Why Wisdom Isn't About Age - And what really defines maturity
What if everything we believe about wisdom and maturity is backwards? Most of us carry this quiet assumption that growing up means becoming someone else... someone more serious, more predictable, more aligned with what society expects. What if wisdom isn't about following prescribed paths. It's about developing an intimate relationship with your own evolution. True maturity emerges when we stop trying to prove ourselves and start honoring our authentic desires. This episode challenges the tyranny of "should" and invites us into a more generous understanding of human development. The most mature thing you can do? Stop rushing toward someone else's definition of who you ought to become. What you'll discover: Wisdom is seasonal—what serves you now might not serve you later, and that's growth Judgment is immaturity—truly wise people don't prescribe paths for others Your timeline is sacred—comparison is the enemy of authentic development Time to rewrite the rules of growing up on your own terms. ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History of Innovation Learn about the history of invention and the evolving story of the human species told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapters 00:00 The Wisdom of Youth 01:07 Outgrowing the Need to Prove Yourself 03:02 The Shifting Joys of Travel 06:45 Finding Thrills Closer to Home 08:36 Avoiding Judgment of Others' Paths 09:46 Helping Others Find Their Own Aligned Path 11:07 Redefining Maturity 12:29 Redefining Wisdom 15:32 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
29 Juli 20min
Introspection and How to Work Out What to do With Your Life - w/ Melissa Monte
What if your rock bottom was actually a launchpad? Melissa Monte, host of the Mind Love podcast, shares how hitting her lowest point became the catalyst for building a life she truly loves. Melissa's journey wasn't a straight line to success. After facing trauma, bad relationships, and even a felony charge for someone else's crime, she found herself in a jail cell with a choice: let her limitations define her or use them as guideposts. She chose the latter, teaching herself digital marketing and eventually launching a successful podcast. This episode dives into the raw, messy process of self-discovery and how our biggest failures can become our greatest teachers. Ask yourself what you can do without anyone else's permission. Use your limitations as guideposts to steer you in a new direction. Instead of chasing shiny objects, ask yourself: What am I endlessly curious about ---- Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History of Innovation Learn about the history of invention and the evolving story of the human species told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapters 00:00 How we can find ourselves feeling lost 02:32 Melissa Monte: Host of Mind Love Podcast 07:14 The Power of Adversity and Self-Development 10:10 Raising a Child with Growth Mindset 15:10 Introspection and Self-Discovery 21:35 Introduction to Podcasting Journey 22:14 Self-Reflection and Discovering Purpose 23:18 Identifying Strengths and Superpowers 24:32 Creating a Podcast and Sustaining Passion and Growth 26:52 Podcasting Skills and Insights 29:07 Epiphanies and Personal Growth 33:02 Overcoming Challenges 35:31 Building Relationships and Networking 39:57 Kindest Thing 43:39 Final Thoughts and Contact Information 44:05 Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
25 Juli 51min
The Surprising Habits of Emotionally Resilient (unstressable) People /w Military Psychologist Steven Stein
What if the stories we tell about stress and adversity are holding us back? What if the most resilient people are not the strongest, but the most adaptable? This episode is an invitation to rethink resilience. Dr. Steven Stein shares how the hardiness mindset shifts our relationship with challenge. A concept born in military research but relevant to artists, entrepreneurs, and everyday heroes. It’s not about stoicism or sheer willpower; it’s about seeing meaning in difficulty, embracing uncertainty, and committing to a journey bigger than the immediate obstacle. T You’ll discover how small shifts in thinking can ripple into profound changes in how you live, work, and connect. Actionable takeaways: Cultivate challenge as a lens for growth, not a reason to retreat. Practice focusing your efforts where you have influence, not where you feel powerless. Let your commitments guide you beyond temporary discomfort. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Hardiness Concept 01:57 Hardiness: The Three Cs 08:11 Positive Thinking vs Reframing 09:20 Hardiness in Acute vs Chronic Stress 12:03 Writing habits and hardiness 15:40 Does Hardiness Grow over time 15:44 Hardiness: The Three Cs 21:15 Weird Memories 22:32 Kindest Thing 24:30 Moments of Wonder 26:02 Send Off 26:15 Wrap up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
22 Juli 29min
![Loud Thoughts: Depression, Anxiety, ADHD and the Default Mode Network [Archive]](https://cdn.podme.com/podcast-images/504E322239DD30DAD2E064D3E42D4788_small.jpg)
Loud Thoughts: Depression, Anxiety, ADHD and the Default Mode Network [Archive]
We revisit a classic episode to understand the circuitry of the self as we uncover the neurological pathways behind the Ego and explain what the Default Mode Network is. Topics covered: What the hell is the Default Mode Network The Brain Pathways of Anxiety and Depression The imbalances causing ADHD How modern medicines interact with the brain The effect of meditation and psilocybin on the DMN Starting with Hans Berger's pioneering work with EEG this episode covers the history of Default Mode Network discovery, its role in ADHD symptoms, and the impact of Default Mode Network on depression. We also explore the connection between DMN and anxiety disorders and discuss the benefits of therapeutic interventions targeting the Default Mode Network. Learn how modern neuroscience uses DMN insights to enhance psychiatric treatments and the overall understanding of mental health. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Further Reading Default Mode Network on Wikipedia Where is the Default mode network Paper: The Brains Default Mode Network Paper: Schizophrenia and DMN Paper: Autism and DMN Theory of Mind Related Episodes How to Stop Catastrophizing Science of Psilocybin Therapy w/ Gabriel Charalambides Psilocybin Therapy John Hopkins Research Legal treatment in the USA - Odyssey Meditation Retreats Paper: Meditation effect on the DMN Book: Why Buddism is True (Evolutionary Psychology of Meditation) 10 day Vipassana (free) - Dhamma.org Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Default Mode Network 02:04 Hans Berger and history of EEG and brain mapping 04:49 Discovery of the Default mode network 06:14 What is the default mode network? 06:33 #1 Self-referential thought 07:00 #2 Theory of mind 07:43 #3 Autobiographical memory 08:12 #4 Envisioning future scenarios 08:32 #5 Mind wandering and daydreaming 09:16 #6 Creativity 10:21 Depression and the brain 11:28 Anti Depressant medication and the DMN 12:41 Anxiety 14:08 Anti Anxiety medication and Benzodiazepines 15:27 ADHD 16:16 ADHD medication and stimulants 18:03 How Meditation Regulates the DMN 20:34 Psilocybin impact on the DMN 22:41 Wrap up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
17 Juli 26min
How to Create Perspective and Get Out of Your Own Way
Ever tried surfing and ended up just swallowing seawater? That’s what life feels like when you’re glued to the problem and forget to look up. In this episode, I share how learning to surf taught me more about perspective than any self-help book ever could. We’ll break down why your brain loves to panic, how focusing on the wrong thing can make you fall (literally and metaphorically), and the simple hacks that help you zoom out when you’re stuck in the weeds. Think of it as a manual for getting out of your own way—using surfboards, driving lessons, and a dash of Bob Marley. Takeaways: Use physical cues or mantras to trigger perspective shifts. Schedule regular “look up” moments—weekly reviews, coaching, or just a walk. Reframe panic as a signal to check your focus, not a reason to double down. Ready to stop face-planting into your own problems? Hit play and start steering toward the horizon. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:32 The problem learning to surf 02:54 Don't look up 04:25 Surfing is like driving 05:39 Surfing and driving is just like any sport 05:52 Life analogy 06:21 Running a business analogy 07:49 Get some perspective 09:25 Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
15 Juli 11min
The Creative Act: Rick Rubin's 12 Rules for Creativity and Being Yourself
Ever feel like creativity is reserved for “real” artists? Rick Rubin’s 12 rules say otherwise. They’re for anyone who wants to live and create with more honesty. Rubin, the legendary producer who can’t play an instrument, built his career by helping others strip away what’s fake and tune into what’s real. His rules aren’t about being clever; they’re about noticing, subtracting, and getting comfortable with discomfort. I’ll share how Rubin’s approach helped me stop overthinking and start making things that actually felt like me. Think of creativity as tuning a radio: your job isn’t to invent the music, it’s to find the right frequency. Notice inspiration everywhere—train yourself to be amazed by the ordinary. Make a mess first, judge later—let ideas breathe before you kill them. Change your environment to change your mind—move your desk, move your thoughts. Tune in to discover how to make your work (and life) feel more like you. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Creativity 00:41 Who is Rick Rubin? 01:49 Lessons from Rick Rubin's Book - The Creative Act 02:53 Lesson 1: You Are a Receiver, Not a Creator 05:02 Lesson 2: Inspiration is Everywhere 07:32 Lesson 3: Vary Your Inputs 09:55 Lesson 4: Make Something Without Judging It 11:01 Lesson 5: Discomfort is a Creative Compass 13:30 Lesson 6: The Work Reflects the State of the Maker 15:25 Lesson 7: Reduce Until Only the Truth Remains 18:30 Lesson 8: The Audience Comes Last 19:29 Lesson 9: Nothing is Ever Finished 22:23 Lesson 10: Be a Beginner Always 24:04 Lesson 11: Create Your Environment with Intention 25:49 Lesson 12: The Artist's Job is to Be Open 28:13 Summary of 12 Lessons 28:53 Final Thoughts on Creativity 30:57 Supplementary Stories and Recommendations 31:28 Wrapping Up and Challenge for the Week Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8 Juli 35min
Lessons Across Time: How to teach yourself, remember more and grow wiser
The best lessons don't come from others, but from yourself. As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living". This episode invites you to rethink how you engage with your past and future selves as a continuous dialogue of growth. Journaling, sending future emails, and revisiting your old favourites aren’t just nostalgia trips — they’re time machines for your brain. I share my own cringe-worthy stories from my own teenage journal flipped my self-doubt into confidence. Science backs it up: writing boosts memory and emotional clarity, and connecting with your future self helps you make smarter choices. The best way to preserve the memories of your favourite people How to capture your feelings and goals for the future Easy habits that teach you the most important lessons in life ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapter: 00:00 Introduction: Conversations Across Time 01:24 #1 - The Power of Journaling 02:18 Personal Story: Sailing Adventures 04:21 #2 - Sending Messages to Your Future Self 07:18 #3 - The Impact of Revisiting Old Favorites 10:19 #4 - Recording Conversations with Loved Ones 12:46 #5 - The Concept of Life Reviews 12:56 Experimenting with 12-Week Sprints 15:41 #6 - Revisiting Your Own Work 18:31 #7 - Mentoring Yourself Across Time 20:00 - Bonus - Building a Life Library 21:34 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 22:09 Engage with the Community 22:25 Preview of Next Week's Episode 22:35 Closing Remarks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4 Juli 25min
Attachment Theory and How to Avoid the Mistakes Everyone Makes When They Learn About It
Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it. It’s probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes. We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence. You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better. Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner’s mixed messages so you can bypass the drama. Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy. Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness. Listen now to finally make your love life make sense. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 ---- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Chapter: 00:00 Attachment styles 04:48 Origin of Attachment Styles 06:17 Secure attachment 07:11 Anxious attachment 08:17 Avoidant attachment 09:00 Disorganized attachment 09:22 Impact on Relationships 12:38 Advert - Magic mind 12:38 Common mistakes with attachment theory 14:57 Overgeneralize attachment styles 15:50 Neglecting the influence of context 17:49 Stigmatizing certain attachment styles 19:13 Oversimplifying the complexity of relationships 19:46 Misapplication of attachment theory 20:24 Ignoring change in attachment style 21:13 Mid-roll ad 21:17 Improving Attachment styles 24:31 Improve Anxious Attachment 27:06 Avoidant attachment traits 29:00 Avoidant style tips 30:23 Deeper areas to explore 31:11 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1 Juli 34min
