37. Choosing What You Need And Not What You Want

Why do people get into relationships when they’re not ready to be loyal? And why are those they cheat on oftentimes ready to give them second and third chances? In this episode, Alex and Jon discuss a cheating partner wanting to come home, how a wife plans to get back at the woman her husband cheated with, when being best friends with the opposite sex goes too far, and real expectations about those honeymoon stage feelings. Submit your questions here! (0:00) Intro (13:32) Is there compromise when it comes to kinks? (14:43) To pursue or not to pursue (17:07) Getting healthier starts with taking that first step (19:41) Clear your search history or don’t lie (25:35) The grass isn’t always greener (30:29) Taking back your cheating husband but make it petty (32:34) Can you learn to trust again? (35:07) Why does your boyfriend has sleepovers with his female best friend? (38:19) You’ve found religion but your partner hasn’t (45:09) The honeymoon stage won’t last forever (49:44) Stuck in the gray area (52:56) Icks (57:10) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Aug 202359min

Is it ever OK to keep secrets from your partner? Can you leave out specific details and still be telling the truth? In this episode, Jon and Alex get into topics about dealing with your family inviting your ex fiancé to family events, a husband who pleasures himself for hours a day, the reality of emotional cheating, ignoring your husband’s red flags, and a workplace secret that could shatter marriages and friendships. Submit your questions here! (0:00) Intro (12:26) What is your post-sex routine? (14:47) Is it OK to tell a total stranger they’ve got boogers in their nose? (16:19) Yes, you’re the asshole (18:39) Should your family be inviting your ex fiancé to family events? (21:47) Your husband’s boss is cheating and the wife is your best friend, what do you do? (28:14) My husbands plays with himself more than he plays with me (34:24) Do you consider emotional cheating betrayal? (37:14) I swear I’m only on Tinder to boost my low self-esteem (41:31) The truth about adoption can change a family’s dynamic (44:14) I think I have another sibling my dad never told me about (47:37) If you’re committed to someone, stay out of the DMs (52:51) Icks (55:12) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Aug 202357min

What is it about past relationships that makes them so hard to let go of? Is there ever a time where it’s acceptable to stay in touch with your ex after you’ve moved on to a new relationship? In this episode, Alex and Jon answer listener questions about the cheating past of a woman’s late husband, giving up your best friend because your girlfriend doesn’t like that she’s a woman, finding out your spouse had a fling with a mutual friend, a cheating partner who can’t shake his old habits, and a twisted love triangle among friends. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (11:42) Is it wrong to fantasize about other people when you’re committed to someone? (15:18) If you’re not fighting are you really even in a relationship? (17:19) My late husband cheated on me and now I’m dating one of his friends (19:50) Should you have to give up your best friend because your girlfriend doesn’t like that it’s a woman? (22:11) What are the rules for attending an exes funeral? (25:42) Would you be bothered if your spouse had a previous fling with someone you know? (30:01) The ex that seems to never go away (32:26) Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? (37:07) Now this is a love triangle (42:53) When the crazy ex is actually crazy (50:11) Mourning your late boyfriend (53:48) Icks (59:16) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Aug 20231h

You can’t always get what you want in relationships, you have to learn to work together and compromise.  But what happens when one partner can’t remove their own self interests for the good of the relationship?  In this episode, Jon and Alex tackle questions about setting boundaries with your own family after marriage, a husbands kink not working for his wife, the mental toll being a teacher takes on a person, opening your marriage to same-sex partners only, and how to deal with your best friends new girlfriend who has some hoe tendencies. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (08:02) So Jon, What Are Your Thoughts On Alex Being The Social, Talkative Half Of The Marriage? (10:03) When You Live In The Same Town As Your Family, You Must Have Boundaries (12:47) Can Your Partners Extreme Kink Be Too Much For You To Handle? (15:55) The Struggles Of Being A Teacher (18:00) I Love Dogs, I Just Don’t Love My Girlfriends Dog (21:27) Is It Possible To Remain Close To Your Exes Parents With Your New Boyfriend? (26:11) An Open Marriage With A Twist (30:23) Coparenting Is Hard Enough Without A Jealous Boyfriend (33:27) Maintaining Friendships After Moving Out Of Town (37:03) Everyone Understands Personal Space Except Mother In Laws (42:53) My Best Friends Girlfriend Gives Off Serious Hoe Vibes (46:12) Icks (50:38) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Aug 202351min

Many of us might question why our relationships’ initial butterflies and excitement seem to fade over time. Is it a sign of complacency? Or is this just normal? In this episode, Alex and Jon take on listener questions about finances in a relationship, whether or not you come clean about cheating when your partner already knows, missing out on your hoe phase, and dealing with in-laws who are borderline body shaming your spouse. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (10:34) Are Finances A Taboo Topic? (12:44) I’ve Been Unfaithful But Don’t Want To Lose My Boyfriend (16:58) The Ups And Downs Of A Long Engagement (21:10) My Boyfriend Isn’t The Same Person That I Fell In Love With (26:26) So You Never Had A Hoe Phase (31:42) Are Steady, Secure Relationships Lame? (35:35) The Impact Of The Pandemic On Your Relationship (39:37) I’m Ready To Settle Down, But I’m Not Ready To Settle Down (42:47) Is Giving Out Your Number Always A Hard No If You’re Committed? (46:25) How Do You Handle In Laws Who Are Getting Too Personal? (50:59) Icks (54:02) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Juli 202355min

Weddings are full of fun, celebrations, and most of all….opinions.  Unsolicited advice from family can make the already stressful wedding planning process even worse.  In this episode, Jon and Alex talk through the struggles of dating in your 30s, the best way to motivate your partner, dealing with a sister who has wedding entitlement, asking why you didn’t get a +1 to the wedding, and when your first love comes back into the picture after 8 years. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (18:03) Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy (20:35) What’s The Best Way To Motivate Your Partner? (24:43) Dating In Your 30s Is Hard (26:12) Are There Rules For Picking Your Groomsmen? (29:49) What Her Fiancé Doesn’t Know Won’t Hurt Him, Right? (33:15) Wedding Entitlement Is A Real Thing And It’s A Problem (37:29) Learn To Take A Joke (41:11) Grandmas And Weddings  (44:52) Why Didn’t I Get A +1? (48:49) Icks (52:24) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Juli 202353min

There’s a fine line between knowing whether to speak up or if you should keep your thoughts to yourself.  No matter the road you choose to take, the consequences of that decision can have a lasting impact on even the strongest of relationships.  In this episode, Alex and Jon take on questions about not standing up to your parents when it comes to the love of your life, navigating a relationship with a controlling boyfriend, the trouble with a workplace romance, and how to deal with a 7 year old secret that finally comes to light and threatens the trust of a marriage. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (10:31) Can you get the spark back? (13:17) Is it a bad sign when your wife stops sharing her location? (17:44) Are you required to like your partner’s friends? (19:44) Sex is a team sport, everyone needs to finish (28:02) My parents opinion is the reason I ended things (34:53) Is my boyfriend trying to control my life? (39:20) I told my sister she can do better and now I’m the bad person (41:40) When do your neighbors’ arguments become a safety concern for you? (46:24) I left my relationship for a coworker and now he won’t leave his (50:14) Can a secret from 7 years ago instantly end your marriage? (57:01) Icks (1:02:11) Listener Review Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Juli 20231h 4min

Why do people do things they know are wrong and then try to rationalize their actions?  In this episode, Jon and Alex examine the consequences of a partner knowingly crossing the line with another man, the problem with flirting in the workplace, how jealousy can put an irreparable rift between you and your partner, and when your best friend’s husband goes from liking your photos to getting physical. Submit your questions here! (00:00) Intro (10:26) Saving Money When Planning Your Wedding (13:33) Balancing Different Sleep Schedules (16:04) So When Are You Having Kids? (18:41) Dealing With The Neighbors Terrible Kids (22:30) Inviting An Old FWB To A Family Funeral Isn’t A Good Idea (27:02) How Do You Tell Your BFF That Her Husband Is Coming On To You? (30:24) Is Flirting In The Workplace Harmless? (37:42) Jealousy Will Be The End Of Your Relationship (41:46) Is It Ever Ok To Give Your Number To A Guy If You’re Engaged? (51:13) You Could At Least Get My Name Right (53:23) Icks Visit our website www.giveittomestraightpodcast.com Visit our other website www.alexjon.com Find us on Instagram! Podcast Alex Jon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Juli 202358min