1084: Dad's Kindness Flows But Her Instability Grows | Feedback Friday

You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? We'll cover this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/430 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How Essentialism author Greg McKeown uses the 80/20 rule (aka Pareto principle) to get more done in less time -- and why Jordan is pretty minimal with his posting on social media. You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? You've had to fire and sue a general contractor who bilked you on a house renovation, and now you're forced to live in expensive, short term rentals while you find someone reliable to finish the job. How do you keep your sanity and identity intact while languishing in limbo? A friend with whom you reconnected has been diagnosed with depression, but would rather keep rehashing the same conversations with you rather than seek professional therapy. How can you bow out of your unintentional counseling role so she can get the help she really needs?  You were recently selected by your company for “reverse mentoring” -- a program that connects senior-level managers with younger and less experienced employees in order to exchange fresh perspectives. Your mentee will be the CEO of the company. How do you make this unique opportunity valuable for both of you? You've been strengthening your network thanks to following our free Six-Minute Networking exercises, and now you've been getting clients for your new photography business. After doing one freebie for exposure, how do you start charging what you're worth? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Nov 202052min

Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What's Essential podcast and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, which challenges core assumptions about achievement (e.g., “more is better”) to get to the essence of what really drives success — on one’s own terms. What We Discuss with Greg McKeown: Essentialism: the antidote to the problems of feeling busy but not productive, stretched too thin in one area of life, and fulfilling the agendas of others but not our own. Learn how to live by design, not by default. Find out how to say “no” effectively without getting in trouble at home — or fired. Discover how to set hard boundaries between work and play. Learn why folks who are originally very good at essentialism can end up ruining their career and their sanity by letting these boundaries slip over time. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/429 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Nov 202053min

Jenny Radcliffe (@Jenny_Radcliffe) of Human Factor Security is an ethical social engineer hired to smash security measures using psychology, con-artistry, subliminal linguistics, cunning, and guile. She is also the host of award-winning podcast The Human Factor. What We Discuss with Jenny Radcliffe: How a childhood incident that took place in '70s Liverpool led to Jenny's resolution that she would never again allow herself to be helpless against bad people. What a thrilling break-in to the local zoo's lion exhibit in the middle of the night and an accidental sleepover in a mortuary with a dead body taught Jenny about the illusion of security. How breaking into places to test security for people went from being a side hustle (with assignments that may or may not have been legitimate or free of life-risking consequences) to Jenny's main calling. The strange, supernatural-seeming things someone might experience while alone in massive buildings after hours or asylums abandoned to the elements. What it was like to track people before the Internet, how social media made Jenny's job exponentially easier, and what you can do to protect yourself against being tracked. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/428 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Nov 20201h 9min

Your sister's new boyfriend is a flag-waving neo-Nazi who admires what Hitler did for "his people and country." And even though she insists he's somehow one of those rare non-racist neo-Nazis, she herself has cut off contact with previously close Black and Jewish friends. How do you help her see why all of this is so wrong and counter to your inclusive upbringing? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/427 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 6th, 13th, 20th, and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab live! "If a decision is reversible, the biggest risk is moving too slow. If a decision is irreversible, the biggest risk is moving too fast." -James Clear How do you get your sister to see why dating her new neo-Nazi boyfriend and alienating her formerly close Jewish and Black friends is wrong on so many levels? You're about to become an officer in the US Navy, but you're worried your commitment to teetotaling will ruin your chances of bonding with your shipmates. How can you balance your desire to abstain with the need for a social life on board? You're honored to be the best man at your friend's wedding, but you're not too keen on going to the planned bachelor party in the middle of a pandemic. How can you get out of it without jeopardizing your friendship forever? You've been reconnecting with old friends and colleagues thanks to the exercises in our free Six-Minute Networking course, but is there a good way to recommend the course without giving away the fact that it's why you started reaching out to them in the first place? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Nov 202047min

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi: The joke Anthony told to distract the bodyguard of an African drug lord he was sent to dispose of in Nigeria. How young Anthony came to the startling discovery that his father wasn't a longshoreman, but an assassin in the mob. Why Anthony likes animals a lot more than he likes people. What happened to people in Anthony's organization who unwisely brought attention to their part in the infamous Lufthansa heist by overspending. The code by which Anthony lived, the lines even he would never cross in his business, and why he left that world behind. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/426 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Nov 202055min

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone. What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi: What was the Black Hand, and how did it differ from what we think of today as the Mafia? The many creative ways mobsters have gotten rid of bodies over the years. How Anthony's father taught him to deal with a bully in Catholic school without getting smacked around by the nuns -- or going to jail. What it was like for Anthony to have an Uncle Lucky Luciano to hang out with as a kid. Why sometimes you've just got to kill a Pope when your grandfather tells you to. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/425 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Nov 20201h 4min

Your dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays? We'll tackle this (from a distance) and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/424 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 6th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab! Ever experience something you can't explain and wonder if you're losing control of your mental faculties? Jordan's got a story about that... Your visiting dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward, and then touch everything in your house. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays? You've always been interested in becoming a mental health therapist, but life coach might be as fulfilling a career without the time/money investment. But how can you ensure you're the real deal and legitimately helping people? A friend in your group is difficult, loud, and rude, with zero social skills. The solution might seem to just cut her out of your life, but you've known each other since kindergarten and you know doing so would devastate her. So what should you do? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Okt 202054min

Celeste Headlee (@CelesteHeadlee) is the host of On Second Thought at Georgia Public Broadcasting in Atlanta and has been a host and correspondent for NPR and PRI since 2006. She is the author of We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter. What We Discuss with Celeste Headlee: Why listening in the right way is the key to improving what you have to say. Ways to correct the bad advice you’ve picked up about having good conversations. How we can put our cognitive biases in check. What it takes to have productive disagreements instead of shouting matches. Surprising ways your smartphone affects the quality of your conversations — even if it’s off. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/423 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Okt 20201h 2min