If You Feel Like You've Lost Yourself After A Breakup Ep. 35

In today's episode of Breakup to Blessing, I'm addressing a question submitted by someone who recently ended a 3-year relationship and is feeling lost and lonely. I also want to extend this conversation to anyone currently in a relationship and feeling disconnected from themselves. It's common to prioritise others—partners, families, children—and forget what makes us come alive. If that resonates with you, this episode is for you. We'll explore how to reconnect with yourself after a breakup or in the midst of a relationship where you've lost touch with your individual needs and desires. This episode will help you rediscover what makes you feel truly alive, so that you can reestablish a strong connection with yourself and start living authentically again. In this episode, we dive into: Reframing the question from "finding yourself" to "reconnecting with yourself." Why it's important to revisit your past to rediscover what brought you joy before the relationship. How to identify the things that made you feel most connected to yourself, and how to bring those feelings back into your life today. Practical examples of how to reconnect with activities and passions that made you feel alive. Overcoming the challenge of putting yourself first when you've spent years prioritizing others. If you're navigating a breakup or simply realising it's time to focus on yourself again, this episode will offer insights and actionable steps to help you on your journey. You don't need permission to prioritise your own happiness—you're worthy of it! Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

16 Mars 13min

Are you too quick to disqualify people when dating? Or do you stay in relationships longer than you should? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving into the real questions behind "Is this worth it?"—and how shifting your focus can change your dating experience entirely. We'll talk about: ✅ The fear of wasting time and how it holds you back ✅ Why focusing on checklists instead of connection can sabotage potential relationships ✅ How detaching from the outcome can actually bring you closer to what you want ✅ Practical ways to engage in the dating process with curiosity, not pressure Plus, I'll guide you through some key reflections to help you reassess your approach to dating and relationships. If you've ever felt frustrated by the dating process or worried about running out of time, this episode is for you. 💡 Want personalised help navigating your relationships? Book a free consultation with me at sylviasuwan.com/consultation Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program

10 Mars 10min

Hey everyone! Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. In this episode, I dive into a powerful idea: "You are one decision away from a completely different life." I share two defining moments that shifted my perspective after my divorce and how I realized that I had the power to shape my future. We often live on autopilot, following the path we think we're supposed to take—until something disrupts it. But what if, instead of seeking comfort in the familiar, we embraced the unknown and created a future we actually want? I challenge you: What's one decision you can make today that could change everything? Let's break free from limiting beliefs and step into the life we truly desire. In this episode, we explore: ✨ How to stop living on autopilot ✨ The trap of seeking comfort instead of growth ✨ The power of a single decision to reshape your life ✨ A thought-provoking question that changed my entire outlook I'd love to hear from you! What's the one decision you're making today? DM me on Instagram @sylviasuwan or email me support@sylviasuwan.com 💫 If you enjoyed this episode, please rate & review—it helps so much! See you next week!

2 Mars 8min

Breakups are tough—whether you're the one ending things or the one being broken up with. But why do so many people struggle to do it clearly and respectfully? In this episode, we're taking a different perspective: what it's like for the person initiating the breakup and why communication missteps can leave both people confused and hurt. I'll explore: ✔️ Why breaking up is hard—even for the person initiating it ✔️ The rise of ghosting and why people avoid difficult conversations ✔️ How to end things with clarity, kindness, and integrity ✔️ What to do after a breakup to heal and move forward ✔️ Insights for those on the receiving end of a breakup If you've ever struggled with ending a relationship or been left with unanswered questions after a breakup, this episode is for you. 🔗 Join the conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, or questions for a future episode! 💬 If you found this helpful, leave a review! Your feedback helps others find the show. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to break up the right way!

23 Feb 14min

💔 Feeling down about Valentine's Day? You're not alone. Whether you're single, healing from a breakup, or in an unfulfilling relationship, this special bonus episode is here to offer comfort, encouragement, and a fresh perspective. ✨ In this episode, we'll explore: ✔ How to reframe your thoughts and emotions around Valentine's Day ✔ Why social media might be making today harder (and what to do instead) ✔ The real foundation of fulfilling relationships—beyond grand gestures ✔ Five powerful self-reflection questions to help you build the love and life you truly deserve ✔ Fun and unexpected hobbies to try (including Neurographic Art and handwriting analysis!) 💡 Remember, your happiness isn't dependent on a relationship—it's about creating a life that feels full and meaningful on your own terms. Show Links: Special Offer this week only 50% off Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Discount Code: VALENTINE50

13 Feb 10min

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving into one of the biggest missing pieces in relationship and conflict resolution—emotional regulation. We've all been taught communication techniques like "I" statements, active listening, and mirroring, but if you've ever tried these strategies and still felt stuck, frustrated, or unheard, you're not alone. The truth is, no communication skill will work if you're emotionally dysregulated. In this episode, you'll learn: ✅ Why emotional regulation is the foundation of healthy communication ✅ Signs that you may be emotionally dysregulated (and what to do about it) ✅ How to stay present and grounded during conflict—without relying on your partner to change ✅ The mindset shifts that turn conflict from a power struggle into an opportunity for deeper connection By the end of this episode, you'll have practical tools to navigate disagreements with more clarity, confidence, and emotional control. 🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward transforming the way you handle conflict. ✨ Breakup to Blessing is now available as a self-paced course! ✨ If you're ready to heal, let go, and step into your next chapter with confidence, you can now access my signature program at a lower price—with lifetime access and one private coaching session included. Get started today at sylviasuwan.com/program or find the link in the show notes. Episode Mentions: What Attachment Style Are You? Pt.1 Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify How To Become More Securely Attached Pt. 2 Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify Connect with me: 🌟 Instagram: @sylviasuwan 🌟 Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program

9 Feb 19min

In this episode, Sylvia brings it back to basics and reminds us of the essential foundations for healing, especially when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just starting out, sometimes we need a reminder of the most important things to focus on. Sylvia discusses Maslow's hierarchy of needs and how our basic needs—like food, water, shelter, and emotional safety—must be met before we can progress to higher goals, such as self-actualisation and personal growth. She explains why it's crucial to check in with ourselves to ensure we're addressing these fundamental needs, especially during times of hardship like breakups or major life changes. Along the way, Sylvia touches on how an unhealthy lifestyle—poor diet, lack of exercise, and nutrient deficiencies—can contribute to mental health struggles like anxiety, depression, and stress. She shares practical insights on how simple adjustments to your physical health can have a significant impact on your mental well-being. If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this episode is a reminder to return to the basics. By prioritising your health, security, and emotional well-being, you'll be in a stronger position to face life's challenges and continue your healing journey. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consult with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

2 Feb 13min

Have you ever felt like life is passing you by while everyone else seems to be moving forward? In this episode, we dive deep into the feeling of being left behind—whether it's watching friends settle down, pursue their dreams, or take bold steps forward while you feel stuck in the same place. We'll explore why we compare ourselves to others, the biological and social roots of comparison, and how to shift our mindset to use it as motivation instead of discouragement. You'll also hear personal insights from my own journey, including how I reframed my past choices and learned to embrace the season I'm in. We'll discuss practical strategies to help you let go of regret, stop playing catch-up, and focus on building the future you truly want. In this episode, we cover: Why we feel left behind and how comparison plays a role The importance of acknowledging that your life is exactly where it's meant to be How regret can keep you stuck—and how to move past it Practical steps to start living the life you want today Insights from The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how they can inspire change Practical steps you can take right now: Start Small: Take one small step towards something you've been putting off. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Every small step counts. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe comparison as inspiration, not a measure of your worth. Embrace Fear: Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Set Intentions: Think about where you want to be in five years and take action today. Remember, life isn't a race. You're exactly where you're meant to be, and each day offers a new opportunity to move forward. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book in a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

26 Jan 13min