Master Your Marriage4 Okt 2023

Three Marriages with The Same Person

“Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person." - Esther Perel

It was just one marriage ceremony between Sharla and Robert but if you knew them as a couple in the last three decades, the distinct differences in who they were together would paint 3 completely different pictures.

Like asking a child, an artist, and a color-blind person to paint the same image. They’d unlikely look even remotely similar.

Change is imminent. It cannot be avoided.

So, what do we do when our relationships are being put to the test? We BURN OUR BOATS.

We evolve as individuals and as couples, and while sometimes that change can be painful, by burning our boats (and bridges), we decide that it’s better not to hold onto what’s familiar.

If you can tolerate the discomfort of growth, together, one day, you’ll realize the incredible meaning and richness that comes to your life for making it through together.

Tune in to hear how Robert and Sharla’s relationship has dramatically shifted from a once self-centered validation machine to a now connected and renewed supportive partnership.

In this Episode:

"Burn The Boats" principles
Redefining our relationship
1st Marriage: Infatuation and Validation
Pattern Interrupt; Being out of sync
2nd Marriage - Complacency
3rd Marriage - Renewal and Reconnection; Our Most True Self

And so much more!

Resources Mentioned:

“When your army has crossed the border, you should burn your boats and bridges, in order to make it clear to everybody that you have no hankering after home.” ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/
Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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