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Do you want to know how to respond when no one believes you? Do you know other people’s perception of you isn’t your reality? Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Daniel Kaluuya. Known for his role as Fred Hampton in Shaka King's American biographical crime drama film Judas and The Black Messiah, Daniel won the 2021 Academy Award, British Academy Film Award, and Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in Supporting Role. His feature film writing debut with Netflix, The Kitchen has received positive reviews. While football is a well loved topic between Jay and Daniel, the conversation shifted on Daniel’s earliest childhood memories that left an indelible mark on his life. We uncover the roots of his resilience and determination and his unwavering interest in writing. Daniel looks back into the challenges he faced for having dark skin and offers his insights on how to change our mindset around racism. We will learn about the cost of chasing our desires, the inspiration behind “The Kitchen”, and the transformative power of bringing ideas into existence. Together they unpack the importance of making peace with people's perceptions, and the courage it takes to share your work and passion with the world. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to pursue your passion How overcome your limits How to turn ideas into reality How to develop resilience Join us on this soul-stirring exploration of life, growth, and the resilience that lies within each of us. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:19 Earliest Childhood Memory That Changed Your Life 06:07 What Would You Do When No One Believes In You? 08:51 How the Interest in Writing Started 11:52 Learning the Art of Improv 14:25 Shared Love for Football 19:27 Getting Shamed for Having Dark Skin 23:37 How to Change Your Mindset Around Racism 25:41 Standing Up For the Decisions that You Make 27:46 The Cost of Wanting Something is High 30:25 The Inspiration for The Kitchen 33:54 Exposing Why People Live the Way They Do 38:36 Overcoming the Fear of Making an Idea a Reality 43:16 The Power of One Idea 48:21 How Bringing Things into Existence can Change You 52:29 Making Peace with People’s Perception of You 58:51 Sharing Your Work and Passion to the World 01:01:36 Daniel on Final Five Episode Resources: Daniel Kaluuya | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Jan 20241h 5min

Do you want your relationships in 2024 to uplift you and the others around you? Do you want your relationships to bring you energy and not drain you? Then this episode is for you. Today, Jay shares insights on building stronger connections. Discover the proactive steps to create bonds that will withstand the test of time, moving beyond surface-level ties. Uncover the five types of relationships you can invest in for genuine and enduring connections. Jay explores the concept of belonging—the magic that happens when we become part of a community. From the joy of shared experiences to the comfort of knowing you're not alone. Your journey can take an introspective turn when you look deep into the vital relationship with ourselves—the key to true independence and the layers of self-discovery and the profound impact it has on our overall well-being. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to boost your existing relationships How to create new and better relationships How to be more in-tune with yourself How to upgrade your connections and community Join Jay as he guides us through the transformative power of relationships built on selfless love and devotion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:56 The 5 Types of Relationships We Need in Our Life 03:16 Type #1: Belonging - Being a Part of a Community 09:32 Type #2: Legacy - Feeling Connected to Something Bigger 14:11 Type #3: Independence - A Relationship with Ourselves 18:33 Type #4: Safety Relationships - The People that Bring Stability in Our Lives 23:39 Type 35: Service - Relationships Based on Surrender and ServiceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Jan 202427min

Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther PerelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

15 Jan 20241h 34min

How can you stay motivated in 2024? How can you stay on track when things get though? There is always a challenge, some resistance, or pressure to break your goals and lose motivation. Today, Jay will unpack why it’s become difficult to maintain motivation throughout the year. There are scientifically proven ways to boost your motivation and stay motivated. From investing on people and personalities that is linked to your goal and that can give you positive influence and the three people you need in your life when things get too tough to doing the things that you’ve been planning to do but haven’t got the time to complete, there are options and tips available for you to get that motivation back and stir your path to the right goals. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to stay focused on your goals How to effectively set goals How to bring back motivation How to do the things you’re set on doing There's a wealth of options and insights waiting for you to reclaim your motivation and steer your journey toward the right goals. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:22 There’s always a challenge to break your goal 02:59 Tip #1: The Four Stages of Cognitive Restructuring 07:52 Tip #2: Follow All The Right Accounts That Is Linked To Your Goal 10:26 Tip #3: Tick Off Anything That You’ve Completed In The Day 14:21 Tip #4: The Three People You Need In Your Life When You Lose Motivation 17:04 Tip #5: The Most Important Thing Is How You Feel After You Do Something 20:05 Tip #6: You Got Everything Done Except For The One Thing That You Needed To Do 22:10 Tip #7: Your Fitness And Wellness Is Based On The Quality Of Your Sleep 24:01 Tip #8: The 20-Minute Routine You Need To PracticeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Jan 202427min

Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time? Do you want to have better communication and expectations with your partner? On this very special episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with the former First Lady of the country, Michelle Obama. During Michelle’s time as First Lady, Michelle launched several initiatives, including "Let's Move!" which aimed to combat childhood obesity, and "Reach Higher," promoting higher education. Her memoir "Becoming," released in 2018, became one of the best-selling books of that year and took the world by storm. Today we sit down to talk about her most recent book, “The Light We Carry.” In this raw conversation, Michelle opens up about her thoughts on marriage, fame, and public service. She talks about the toxicity of social media and technology that affects our mental health and how to be open to the changes and possibilities people bring with them. She also talks about how negative news and social updates are affecting our society and the community we are in. We also dive deep into relationships and why we put so much pressure on our marriage, how to choose the right person for you and make the relationship work even when it isn’t perfect, and how to practice constructive arguments with your partner. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to think freely and independently How to take care of your mental health How to become a supportive partner How deal with negativity How to become an effective leader How to make your marriage last Together we’ll learn how to find calm amid life's noise, give people the space to be seen and heard, and explore topics that resonate with the very fabric of our personal growth journey. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:18 What is the Best Part of Being You? 02:16 What’s Your Longest Friendship? 03:16 The Struggle of Leaving the People You Love Behind 06:36 Be Open to the Possibilities of People 11:36 What’s the Hardest Part of Being You? 14:23 When You Lose a Piece of Yourself 16:48 What Keeps You Up at Night? 19:00 Allow Your Brain to Rest from the Noise 24:26 Mindful Usage of Technology 26:48 We Consume More Negative News Daily 31:03 How Do You Sustain a Successful Relationship? 35:33 The Non-Negotiables in Any Relationship 37:08 You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness 42:50 What is Your Fight Style? 48:42 Giving People Space to Be Seen and Heard 53:15 What Offends You the Most? 54:39 The Best Personal Growth Moments 59:59 Conclusion with Michelle Obama Episode Resources: Michelle Obama | Instagram Michelle Obama | Facebook. Michelle Obama | Books Obama Foundation The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain TimesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

8 Jan 20241h 7min

What do you want to change in 2024? What goal do you want to achieve this year? Happy New Year! Today, let’s focus on making your new year’s resolution into a reality. For many, there’s a lot they want to change, overcome, and succeed in but not everyone has the resolve to take action and actually make it happen. As we step into 2024, Jay guides us through four dynamic approaches: a year of learning, experimenting, performance, or thriving. No matter your choice, let's laser-focus on your top goals. Remember, even colossal goals can be conquered by breaking them down into manageable chunks. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set better goals How to make your year productive How effectively achieve your goals Let's make 2024 a year of learning, experimenting, and finding success in life, love, and career! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:10 What Type Of Year Is 2024 For You? 04:22 #1: What is 2024 For You? 05:10 A Year of Learning 08:02 A Year of Experimenting 09:58 A Year of Performance 10:48 A Year to Thrive 12:30 #2: A Year From Now, What Would You Want To Be True About You And Your Life? 15:57 #3 The 1-4-3-1 Method 20:18 Know That You Will Fall Off Your Plan 22:20 Be Compassionate to Yourself and to Others 27:00 Let’s Make 2024 the Year You’ve Been Waiting ForSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Jan 202428min

Do you want to know the secret to living a long healthy life? Do you want to know what the healthiest people in the world drink everyday? Dan, a best-selling author and explorer, shares his extensive research and knowledge on the communities where people live the longest and healthiest lives. As the mind behind the acclaimed book, "The Blue Zones Secrets for Living Longer: Lessons from the Healthiest Places on Earth," and the visionary behind the Netflix docu-series, Dan Buettner brings a wealth of knowledge about how to live to 100+. This conversation explores the common threads that weave through these diverse group of people, unlocking the keys to a fulfilling and enduring life .From diet and daily habits to the profound sense of community, Dan Buettner offers profound insights into how these lessons from the Blue Zones can be applied to our own lives. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that bridges ancient traditions with modern living, and learn how you can integrate the Blue Zones' transformative lessons into your own pursuit of a healthier, more meaningful and longer life In this interview you’ll learn: Practical lessons for a longer life What role your genes play in the length of your life What you can add to your diet daily that will add 4 years to your life How our environment plays a key role in our life Tangible steps we can take to improve our overall well being How plant based diets can significantly improve our health How a sense of purpose and community can enhance our life and longevity Dan’s passion for understanding and unlocking the secrets to longevity has influenced the world and I hope it does the same for you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What we Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:40 How much of our genes determine how long we will live 09:23 The secret to a healthy America 14:30 The overconsumption of meat is hurting us 18:15 We spend twice as much time in our cars than we did in the 1980s 20:24 The power of community 24:50 The hack to a longer life isn’t based solely on diet and exercise but also community 27:13 Using elders as a longevity strategy for community 30:40 Green tea can add to your longevity 35:33 How beans and grains are cornerstones in the oldest global communities 38:11 What has changed over the years that has added to our mortality rate 43:40 The power of creating a social circle around health 44:35 Reminder to stop eating when stomachs are 80% full 47:27 What the last bluezone 1.0 will be 51:16 What most cities should consider in order to become a blue zone 54:43 How a sense of purpose and clarity can add to our longevity 55:03 Conclusion Episode Resources: Dan Buettner | Facebook Dan Buettner | Instagram Dan Buettner | WebsiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Jan 202457min

As we approach the close of 2024, this episode is not just about reflecting on the lessons learned; it's about sharing the transformative insights that will illuminate our path forward. Jay poses a question that resonates deeply: How many of us stress about our well-being? From health and meditation to daily journals and affirmations, the pursuit of self-improvement often brings with it a surge of stress. Jay challenges you to explore the idea of stress as a spectrum, a nuanced scale rather than a binary state. This concept is monumental and understanding stress can be a game changer for you this coming year. In this episode, Jay unpacks the idea that sometimes the goal of wanting to be better and do better puts us under greater pressure. Let Jay guide you as he explains positive stress, distress and the lessons he learned this year that are meant to be carried forward and put into practice. It's not just about learning; it's about application, about making these lessons a living, breathing part of our lives. This episode is your go to to close off the year and prepare yourself for a beautiful journey in 2024. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty In this episode you’ll learn: Differentiating positive stress and distress Finding your center Top stressful events for adults Knowing when to be hard on yourself and when to let go What we discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:02 The Big Lesson I Am Taking Into 2024 03:34 #1 Understanding Stress As A Spectrum 04:49 The Positive Side Of Stress 10:30 Living In Distress 17:09 #2 Finding Your Center 20:28: #3 Being More Compassionate And Understanding Of How Others Deal With Stress 21:25 The Ultimate GamechangerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

29 Dec 202327min