Master Your Marriage29 Nov 2023

All Couples Fight. Successful Couples Repair The Rupture

💔Don’t let resentment fester - overcome it with these tools: https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

Conflict is inevitable.

And if we can’t avoid it, what should we do instead? Shall we get in the fetal position and rock ourselves to sleep? Pretend conflict doesn't exist?

Obviously not, guys. This is called Master Your Marriage, not Mess Up Your Marriage.

So if we know that conflict is inevitable, we know there’s a certain level of acceptance that we need to grow in. But what else can we do to make sure that the conflict doesn’t become ‘the end’?

Well, we practice repair.

Taking responsibility for your role in conflict is going to be key. But then you’re also going to want to practice some crucial friendship principles that are going to help lighten the mood and rebuild connection.

Tune in to learn how to repair the ruptures in your relationship.

In this Episode:

- Why relationships are a system set up for failure

- Why and how failure is the solution

-The ability to repair is the key for success in a relationship

- Asking your partner about offenses

- The secret weapon of repair

- How to remain good friends

And more!

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

The Science of Trust: https://a.co/d/d9zT2Mu
Mother/child study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2654842/
How to Work Through a Past Fight - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-work-through-a-past-fight/id1669788601?i=1000611554391 or on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B8th4hCRtTk?si=7xpmfd-XuDD8olHk

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars
Become FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/
Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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