137 | How to recognise and break free from the lies we tell ourselves at work, with Emma Djemil

Are there lies you're telling yourself at work that feel like cold, hard facts? Whether it's believing you don't deserve a promotion, thinking you're not qualified enough to apply for a different role, feeling guilty about taking time off because everyone "needs" you, prioritising colleagues above your own wellbeing, striving for unrealistic perfection, or feeling you need to be available 24/7 to be seen as an effective HR professional – these self-imposed beliefs can significantly impact your career progress and wellbeing.

In this episode of HR Coffee Time, host Fay Wallis is joined by Emma Djemil to help you identify and challenge these unhelpful beliefs that might be holding you back in your HR career.

Chapters from This Episode

[00:00] Introduction and Overview

[03:30] Meet Emma Djemil

[05:46] Common Lies in HR: Availability Equals Value

[08:29] Proving Your Worth in HR

[12:43] Recognising and Challenging Self-Lies

[17:11] Understanding Deep-Rooted Fears

[17:46] Challenging the Fear of Unavailability

[19:21] Recognising and Addressing Mistruths

[21:20] Empowerment Through Self-Questioning

[25:25] The Power of Internal Validation

[29:26] Book Recommendation and Wrap Up

[32:09] Final Thoughts and Farewell

Useful Links

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• Fay’s website: Bright Sky Career Coaching
• Connect with Emma Djemil on LinkedIn
• Emma’s HR Club
• Emma’s annual event: The HR Big Meet

Other Relevant HR Coffee Time Episodes

HR Coffee Time Podcast Playlist: Build Your Confidence

Book Recommendation From the Episode

• ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’ – Susan Jeffers
• ‘The Fix: How to Overcome the Invisible Barriers That Are Holding Women Back at Work’ – Michelle P. King
• All the book recommendations that have been given on HR Coffee Time

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You can find the transcript on this page of the Bright Sky Career Coaching website.

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