The Divorce Course Podcast5 Dec 2023

When Coercive Control Continues After Your Separation or Divorce

If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or you've left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and children's custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way. Learn about Post Separation abuse and legal abuse and what can be done about it.

We look at the critical role played by your own self-compassion, how to construct solid emotional boundaries and deal with intense emotions surging from the urgent demands of your ex. This episode also touches on seeking professional help, challenging your own thought patterns, and ultimately understanding the existence of covert forms of control. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace. Part 1

Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14

Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.

Don't miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

How can you work on overcoming gaslighting?
What are some steps to take and write down in order to remind yourself of your true thoughts and reality?
How can you speak positively to yourself and change negative thoughts?
How can you get connected and find people who will believe and support you?
What evidence should you gather to counter claims made against you?
How can you gather evidence of being a good mother and counter false labels?
How should you handle communication with the other party's lawyer if they try to gaslight or divert attention from the main issues?
What should you do if the other party fails to answer your letter or question?

Strategies to combat gaslighting and doubt your reality.
What is the importance of documenting and gathering evidence.
What is the significance of speaking positively and being compassionate to yourself.
What is the value of finding a supportive network and seeking legal advice.

Sources Mentioned

Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode

Separated under one roof: the do's and don'ts in divorce

The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation

Emergency Contacts:

WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline 13 11 14
Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police on 000
DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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