How To Become More Securely Attached Part 2 Ep. 38

Have you ever felt like life is passing you by while everyone else seems to be moving forward? In this episode, we dive deep into the feeling of being left behind—whether it's watching friends settle down, pursue their dreams, or take bold steps forward while you feel stuck in the same place. We'll explore why we compare ourselves to others, the biological and social roots of comparison, and how to shift our mindset to use it as motivation instead of discouragement. You'll also hear personal insights from my own journey, including how I reframed my past choices and learned to embrace the season I'm in. We'll discuss practical strategies to help you let go of regret, stop playing catch-up, and focus on building the future you truly want. In this episode, we cover: Why we feel left behind and how comparison plays a role The importance of acknowledging that your life is exactly where it's meant to be How regret can keep you stuck—and how to move past it Practical steps to start living the life you want today Insights from The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how they can inspire change Practical steps you can take right now: Start Small: Take one small step towards something you've been putting off. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Every small step counts. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe comparison as inspiration, not a measure of your worth. Embrace Fear: Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Set Intentions: Think about where you want to be in five years and take action today. Remember, life isn't a race. You're exactly where you're meant to be, and each day offers a new opportunity to move forward. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book in a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

26 Jan 13min

In today's episode, we dive deep into the concept of ambiguous loss, a type of grief that doesn't have the usual clarity, closure, or resolution. Whether you're dealing with a breakup that ended without answers or a relationship that wasn't serving you, this episode will help you understand how to navigate that uncertain emotional space. I'll discuss why ambiguous loss can feel so difficult to process, particularly after a breakup, and offer practical advice on how to manage unresolved emotions and feelings of uncertainty. I'll also share tips on how to build resilience in the face of ambiguity, from redefining expectations to focusing on personal growth, and how leaning into supportive relationships can help you move forward. If you've been stuck in an emotional limbo, unsure of how to grieve a relationship that you know wasn't right for you, this episode will guide you through embracing the discomfort and finding a path toward healing. ✨ In this episode, you'll learn: • What ambiguous loss is and how it affects the grieving process • How to manage unresolved emotions and prolonged grief • Practical strategies for building resilience when closure seems out of reach • The importance of redefining expectations and embracing uncertainty • How to use this tough experience as an opportunity for personal growth If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to hit the follow or plus button – it's the best way to support the show and stay updated on new episodes. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

19 Jan 13min

Welcome back to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! I hope you're having a good start to the new year. If you're not, hang in there—you're doing all you can right now, and that's enough. In today's episode, I'm sharing some powerful mindset shifts that helped me navigate some of my own deepest challenges. We'll talk about the importance of not letting anticipation ruin the present, why embracing change is key to growth, and how to stop thinking there's only one "right" way to do things. I also explore how we deal with pain and difficult emotions, why it's crucial to learn how to sit with discomfort, and how to break free from the need for control. I also draw parallels between these life lessons and what I've been experiencing as a parent to a toddler going through the "terrible twos." It's been a reminder of how important emotional regulation is—not just for kids, but for adults too. Finally, I dive into the transformative power of acceptance, especially when faced with situations you can't control. Finding acceptance may feel impossible at times, but it's the first step towards healing and growth. If you're going through a tough time right now, whether it's a breakup, a life setback, or just the overwhelming weight of life's challenges, I encourage you to tune in. This episode is about how to shift your mindset to navigate life with more strength, clarity, and peace. Key Takeaways: • Why the anticipation of something often feels worse than the actual event. • The power of reframing your thoughts to focus on constructive actions. • How embracing change can lead to unexpected blessings. • The importance of learning to regulate your emotions and deal with pain. • Why letting go of the "right way" opens up possibilities for growth. • How acceptance is the key to moving forward, even in difficult circumstances. Remember: You can create an even better life, no matter what you're going through right now. If you're ready to move forward, this episode is for you. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

12 Jan 14min

Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! As we start the new year, it's a great time to focus on growth, self-discovery, and creating the life—and relationship—you truly want. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you attract the relationship you've been dreaming of. Whether you're ready to settle down, start a family, or just find someone who aligns with your values, this episode is for you. Here's what we'll cover: The most common barriers to finding the right relationship, like a lack of clarity, being overly rigid, or holding onto past hurts. How to shift your mindset to break free from a scarcity mentality and embrace possibility. Practical steps to date with intention and maximise opportunities to meet the right person. Why consistency, self-reflection, and emotional intelligence are key to building meaningful connections. The importance of committing to the journey of finding love, rather than focusing solely on the destination. Dating doesn't have to feel overwhelming or frustrating. With the right mindset and tools, you can open yourself up to the opportunities that lead to the relationship you've been hoping for. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book your free consult: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

5 Jan 18min

In this final episode of the year, Sylvia shares a practical and simple 5-step framework to help you start 2025 with clarity and confidence. After offering free strategy sessions to some of her followers, Sylvia wanted to ensure that everyone has the tools to set meaningful goals and create a vision for the year ahead. In this episode, you'll learn: How to take inventory of your life by reflecting on key areas like relationships, health, career, finances, personal growth, and more. How to identify your priorities and choose what matters most to you in the coming months. The importance of setting clear, achievable goals that are tailored to your needs. A fun exercise to create a vision of your ideal life and activate the power of your brain to help you achieve it. The importance of building accountability to stay on track and ensure progress throughout the year. This framework is designed to help you reflect, plan, and stay committed to your goals in 2025. Whether you're looking to improve your health, career, finances, or personal growth, these tools will guide you every step of the way. Tune in for a fresh start to the new year, and let's make 2025 your best year yet! Links and Resources: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Wishing you a Happy New Year!

29 Dec 202414min

The holiday season can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially if you're navigating heartbreak or on a healing journey. In this episode, I reflect on my own experiences with Christmas during a time of personal struggle and share practical strategies to help you cope during this festive period. We explore: • How to embrace acceptance and move through difficult emotions. • The power of choice and how it can transform unfair or challenging situations. • Why conflicting emotions, like sadness and excitement, can coexist, and how to hold space for both. • How to use the holiday season as an opportunity to reflect, dream, and set intentions for the year ahead. To help you kickstart 2025 with clarity and purpose, I'm offering 10 free strategy sessions for listeners who are serious about creating a better year. During the session, we'll: • Identify where you are now and clarify your goals. • Define your relationship intentions—whether it's moving on from an ex, building confidence to date again, or finding a meaningful connection. • Develop actionable steps to achieve your goals throughout the year. This offer is only available for the remainder of the calendar year, so book your spot now via the link in the show notes! Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. No matter how tough things feel now, you're stronger than you realise, and the best is yet to come. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Reach out to me on Instagram or email me to share your thoughts or takeaways. Show Links:• Book Your Free Strategy Session Here Follow me on Instagram: @sylviasuwan

22 Dec 202412min

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're tackling a big question: How do you get yourself to do the hard things, especially when motivation is nowhere to be found? Whether it's moving forward after a breakup or simply starting your day on the right foot, I'll share actionable tips to help you push through resistance and build habits that stick. I'll also get personal about how I've been struggling with motivation this week and what I've learned from recognising where my brain naturally pulls me toward procrastination and comfort. Together, we'll explore how to override those instincts and take small, consistent steps toward growth. What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why your brain seeks comfort and "safety" instead of growth. • How procrastination and avoidance show up in everyday life (especially during tough times). • A simple framework to break down big goals into small, manageable steps. • Practical tools like the "Pause and Acknowledge" method to help you take action. • The importance of celebrating small wins to build resilience and momentum. If you're feeling stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed—especially in the wake of a breakup—this episode is for you. Learn how to start where you are, take one small step at a time, and build the life you deserve. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book Your Free Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

15 Dec 202411min

Welcome to the 100th episode of Breakup to Blessing! I can't believe we've hit this milestone—thank you for being part of this journey. To mark the occasion, I'm sharing the most impactful lessons I've learned throughout my life in the realms of dating, relationships, and heartbreak. These lessons come from my personal experiences, and my hope is that they resonate with you. Take what feels helpful, leave what doesn't, and apply them in a way that fits your life. Here's what I'll cover in this episode: Make a Decision and Accept It Fully Learn why embracing your choices—whether in dating or relationships—leads to greater satisfaction and less regret. You Decide Your Happiness How managing expectations and identifying non-negotiables can help you find peace in your relationships. You Are Stronger Than You Think Discover how resilience emerges during life's toughest challenges, including breakups. Be the Person You Want to Date Attract the right partner by embodying the qualities you're looking for. Stay Present, Stop Overthinking the Future Avoid losing sight of meaningful connections by being open to what's unfolding in the moment. Find Peace Where You Are Why true happiness and meaning must come from within, not from external achievements or relationships. It's Okay to Have Regrets—But Don't Let Them Define You How to process regret in a way that helps you move forward instead of staying stuck in the past. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

8 Dec 202421min