Is It Okay To Judge Someone You're Dating By Their Friend Group?

The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter from a listener who tells a guy he can spend the night, but she won’t sleep with him. He proceeds to take his phone out and show her a group chat where him and his boys share pics of women. What gives? After they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “you have to spend all major holidays at their parents’ house” and “they don’t believe in vaccines.” Thanks to our sponsors! Fab Fit Fun- Use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. ThirdLove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Okt 20181h 12min

The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another letter from a listener asking about her boyfriend who drinks too much. His drunken episodes are becoming a pattern, but she’s not sure what to do about it. At 45:55, they are joined by Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine of Girls Gotta Eat podcast to respond to listeners and play some games. At 47:49 they take a letter from a listener who meets a guy at a wedding and it seems like love at first sight. He buys a non-refundable flight to visit her, but then bails at the last second. What gives? They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: their favorite movie is Paul Blart: Mall Cop. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Okt 20181h 22min

The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit much. What should she do? At 47:14, they take another letter from a listener who was badly burned by a girlfriend of three years who left him for her coworker. He can’t seem to shake it. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears the same thing on your first ten dates and is really mean to waitstaff but leaves a 50% tip. Thanks to our sponsor, FabFitFun. Listeners to U Up? can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Sep 20181h 9min

The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lonely Girls. They talk about slut-shaming and then take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a DJ who has some wild role playing requests. At 1:10:00, they wrap up with some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: a burglar breaks into your home and they run into the closet without you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Sep 20181h 24min

The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge date that went well but then he seemingly just wants sex. She is looking for a response that doesn’t make her look like a “ho”. At 16:55, they do a dating app makeover where they go through a girl’s profile and discuss the various kinds of bikini pics - and whether it’s OK or not to have one. At 32:50 they bring on their special guest, HBO star and Host of the White House Correspondent’s Dinner, Michelle Wolf. At 39:41, they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including: “makes instagrams for his cars”, “loves shitting at public restrooms” and “has 5 roommates.” At 57:50, they do a deal reveal, where they read a letter from a listener who has been friends with a guy for 6 years and finally decides to give it a shot. He’s acting weird so what’s his deal? At 1:18:00, they begin taking questions from the audience and things get wild. Don’t miss the story at 1:23:50 where a girl hurts herself during sex in an unbelievable way and is debating Venmo-ing the guy for the hospital bill. Thanks to our sponsors P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP Beau Undies: Sign up at beauundies.com using our special promo code BETCHES to try it out and get your first undie for just $3! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Sep 20181h 55min

The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leave? At 20:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week that ends with a trip to Planned Parenthood. At 36:22, they take a letter from a listener talking who can’t get over her insecurity and jealousy. At 45:07, they take another letter from a listener who split with her boyfriend, but noticed that he left pictures of the two of them on Instagram. Could this mean anything? At 1:05:33, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: gets all their dating advice from their mom. Listeners to the U UP? Podcast can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12 Sep 20181h 16min

J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current hookup is stalking your ex. At 22:00 Hillary from Hoboken joins J and J for a dating app makeover. She’s looking for the Jewish boy of her dreams. At 37:00, they are joined by Matteo Lane. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "they put their credit score up as a picture on their dating app" and "insists you call their parents mom and dad as soon as you meet them." At 56:00 they re-enact their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week. A listener encloses a full Bumble conversation and wants to know why the guy she was messaging suddenly disappeared from the app. At 1:17:10 they are joined by audience members looking for dating advice. Thanks to our sponsors SKORCH: Click https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/skorch/id1001454679?mt=8 to download the app today. P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP SMART SWEETS: Go to SmartSweets.com and get free shipping on your first order of $30 or more using code “Betches” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Sep 20181h 39min

Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only for him to bail on one because he “needed to nap.” After some stalking, the listener discovers he was liking food pics on Insta. What gives? At 31:14, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a dental student stuck his finger in a girl’s mouth in an unsexual way. At 40;11, they take a letter from a listener who's displeased with her merely financially adequate boyfriend. He doesn’t have the drive to earn more. What should she do? At 53:25, they take another letter from a female listener who’s hooking up with a guy and he decides things are moving too fast. He says he wants to start from scratch and cut the sex out of the picture. Is this a thing? After they wrap up on some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “still believes in the tooth fairy” and “has his own place, but he still has glowing stars on the ceiling.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale! Extended now through September 13: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at Leesa.com/UUP and enter promo code UUP at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Sep 20181h 8min