238. High functioning codependency and caring too much ft. Terri Cole

We often think the secret to not being passive in our lives is to fill up our days, set countless goals, always be striving for progress and productivity. What if we told you the secret was slowing down? In today's episode I am joined by Caroline and Ann Catherine from Girls with Goals as we discuss:  What it beens to be passive vs. active vs. intentional How to create momentum  Why big, long term goals aren't the secret to success  How to develop a healthier relationship with yourself and your spare time Follow Girls with Goals here: @girlswithgoalspod Find Girls with Goals wherever you get your podcasts.  Follow Jemma here: @jemmasbeg  Follow the podcast here: @thatpsychologypodcast   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Maj 202439min

In today's episode we're going old school, back to a good old fashioned chatty sit down episode and life update. I have been recovering from a pretty terrible bout of tonsilitis and it's made me realise...I have a toxic relationship with productivity. Even when I'm sick I can't slow down, and I don't think I'm alone.  We also discuss how I'm finding living alone, a little relationship update and how it feels to have finished my book! All that and more, listen now!    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Maj 202433min

How can you tell if you're codependent or just really close to someone? If you are enmeshed or just reliant on their support? Feeling happy and stable in a loving relationship, or losing your independence? There are a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings when it come to codependent relationships, especially in our 20s and in today's episode we break down all you need to know and more, including:  The roots of codependency in childhood and attachment theory Signs of codependency  Codependency v. dependency  How to heal your need for intensity and trauma bonding  Healing and restoring a codependent bond  Listen now! Today's episode is a rerun of Episode 69 whilst Jemma is recovering from a sudden illness. New episodes will be back on Friday, happy listening.    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Maj 202439min

So many of us are struggling to stay focused and concentrate in an environment of constant distraction and temptation and it's causing a lot of us to feel unproductive and undisciplined. In today's episode we break down why our attention spans seem to be rapidly declining, we discuss:  The Gold Fish myth The average attention span from 2004-2017  The impact of short form content The impact of COVID lockdowns Overstimulation and rising ADHD diagnoses  Attentional cycles and our circadian rhythm  Tips for regaining your focus + social media rules  Listen now to reclaim your focus and concentration and reverse your declining attention span.  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Maj 202446min

Attachment theory is often misunderstood but when we have the correct knowledge and information it can transform how we relate to others. In today's episode we break down one of these styles, the avoidant attachment, along with it's two components: avoidant dismissive and avoidant fearful. We discuss how this style develops, its expression, the difference in prevalence and behaviours between men and women and how we can move forward and heal an avoidant pattern.  We are joined in today's episode by Thais Gibson, the founder of The Personal Development School and expert in attachment theory. Unlock your free trial using this link: www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow Thais and The Personal Development School on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Maj 202440min

We have a lot of opportunities to feel behind in our 20s, especially when it comes to our careers, our finances and our relationships. In todays episode we break down why so many of us (roughly 80% of 20 something year olds) feeling like we're falling short of expectations, as well as how we can manage these feelings and enjoy our path through life without comparing it to someone others. We discuss: The competitiveness of this generation The wunderkind phenomena  Career anxiety and starting over  Relationship and dating inexperience  The pandemic skip  How to feel more sure of your own path and progress  AND, we hear from you, the listeners, about your experiences. Listen now!  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

3 Maj 202455min

We have found some pretty amazing ways to observe human behaviour and from it, discovered some especially interesting things about how we operate, who we are at our core, our irrational beliefs and so much more. In today's episode, we break down five of my favourite psychology studies of all time from jam, to mental escapism and binge watching TV, how many friends we actually need, the healing power of nature and the origins of imposter syndrome. Listen now!  Study One: The Stanford Jam Experiment https://faculty.washington.edu/jdb/345/345%20Articles/Iyengar%20%26%20Lepper%20(2000).pdf Study Two: In your 20s it's quantity, in your 30s its quality  https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-10764-001  Study Three: Loneliness, Escapism, and Identification With Media Characters  https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.785970/full  Study Four: The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women https://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdf  Study Five: Effects of Coastal Environment on Well-being  https://www.walshmedicalmedia.com/open-access/effects-of-the-coastal-environment-on-wellbeing-jczm-1000421.pdf    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

30 Apr 202436min

Finding the joy in your own company is one of the most healing, rewarding and fulfilling things we can do. It's also really difficult in an age of FOMO, constant distraction, stimulation and fear of boredom or loneliness. In today's episode we break down exactly why you need to fall back in love with your alone time, the amazing benefits and HOW to do it. Listen now!  Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

26 Apr 202433min