127. Removing Shame and Shedding Limiting Beliefs: How Core Wounds Can Unlock Healing

Welcome to Zimmerman Podcast Episode 127 Before I had moved back to my hometown of Conway, Arkansas, over a year ago, I had some unspoken expectations of what I thought my life would look like when I returned. In my effort to see the best in every situation, I’d imagined some specific moments and memories I wanted to create. After being back for a few months, I started noticing this creeping feeling that those moments and memories… weren’t going to be my reality. I had put my hope in this version of life back in my hometown that would make returning “worth it,” and when that didn’t come to fruition, I felt stuck, a little hopeless, and more than a little devastated. It was that shame + limiting belief spiral coming back to bite me. How am I still dealing with these same issues, I wondered. I thought I had looked through everything. I had peeled back layers. I had done some major healing. For a year. And that’s when I woke up to the real cause– and purpose– of these wounded cycles we inflict upon ourselves. Each of us has some core wounds we internalize in childhood. They’re not always the result of bad parents or abusive situations or neglect, although they can be. They can also be interactions with friends, teachers, coaches, and strangers. Core wounds are more than just general shame or limiting beliefs. It’s an insult or situation or feeling that starts as a one-time thing, but then we start seeing it confirmed time and time again. It’s not a passing feeling that we are bad, but a wounding that changes how we behave going forward that only confirms our deepest fears about ourselves and causes us to act in ways that continue to prove that fear to be true. Once we internalize those core wounds, throughout our lives we “call in” scenarios that confirm the story we tell ourselves about ourselves. Because even if the message we’ve internalized isn’t kind or loving, seeing it confirmed feels familiar, which can be mistaken for comfort. If we don’t heal from these childhood wounds, we spend our adulthoods recreating them. Do you see this playing out in your own life? Find out more during today’s podcast. EPISODE 127 TOPICS: - Each of us has some core wounds we internalize in childhood. Core wounds are more than just general shame or limiting beliefs. - Soulmate relationships – those where you can see and be seen as you truly are – showed the lesson I was missing, the core wounds I still had all wrapped up in abandonment. - The good life is a life of unconditional love and that doesn’t happen until we first and foremost love ourselves unconditionally, until we can live out of our true identity. LINKS: THE PATH BACK TO YOU My brand new course, The Path Back to You isn't about starting over, but starting again, on a path that will return you to yourself. For the past few years, I’ve been on this journey of rediscovery, and it has changed everything. So here’s my invitation– learn to feel at home in your skin again. Just for my podcast listeners, use code PATH15 for 15% off. Join me, on The Path Back to You. jessicazimmerman.com/the-path-back-to-you-course My Ted Talk: www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Z_ax0vCBUw My Best Selling Memoir, Sleeping with a Stranger: jessicazimmerman.com/sleeping-with-a-stranger