Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?

We’ve finally made it to the end of January, but Jordana can’t get into this week’s dating topics until she addresses the change on Jared’s face. Plus, J&J give updates on what’s going on in their lives. Then, #DatingTok is bringing up doubts for our first emailer: is it the man’s job to confirm a date the day-of, and what does it say about her if she doesn’t hold dates to social media’s current standard? The Awkward Encounter is a piss-take memory from being stuck on the road with a new boyfriend. The second email is about falling for a guy back home when the circumstances can only make it complicated. J&J talk through whether liking someone is enough of a reason to go for it in spite of the odds. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about briefly leaving a date, not sharing food, and photo IDs. Photo Credit: Phil Provencio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Jan 20241h 25min

We’re overdue for an SOS episode so this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Rob, one of our listeners, to talk through his current situation with an ex. He takes us through their dating timeline, the breakup, and how, two years later, she started to come back into his life via social media. Now, they’re on friendly terms, but what is this all for? To build a friendship? Reignite their relationship? And, most importantly, why is he playing along? J&J push Rob to figure out what he wants, call out the grey areas in this situation, and tell him what he needs to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jan 202452min

It’s a debate day in the studio this week! Winter freeze is in full effect, and J&J are coming in hot with reality checks about settling and where you may stand with your situationship. The first emailer is wondering whether she should stop trying to date new guys and seriously consider settling for her high school ex. J&J play out the scenario of reaching out to an ex with the intention of rekindling. The Awkward Encounter shines a light on a weird moment that led to great sex. Then, J&J take the first submission for our new “Are We Dating?” segment. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about bad breath, a gross habit, and a lame first date move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Jan 20241h 18min

January is slowly trudging on and J&J are already counting down to one month from now–the Worst Day Of The Year. As Jared’s next birthday creeps closer, he’s finally feeling age catch up with him. Then, a listener has a philosophical question made for the U Up? Podcast: what is “the ick” and where does it come from? The episode ends with an email about a Hinge match that went from interesting to way too intense in a matter of messages, and we have the DMs to prove it. J&J read the messages and have a request for the listener's match. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Jan 202439min

This week, J&J are coming in hot with a debate on the difference between “seeing” someone and “dating” someone. They put dating stages on a scale of 10 and, as the singleton of the studio, Jared calls it like he sees it. Next, the first emailer is preparing to meet someone from her boyfriend’s past and needs help on how to deal. But, should someone he slept with once before they met even matter? The Awkward Encounter involves a red flag revelation of a first date’s past. Then, another listener needs some clarity on dating etiquette. Is it customary to watch what you order when you aren’t the one paying, or is your date’s spending none of your concern? The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about kissing on the first date, men following thousands of women on Instagram, and texting patterns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Jan 20241h 41min

It’s un-cuffing season and we’re talking all about whether or not it’s time break up. J&J start with a preview of their upcoming travel plans — milestone birthdays and wedding speeches are already in the works — followed by a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a hot moment gone cold. Then, they hear from a 27-year-old listener who’s concerned that she and her boyfriend are less and less involved in each other’s lives after 7 years together. Is it a case of the seven-year itch, or should their differences be taken as signs that they should break up? Jared and Jordana put themselves in her shoes and raise some important points to coax her out of her own head. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Jan 202434min

J&J are back in the studio for their first recording of 2024, starting with a New Year’s Eve recap and their own thoughts on Jared’s post-date episode. They hear from a listener who is five years into a dead-end relationship and in need of a breakup plan. How do you spot a “sunk cost” in your own relationship? The Awkward Encounter is a leftover from the holidays, featuring a cringe-inducing moment with a guy and his mother. The next emailer is happy in her relationship, but is having trouble getting “what if’s” about another guy out of her mind. Is there a secret to getting over your own “Mr. Big” when you’re with someone new? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about foot preferences, STD tests, and impatience on a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Jan 20241h 20min

J&J are solving couple's conundrums in today’s Sunday Special. Comedian Rosebud Baker joins the pod and gives a breakdown of the reveal that led to being engaged within 6 months, having COVID while pregnant, and how she always knew her husband would make a good dad. Then, they play a new game called “Couple’s Court” to give ruling on a sleepover issue in a listener’s relationship. They both have the same side of the bed, so isn't it only fair that they trade off when they sleep at each other’s places? The episode ends with an advice email about struggling with the stability of a relationship when you’re used to toxicity. Is it too good to be true, or is our listener settling for what's right rather than what's right for her? Rosebud relates and weighs in with J&J about codependency, healing, and the red flags they see in the email. @rosebudbaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Jan 202445min