722: Why you want to market to qualified people

Friends, many of you have listened to this podcast for many years. You’ve listened to me dig into the stories and messages of over 200 of our world’s most profound and important influencers in the self-help space. You listened as I hosted The Ziglar Show and went from 50,000 listeners to over 300,000, then as we transitioned to the Self-Helpful show and grew to over 600,000 listeners. We’ve had over 60 million downloads and are ranked in the top 1.5% of all podcasts on the planet. ⁣ ⁣ So first…thank you. Along the way of this journey, you’ve heard some of my own story and much of my own perspective on self-help. With the size of my audience I had been approached about writing a book, but it wasn’t until a couple years ago I felt driven…to actually write one. What Drives You: How to Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth in Work and Life, published by McGraw Hill, releases May 10, 2023 on Amazon, and you can pre-order now. ⁣ ⁣ While it’s popular to offer bonuses and incentives to pre-order, because it helps with Amazon rankings, I’m going to refrain for now. At the end of the day, the bonus is you find something in the book that elevates your experience of…everything. Of life at large. ⁣ ⁣ In this episode I’m going to briefly tell you what the book is intended to offer you. I give big focus to two primary myths we have about drive. Then I lead you through the key areas of life, the same ones I lead every guest through, and guide you to creating healthy and strong drive in each area. A great premise to the book is the endorsement on the back cover from Jordan Harbinger, host of the Jordan Harbinger Show which often ranks in the top 50 of all podcasts in America, ⁣"Everyone is enamored with habits, but having good habits assumes you have the core motives and drive to create, implement, and sustain them. What Drives You is really the prequel to habits, as it helps you establish your why, which is what actually drives what you will and won't ever do.⁣ This book should be required reading for anyone desiring to actually improve themselves." You can go find What Drives You by me, Kevin Miller, on Amazon right now, and for insight on the book, stay tuned and I’ll give you a tutorial on what you can expect to gain from it. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Apr 202319min

In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we feeling about us? How are we feeling about the person we are about to approach? What are we wanting from the interaction?  I’m back with Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. As you heard us cover in part one, friendships are, or can be, our life source. Here we continue the conversation as I walk with her through her Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment.  It’s on the topic of relationships where Laura cites she works to connect with herself before she can connect with others. We dig into that, and cover other subjects. Spiritually Laura talks about coming to Christianity, and today fully embracing Jesus, but not the religion of Christianity, which I sure can relate to.  Her health and wellness is a challenge and she shares how she came to a place and realized she’d lived her entire life from the neck up, and really has to work at caring for her body, as she cares for her mind.  Regarding mindset I asked Laura where she needs to watch out most, and she said she can tend to “Catastrophize” everything. On an interesting note, her husband Jeff is a television and film director, producer, and screenwriter and is best known for co-creating the reality stunt show Jackass with Spike Jonze and Johnny Knoxville.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Apr 20231h 21min

We all know relationships are ultimately what we desire most. This is where we get the most happiness and fulfillment. Yet we generally don’t make friendships a priority, and as you’re about to hear, there is a high chance you have been doing friendships…wrong. This episode is intended to give you a new perspective on how to look at friendships, and go about them, and get clear on what you are hoping to get from them. ⁣ ⁣ My guest is Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her new book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention. ⁣ ⁣ I appreciate Laura’s focus on women, but I recognized the need for this message on Friends is relevant to everyone. To me. My primary interest that you’ll hear us dive into is how we tend to put way too much pressure on one or two friendships, like our spouse or a best friend, and a main point of Laura’s book is how our relational needs are meant to be filled by multiple friendships. ⁣ ⁣ But another significant topic we cover is what friendship is really supposed to be about. It’s not just for fun and support, but literal guidance and counsel, and few of us are allowing friendships to be this for us. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Apr 20231h 20min

We all spend a lot of time listening to wise counsel. Getting guidance. Gleaning great information and trying to apply it to our lives. Sometimes however, what is most inspiring is simply to hear from others on the same journey we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which is ultimately, hopeful. ⁣ ⁣ I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “What area of your health do you feel good about and what area do you not?” What followed were many personal testimonies of strengths and weaknesses in everyone’s personal wellness pursuit. ⁣ ⁣ Some of the deficits and struggles cited and discussed were on the topics of hydration, weight, exercise, alcohol, and more. We also delved into more complex issues of cholesterol, biotoxin illness, chronic fatigue, mental health and the all encompassing reality that the answers for our individual health are just that…very, very individual. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Apr 202357min

In our series on stoicism, I kept coming back to the aspect of control. Controlling our emotions. Controlling our reactions. Controlling our internal world so as to not be controlled by the outer world. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a valid perspective, but then I was reminded that I don’t actually want control any more than I want money. I just want what money can hopefully buy. Likewise, I just want what control can hopefully afford me. And the word that surfaced was…harmony. ⁣ ⁣ I often find myself saying I want peace, but I struggle with that sounding like I just want life to be easy and stress free, which is not the case. I want the trials and challenges that are so fulfilling to overcome. I want the hero story. But within the ups and down, I want to feel a balance and a rhythm I understand, which is what harmony is. ⁣ ⁣ A definition of harmony I greatly appreciate is, an interweaving of different accounts into a single narrative. Our daily life in this world is made up of different accounts of so many things. The stoic way of life is a life devoted to a commitment to a single narrative amongst all those accounts. ⁣ ⁣ But don’t get caught up in the word stoic. It is an example of a clarified and committed mindset and way of life. You don’t have to give it a name, but to find success you will want to decide upon your own way of life and have it clearly defined. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit, alongside Tom Ziglar. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Apr 202318min

What’s the difference between a hero and a villain? Virtue. Which is defined as, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” Having a purpose for good as opposed to evil, or even just others as opposed to self alone. We love the character who is resolute upon doing the right thing and seeing it through no matter what. ⁣ ⁣ We spend billions of dollars on superhero stories that depict this. People didn’t tear up at the end of The Avengers: Endgame when Ironman dies just because a battle is won. It’s because it was a battle for good. ⁣ ⁣ We’ve been studying stoicism which is based on virtue, and from this, a decided way of life. In truth it’s the rare individual who actually outlines and commits to a clarified way of life. I feel most people want to be good, and at heart, they are. But without intention we go about our days being swayed by the culture and circumstances. ⁣ ⁣ This is part three of my series on Tanner Campbell and his rapidly growing podcast, Practical Stoicism. People are flocking to it and I believe this is why; they are longing for meaning, purpose, and to know what they are about. Stoicism is just that, knowing what you are about. ⁣ ⁣ I invited Tom Ziglar to discuss this with me. Tom is son of Zig Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc., and renowned author, speaker and coach. And my dear friend. The Ziglar way is just that, a decided way of life. One of virtue, honor, trust, and faith. ⁣ ⁣ Right at the beginning Tom quips that after hearing my initial talk with Tanner, he now feels, “He’s a stoic and he didn’t know it.” We talk about living out virtue, faith, religion, self-control, and integrity. Tom also discusses five aspects of trust, which we both believe is our greatest asset. ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Apr 202359min

Each of us is waking up every day and engaging in a “way of life.” It’s either one we’ve chosen, or one we’ve allowed ourselves to fall into. Though in truth, none of us ever lives a perfect day, so we are all then on the spectrum of living how we intentionally want and living at the mercy of our appetites and ignorance. The more aware, decided, and convicted we are to a way of life we uphold and are dedicated to, the more we will fall on the healthier side of the spectrum. ⁣ ⁣ As Tanner Campbell and I discussed at the outset of our initial talk together in episode 1143, stoicism can be said to be a state of mind, but in this episode as we are discussing Tanner’s personal efforts to live a stoic life, we unwrap the pursuit of an aspiring way of life. This is my values, motives and habits episode, part 2 of this series on Tanner Campbell and stoicism. ⁣ ⁣ Tanner Campbell is an American philosopher of Stoicism whose goal is to clear up contemporary miscommunications about Stoicism, with a focus to uphold what virtue is. He shares this daily in his Practical Stoicism podcast which has quickly catapulted to the top podcast rankings. Here Tanner talks through his pursuit of Hierocles concept of “circles of concern” which radiates outward, from family to friends, community, non-human animals, and the environment. ⁣ ⁣ In Tanner’s desire for personal awareness his mantra is asking, “What does this action or thought say about my character,” and “Who can I walk alongside and be helpful to in a meaningful way?” In discussing health and wellness, Tanner cites this area is not his strong suit, but his motive is in asking himself, “If I don’t care about my health, what does it say about my character?” This and more coming up. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Apr 202354min

Ah. The vacation. Or a holiday, depending on where you’re from. It’s supposed to be a term that makes us all smile and feel warm, nostalgic, and hopeful. However, many of you will feel a bit, or a lot, of anxiety at hearing the term. And rightly so. ⁣ ⁣ Vacation has been part of life for a long time to give us a rest from the toil of everyday life. Even if you love your work it is beneficial to get away to rest and recreate. But a listener wrote in recently asking for ideas, as he recently got back from vacation and felt he wasted it. Many of us struggle with needing a vacation from our vacations because they were exciting, but exhausting. ⁣ ⁣ This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and he and I ultimately zeroed in on three different types of vacations that all have benefits, but the value is in understanding what you are getting into and what to expect, and thus what you can do to prepare and get the most out of your vacations, so you do in fact, look forward to and benefit from them. ⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Apr 202353min