Master Your Marriage21 Juni 2023

Yes, Words Matter

What if there was a better way for your words to have their intended effect on your partner? Honest, non-defensive words have the power to reverse a difficult interaction and restore connection and intimacy in our relationship.

How we learn to speak more gently for greater effect is achieved by first appreciating the difference between content and context in any challenging conversation.

Robert and Sharla are delicately defining this for us, as well as providing us with the practical tools required in the heat of the moment, such as expressing your 'starting position' with regard to how you actually feel before diving headfirst into an argument that you intend on 'winning.'

When we speak softly, we can also express our truth more authentically. Robert and Sharla's unique approach also allows for more personal introspection and growth that we can then bring into our relationship.

You have the power to improve your relationship by choosing words that heal, uplift, and strengthen the bonds of your love. We trust you will find this episode to be of great value.

"If we want to be heard, we have to come in more gently." ~ Sharla Snow

"Understanding always precedes solution-seeking." ~ Robert Snow

In This Episode:

- 'Talk to me like I am someone you love' – lessons in communication from Nancy Dreyfus

- Learning to speak our truth gently

- What is the distinction between content and context in our conversations?

- Articulating your 'starting position' (how you feel) before you begin an argument

- 'We are never upset for the reasons we think' – getting to your context

- How understanding precedes resolution

- Finding a compromise that honors both parties - bringing an energy of connection

- Why 'truth' is in the context

And so much more!

Resources:

- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

- Link to the MYM 8-Week Coaching Program - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/MYM423

- Talk to me like I’m Someone You Love (Nancy Dreyfus’ Book) - https://www.amazon.com/Talk-Like-Someone-Love-revised/dp/0399162003

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/

- Facebook - http://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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