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In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here 👉https://youtu.be/aKH7wyMgbMw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Juli 1h 16min

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Juli 49min

In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Pv_Msu2Qp6o Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9 Juli 1h 23min

This week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to intimacy. Then, it’s time for Settling or Settling Up? where J&J get Case’s take on real listener scenarios, from stingy tippers to partners who still text their ex. Can love survive political differences or a forgotten birthday? Case shares why playfulness, clarity, and self-worth matter more than a perfect love story. This episode will shift how you think about dating and maybe even yourself! Watch episode here 👉 https://youtu.be/kfP_MN82co4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Juli 52min

Jared and Jordana are kicking off the summer with a sizzling episode of U Up?, just in time for Fourth of July weekend, aka the perfect holiday to meet someone new. They dive into the difference between “main street” and “back alley” dates, and why your best romantic opportunities might be hiding in plain sight at a rooftop BBQ. A listener writes in after being kicked off Hinge by a jealous date who reported her when she didn’t want to keep seeing him after date three which brings on the game “Hinge Court,” where J&J rule on the internet’s biggest dating crimes. Plus, a heated email sparks debate: is a twin bed a red flag or just a red herring? And finally, a former sugar daddy confesses his past would you swipe right on that? This episode is packed with hot takes, dating wisdom, and enough corn-on-the-cob discourse to carry you through your next barbecue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Juli 1h 20min

In this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the chaotic brilliance of the 90s rom-com My Best Friend’s Wedding. They unpack the iconic “Say a Little Prayer” scene and ask why George isn’t the real lead?! George is loyal, hilarious, and flies to Chicago twice with zero expectations. Jared jokes he’d do the same for Jordana! The two debate who the true villain is: manipulative Julianne or emotionally unavailable Michael. They also question why everyone in the movie is kissing on the lips, including Kimberly and her dad. Through it all, they explore how the film’s dated relationship norms still spark modern-day debates about friendship, insecurity, and love, especially through the performances of Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz, and Rupert Everett. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Juni 49min

This week on U Up? Jordana recounts a chaotic suburban showdown between her dog Ron and a rogue bird, complete with screaming, bird smacking, and an emergency vomit, an instant Jersey Shore Sammi Sweetheart moment. Then, J&J dive into listener emails starting with a baffling date: is four bathroom breaks in three hours a red flag or just…hydration? They weigh in on whether an ex checking your LinkedIn weekly for months is creepy or kind of romantic ("The sad version of The Notebook"). Plus, a listener wonders if post-sex texting equals intimacy. Jordana breaks down why good texting isn’t the same as making real plans. From social media stalking to suburban dog drama, this episode delivers laughs, real talk, and dating advice you didn’t know you needed. Watch full ep 👉 https://youtu.be/ejaxFdMHGiY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Juni 1h 22min

It’s summer and Jordana’s pool dreams are on pause thanks to Long Island’s signature pace: dial-up internet speed! She and Jared unpack the clash between millennial efficiency and suburban business hours. Then, it’s a deep dive into modern dating quirks: should you cone or cup it on an ice cream date (and what does it say about you)? Plus, a howling ritual sparks a debate, red flag or just a full moon vibe? They also weigh in on whether a social media presence is a dating necessity or just mental clutter. From wolf howls to Insta reboots, it’s a perfect storm of pool drama, personal growth, and pizza-fueled revelations! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Juni 44min