violates the protective order. Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away. Inform family, friends, neighbors and health care providers that you have a restraining order in effect. Your Safety and Emotional Health Identify who you can rely on for emotional support and call our Crisis Line at 503-469- 8620 or toll free 1-866- 469-8600. If you have to communicate with your abuser, determine the safest way to do so and avoid being alone with them. Advocate for yourself and your needs. Find people and resources you can safely and openly talk to and ask for help. You are not alone, and you do not have to go through this by yourself. Look into counseling and support groups that directly address your experiences and needs. Find ways to care for yourself: exercise, make time to relax, create a safe environment, do things you enjoy, get as much support as you can. Checklist: What You Should Take When You Leave Legal Papers Restraining order/stalking order Lease, rental agreement, house deed Car registration Health and life insurance cards Divorce papers Custody papers Other House and car keys Medications Valuables, photos, etc. Address book Phone card/safety cell phone Clothes, blankets, small toys for children Clothes, hygiene necessities, etc. for yourself Identification Driver’s license Children’s birth certificates Social security card Self-sufficiency/disability identification Papers Medical records for you and your children Work permits/green card VISA Download a safety plan here. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. Please consider helping us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

25 Mars 202023min

Rita O'Brien, a DASAS intern working on her Masters Degree in social work at Western Michigan University, joins Claudia to discuss what human trafficking is and how it impacts our community. Human trafficking involves the use of force, fraud, or coercion to obtain some type of labor or commercial sex act. Every year, millions of men, women, and children are trafficked worldwide – including right here in the United States. It can happen in any community and victims can be any age, race, gender, or nationality. Traffickers might use violence, manipulation, or false promises of well-paying jobs or romantic relationships to lure victims into trafficking situations. Language barriers, fear of their traffickers, and/or fear of law enforcement frequently keep victims from seeking help, making human trafficking a hidden crime. To report suspected human trafficking to Federal law enforcement: 1-866-347-2423 To get help from the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or text HELP or INFO to BeFree (233733) If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. Please consider helping us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

18 Mars 202015min