Master Your Marriage3 Maj 2023

How to Work Through a Past Fight

Are you ready to roll up your sleeves and process a past fight? Fear not. Today, Robert and Sharla are providing you with a tool for effective repair conversations.

And to show you how it's done, this masterfully married couple will be processing one of their past fights (they prefer to call them 'regrettable incidents'), and showing you how to let go of stubborn resentments, deal with past hurt, and empathetically engage with your partner.

There are some ground rules to consider (avoiding criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and snowballing), and there are five steps to take that you can then try out as you workshop a 'regrettable incident' of your own.

From sharing your feelings to sharing your perceptions (and understanding the difference), and from sharing your triggers to taking responsibility, a constructive plan awaits you to prevent a fight from becoming a lingering resentment... one that could poison your marriage, or become stones in your shoe as you walk this long road of life together.

"The second step is to share our individual realities – and to validate one another's realities. ~ Sharla Snow

"We hope you're excited to incorporate this process in your relationship. As always, if you need coaching or any help applying this, reach out to us – we'd love to help out." ~ Robert Snow

In This Episode:

- How to deal with disagreements in your relationship calmly and empathetically as they arise

- Processing a regrettable incident – Robert and Sharla's real-life 'fight'

- What are the 5 steps that you can use to process a regrettable incident of your own?

- Getting to a place of renewed empathy and understanding with your partner

And so much more!

Resources:

- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

- Link to the MYM 8-Week Coaching Program - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/MYM423

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/

- Facebook - http://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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