035: Can You Cold Plunge Your Way to Better Mental Health? with Wyatt Ewing

In this episode of The Modern Man Podcast, Ted sits down with Jahmaal Marshall, a counselor and podcaster, for a deep and honest conversation about personal growth, burnout, and the power of community. Jahmaal opens up about his journey into podcasting and the lessons he’s learned along the way, emphasizing the importance of stepping into discomfort and building strong support systems. They dive into managing energy, taking time to reflect, and auditing different areas of life to keep growing. Jahmaal also breaks down common self-sabotaging habits, helping listeners understand their deeper reasons. The conversation touches on the transition from a reactive, boyish mindset to a more intentional and strategic way of living. They talk about the real (often unglamorous) work required for long-term success—like facing fears, pushing through resistance, and making tough but necessary changes. Jahmaal also shares insights on avoiding burnout and the wisdom we can learn from nature about time and transformation. Takeaways Embrace discomfort to foster personal growth. Community support is crucial for accountability. Burnout can be managed through energy awareness. Pausing allows for reflection and better decision-making. Auditing your life helps identify areas for improvement. Self-sabotage often stems from deep-rooted beliefs. Understanding your 'why' is key to sustainable change. Small tweaks can lead to significant improvements. Time management is essential for productivity. Healing past traumas is necessary for future success. Monetary success does not equate to spiritual or emotional well-being. Investing time in personal growth can prevent future setbacks. Resistance is a natural part of making significant changes. Vulnerability is essential for true healing and growth. Transitioning from a boy to a man involves strategic thinking. Recognizing patterns in behavior is crucial for change. Course corrections are necessary for achieving goals. Sustainable change often requires unsexy work. Nature teaches us valuable lessons about time and letting go. Healing oneself can prevent others from suffering from your past actions.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 09:29 The Importance of Pausing 17:34 Auditing for Growth 23:13 Identifying Self-Sabotaging Behaviors 29:13 The Importance of Vulnerability and Openness 34:13 Understanding Resistance and Opposition 40:32 The Non-Sexy Work of Sustainable Change 49:10 Lessons from Nature and Time Management   Jahmaal’s Links: Website: listenthenspeak.com LinkedIn: jahmaalmarshall Youtube: Jahmaal Marshall  Podcast: Listen Then Speak   Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights    🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

12 Feb 56min

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6 Feb 6min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Paul Rivera, co-founder of B Act Change. They explore themes of personal growth, the importance of recognizing one's superpower, and the impact of diversity on success. Dr. Rivera shares his journey from academia to international diplomacy, emphasizing the need for community support and mental health awareness, particularly among Black and Brown men. The discussion culminates in a redefinition of the American dream, advocating for a more personalized and meaningful approach to success. In this conversation, Paul Rivera discusses the challenges of effecting change from within organizations, particularly in the context of the U.S. government. He shares personal experiences with imposter syndrome and emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own value and aspirations. The discussion highlights the power of listening, the significance of mental health, and the need to honor the sacrifices of elders while defining success on one's own terms. Practical steps for manifesting dreams are provided, along with insights into the importance of celebrating small wins and recognizing potential in others. Paul reflects on childhood experiences that shaped his understanding of masculinity and the importance of being open and accepting.   Takeaways Embrace discomfort to cultivate community. Recognizing your superpower can lead to personal growth. Diversity in perspective enhances problem-solving abilities. The American dream should be redefined to reflect personal values. Mental health awareness is crucial for marginalized communities. Community support can alleviate feelings of isolation. Success is subjective and should be measured by personal fulfillment. Resilience tools are essential for navigating life's challenges. Articulating one's gifts can lead to monetizing passions. Gratitude for past struggles fosters happiness. It's much more impactful to push change from the outside. Imposter syndrome is common, but you belong where you are. Asking about aspirations can transform conversations. Change lives one at a time by connecting with individuals. Manifestation requires taking action, not just wishing. Allow yourself grace to make mistakes and learn. Celebrate small wins to build resilience. Representation matters; seeing someone like you can inspire change. Defining success on your own terms is crucial. Masculinity can be expressed in many different ways. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 01:05 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Discovery 04:44 Understanding Your Superpower 10:14 The Importance of Diversity in Perspective 16:24 The American Dream: Redefining Success 23:21 Creating a New American Dream 28:01 The Challenge of Effecting Change from Within 29:32 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome 31:16 The Power of Listening and Aspirations 33:52 Breaking Barriers in Mental Health 36:14 Honoring Elders and Defining Success 39:58 Practical Steps to Manifest Your Dreams 45:43 Recognizing Potential in Others 49:00 Childhood Experiences Shaping Masculinity Dr. Paul’s Links: LinkedIn: drpaulrivera Website: beactchange.com Instagram: be.act.change   Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights   🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

5 Feb 59min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, Ted Phaeton speaks with intuitive guide Melissa Le Gette about the importance of inner transformation and understanding the balance between masculine and feminine energies. They explore how early life programming affects adult relationships, the significance of healing wounds, and the dynamics of control and intimacy in partnerships. Melissa shares her journey of working with men and emphasizes the need for men to connect with their inner selves to achieve true freedom and fulfillment. In this conversation, Melissa Le Gette and Ted Phaeton explore the dynamics of relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, boundaries, and understanding masculine and feminine energies. They discuss how to nurture intimacy, the significance of personal growth, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. The dialogue also touches on cultural narratives surrounding masculinity and the need for mutual respect and support in relationships. Takeaways The subconscious realm holds the key to understanding ourselves. Healing the masculine within can lead to deeper connections. Early life programming shapes our beliefs about love and safety. The mother wound often manifests as feelings of unworthiness. Creating space between trigger and response is essential for healing. Men are increasingly seeking support and guidance in their journeys. Intimacy requires trust and respect in relationships. Balancing masculine and feminine energies leads to wholeness. Freedom comes from within, not from external circumstances. Healing is a journey that involves compassion for our past. Communicate your needs clearly in relationships. Setting boundaries is essential for personal growth. Masculine energy provides structure and safety. Feminine energy seeks connection and flow. Intimacy is nurtured through understanding roles. Finding balance involves embracing both masculine and feminine energies. Healing childhood wounds is crucial for personal development. Cultural narratives can shape perceptions of masculinity. Respecting each other's capabilities fosters healthy relationships. Peace comes from within and is a journey of self-awareness. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 05:00 The Shift Towards Working with Men 09:55 Exploring Early Life Programming 15:00 The Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energies 20:09 Navigating Relationships and Control Dynamics 26:05 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics 31:08 Finding Balance and Peace 35:46 Healing from Childhood Wounds   Melissa’s Links: Instagram: melissa_legette  Website: melissalegette.com  Youtube: melissalegette   Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights   🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

29 Jan 50min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton speaks with Clifford Stephan, founder of Booze Vacation, about the impact of alcohol on men's health and performance. Clifford shares his journey with alcohol, the concept of a 'booze vacation', and the health benefits that come from taking a break from drinking. They discuss the competitive edge gained from sobriety, the root causes of alcohol dependency, and how to navigate social and business situations without alcohol. The conversation emphasizes taking responsibility for one's health and making intentional lifestyle changes. In this conversation, Clifford Stephan discusses the profound impact of alcohol on health, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and education regarding alcohol consumption. He introduces the concept of 'Booze Vacation,' a transformative approach to reducing alcohol intake and improving overall well-being. The discussion highlights the necessity of setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, and the positive changes that can occur after taking a break from alcohol. The conversation concludes with reflections on kindness and the fragility of life, encouraging listeners to be mindful of their choices and the effects of alcohol on their health.    Takeaways Clifford's journey with alcohol began in high school and continued into adulthood. The concept of a 'booze vacation' allows for a break from drinking without the pressure of permanent sobriety. Taking a break from alcohol can lead to significant health improvements and better performance. Alcohol can negatively impact sleep quality, hormone regulation, and overall health. Men often ignore health issues until they become serious, similar to ignoring a check engine light. A longer break from alcohol allows for more substantial health gains and personal development. Sobriety can provide a competitive edge in both personal and professional life. Many men have nostalgic ties to drinking, making it difficult to change habits. It's essential to take responsibility for one's health and not blame external factors. Navigating social situations without alcohol is possible and can be reframed as a positive experience. Regular drinking can lead to pre-disease symptoms. Self-advocacy is crucial for maintaining health. Setting boundaries can inspire others to make healthy choices. Taking a break from alcohol can lead to significant health improvements. Knowledge about alcohol's effects empowers better decision-making. Life after a booze vacation can be refreshing and enlightening. It's important to connect the dots between alcohol and health issues. Being kind to oneself and others is essential in life's journey. Alcohol can tax many bodily systems, leading to long-term health issues. Making lifestyle changes can eliminate the need for medications.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 01:21 Clifford's Journey with Alcohol 06:52 The Concept of a 'Booze Vacation' 11:16 Health Benefits of Taking a Break from Alcohol 13:27 The Competitive Edge of Sobriety 17:32 Root Causes of Alcohol Dependency 19:29 Navigating Business and Social Life Without Alcohol 20:00 Understanding the Impact of Alcohol on Health 23:13 The Importance of Self-Advocacy and Boundaries 26:00 Boo's Vacation: Transforming Lives Through Alcohol Awareness 30:06 Life After a Boo's Vacation: A New Perspective 31:50 Connecting the Dots: Knowledge is Power 34:11 Final Thoughts: Life Lessons and Kindness   Clifford’s Links: Website - boozevacation.com LinkedIn - cliffordstephan TikTok - cliffordstephan1 Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights   🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

22 Jan 43min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton welcomes renowned matchmaker Gina Hendrix to discuss the complexities of modern dating, particularly for high-profile men. They explore the challenges men face in finding genuine love, the misconceptions surrounding matchmaking, and the importance of self-awareness and communication in relationships. Gina shares her journey into matchmaking, the significance of profile optimization for dating apps, and how emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in personal connections. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to be open to help and to trust the process of finding love. In this conversation, Gina Hendrix, an ethical concierge matchmaker, discusses the intricacies of modern dating, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of ethical matchmaking. She shares insights on streamlining the dating process, the challenges men and women face in finding meaningful relationships, and the significance of being open and vulnerable in love. Through success stories and personal anecdotes, Gina emphasizes the need for genuine connections and the value of being hopeful in the dating landscape.   Takeaways Access is everything in love and dating. Dating apps complicate the dating landscape. Men often overlook their need for help in dating. Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth. Feedback from dates is essential for improvement. Professional success does not guarantee personal success. Vulnerability is key in personal relationships. Communication is vital in maintaining relationships. Matchmaking is not just for the wealthy; it's for those seeking genuine connection. Trust the process when seeking help in dating. Streamlining the dating process saves time and effort. Honorable intentions are crucial in matchmaking. The cost of hiring a matchmaker can be less than divorce. Ethics play a significant role in matchmaking. Dating apps have changed the perception of dating options. Women often seek men at their level of success. Men need to be aware of their dating approach. Being open and vulnerable is key to finding love. Success stories often come from being open to the process. Maintaining hope and positivity is essential in dating. Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Teasing the Episode 01:14 - Meet Gina Hendrix: The Matchmaker 02:45 - Challenges in Modern Dating 03:50 - The Journey to Matchmaking 07:22 - Understanding the Need for Help 09:51 - Profile Optimization for Success 12:44 - Misconceptions About Matchmaking 15:40 - The Search for Genuine Connection 19:05 - Bridging Professional Success and Personal Life 21:44 - Making the Most of Matchmaking Services 24:22- Streamlining the Dating Process 30:48 - Navigating Modern Dating Challenges 35:01 - The Impact of Dating Apps 41:11 - Success Stories in Matchmaking 46:20 - Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts   Gina’s Links:  Website: ginahendrix.com Facebook: ginamatchmaker  TikTok: matchmakerginahendrix  Youtube: ginahendrix5879  Instagram: matchmakerginahendrix  LinkedIn: ginahendrix  Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights    🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

15 Jan 53min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton speaks with Thomas J. LaGrave Jr., a licensed clinical social worker and former Navy SEAL, about his journey from addiction to recovery and his dedication to empowering youth. LaGrave shares his experiences working with adolescents, their challenges, and the importance of humility and connection in mentorship. He emphasizes the need for adults to support and guide the younger generation, addressing mental health issues and the impact of technology on youth. The conversation highlights the significance of community, the role of family, and the tools necessary for fostering resilience and growth in young people. Takeaways The journey from addiction to recovery can inspire others. Humility is essential in personal growth and helping others. Youth today face unprecedented challenges, including mental health issues. Building connections with youth requires consistency and trust. Failure is a necessary part of growth and learning. Family support is crucial for adolescents navigating adulthood. Technology can be both a tool and a distraction for youth. Fairy tales and imagination are vital for personal development. Mentorship can change lives and empower the next generation. Adults must actively engage with youth to understand their needs. Chapters 00:20 - Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 06:06 - From Rock Bottom to Recovery 14:08 - Transitioning from Military to Social Work 19:21 - 9-8-8: Suicide Crisis Helpline 23:48 - Challenges Faced by Adolescents 31:23 - Building Connections with Youth 38:17 - A Message to the Older Generations   Thomas’ Links:  site: thehonorboundacademy.org  Book: Special Welfare Social Warfare  LinkedIn: @tjlagravejr   Instagram: @thomasjlagravejr    Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: If you need emotional support, reach out to the national mental health hotline: Call, Text, or Chat 988 Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights    🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

8 Jan 48min

In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton speaks with Joe Smarro, a decorated Marine Corps veteran and mental health advocate. Joe shares his troubled upbringing, including experiences of childhood abuse and the challenges he faced as a young father. He discusses his journey through military service and law enforcement, ultimately leading him to focus on mental health advocacy. Joe emphasizes the importance of connection, compassion, and personal growth while addressing the need for better mental health training within law enforcement.  The conversation highlights the significance of taking ownership of one's life and the power of vulnerability in fostering genuine connections. In this conversation, Joe Smarro and Ted Phaeton explore the intricate relationship between law enforcement and communities, emphasizing the need for trust and understanding. Joe shares his journey from a fearful police officer to a compassionate public servant, highlighting the importance of empathy and connection in de-escalation tactics. They discuss the challenges of entrepreneurship, the significance of quality time in parenting, and the necessity of self-care for better relationships. Joe also introduces his book 'Unarmed', which focuses on communication and compassion in law enforcement, and shares personal experiences that shaped his views on behavior and understanding.   Takeaways Joe's troubled childhood shaped his mission to help others. Military service provided a path for Joe amidst challenges. Mental health advocacy is crucial for first responders. Gratitude can emerge from painful experiences. Choosing a life of intention leads to personal growth. Connection and compassion are vital in crisis intervention. Self-love is essential for authentic living. Training in human skills is necessary for law enforcement. Curiosity fosters connection and understanding. Vulnerability can lead to deeper relationships. The geographical differences in communities require tailored approaches. Building trust takes time and consistent positive interactions. Empathy can transform how we perceive threats in law enforcement. Public service should focus on uplifting communities, not just enforcing laws. Entrepreneurship comes with unique challenges that require adaptability. Quality time with children is more impactful than quantity. Self-care is essential for being present in relationships. Effective communication is key to de-escalation and understanding behavior. All human behavior communicates a message that needs to be understood. Choosing oneself is crucial for being able to support others. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 05:04 The Journey to Mental Health Advocacy 10:07 Choosing a Path of Intention and Growth 17:09 The Disconnect Between Advice and Action 23:59 Transforming Crisis Intervention in Law Enforcement 30:15 Building Trust Between Communities and Law Enforcement 35:28 The Importance of Quality Time in Parenting 41:58 The Power of Connection and Communication 51:49 Understanding Behavior Through Compassion   Joe Smarro’s Links:  Instagram: @joesmarro Facebook: joseph.smarro.754 Website: www.joesmarro.com Website: solutionpointplus.com Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: If you need emotional support, reach out to the national mental health hotline: Call, Text or Chat 988 988lifeline.org Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook   ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights   🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow  Subscribe to our YouTube channel:  The Modern Man

1 Jan 1h 1min