Master Your Marriage29 Maj 2024

Owning Our Sexual Desire Part 1 (Taking Responsibility)

In this episode of "Master Your Marriage," Robert and I dive into how our feelings in relationships evolve over time and how to keep that spark alive. You know, those butterflies and the exhilarating rush of falling in love might not last forever, but that doesn't mean passion has to disappear. Instead, it can grow into a more mature love. We believe it’s absolutely possible to maintain and deepen our passion and intimacy for decades, and today we’re going to share how we can make that happen.

We talked about how sexual desire can change, especially for women in long-term relationships. Research shows that women’s desire often decreases more rapidly after marriage, which was surprising to us at first. But it's not that women care less about sex; it’s that we want sex that's worth having—full of romance, seduction, and connection. Robert and I discussed how important it is to take responsibility for our own desires. We shared tips like engaging in activities that make us feel alive and confident, because when we feel our best, it positively impacts our relationship.

To wrap things up, we gave you an exercise to help you understand your own turn-ons and turn-offs. We can’t always rely on our partners to fulfill every need; it’s up to us to take charge of our desires. By creating intentional rituals of connection and self-care, we can keep the passion burning. We’d love to hear your thoughts on this, so come join the conversation on social media. And if you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who might benefit from it. Remember, it’s the small things done often that make the biggest impact. Until next time, take care and be kind to each other.

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