#420 Intimacy 2.0: Love and Dating in the Future

What is the B of BDSM all about? How can people explore bondage and restraint play in a super hot yet safe, consensual way? Why are people into being tied up, and what does it do for the "doer"? What are some of the tools and props that can be used for bondage and restraint play? And what are some of the top tips for newbies who want to dip their toes into the B of BDSM? Repeat guest and master kink educator Orpheus Black teaches all this and more. Be sure to check out Orpheus' upcoming Unleashed Retreat August 18th-20th, 2023, AND Shameless Sex listeners even get $50 off with code SHAMELESSSEX. Sign up here: orpheusblack.com/retreat About our guest: Part spiritual therapist, part bedroom sorcerer, and all bad ass. Orpheus Black is a Los Angeles-based public speaker, teacher, thought leader, and somatic visionary who specializes in the application of ancient wisdom in modern day settings.  Known widely for his dynamic sexcraft and ear perking shows, Orpheus is perhaps distinguished from his peers by his caliber of showmanship and polish in front of a crowd. He’s a rare pedigree expert, who regularly demonstrates his prowess and intelligence from on-stage, in broadcast television, and in up-close and intimate classes.  Through his continued efforts, Orpheus aims to propel the intellectual and sensual evolution of masculinity both by challenging men to reconnect with its roots and by inviting them to embrace manhood in its fullness, the way strong modern men wish it to be. In this role, he shares insights, offers tools, and speaks against societal norms of shame and repression. He does it all with the earnestness of a therapist, the knowledge of a guru, and the charisma of a stage performer too. To learn more visit orpheusblack.com Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Check out one of our favorite sex educators work, Sex Ed with DB here: sexedwithdb.com. And be sure to follow her educational and entertaining posts on IG at @sexedwithdbpodcast and Tik Tok at @sexedwithdb Other links: Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get silky skin with 25% off our favorite adorable razors with code SHAMELESS at athenaclub.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

13 Juni 20231h 15min

All hail the glorious pu$$y! This juicy bonus episode is all about super sexy and creative ways to pamper, worship, adore, praise and pleasure those very special vulva-owners in your life through touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, and quality time. Don't worry...we will likely be releasing a penis praising episode someday soon :) Enjoy! Links: Get 20% off some of our favorite products to amplify pleasure with code SHAMELESS20 at HighOnLove.ca Get turned on and learn the art of sexy talk with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Pamper your lover with a delicious meal with 60% off plus free shipping at greenchef.com/shameless60 Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

9 Juni 202339min

Why are STDs now called STIs? What are the most popular STI’s on the current market? What do I do if I get an STI? How can I manage it? What are the best safer-sex practices available? How can I share my STI status with partners as well s inspire them to be honest with me? Danielle Bezalel, MPH aka Sex Ed with DB gives us the skinny on the current knowledge about STIs and safer sex in 2023. About our guest: Danielle Bezalel, MPH, aka DB (she/her/hers), is the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of the Sex Ed with DB podcast, a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. Danielle earned a Master of Public Health with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health from Columbia University. Danielle lives in Oakland, CA. Go to www.sexedwithdb.com to learn more about the podcast and get discounts on DB’s faves here. You can listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Soundcloud, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Sex Ed with DB on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube. To learn more visit sexedwithdb.com Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here For the penis pumps we talked about in this episode go here: aprilamy.com Other links: Start meditating now with 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at www.calm.com/shameless Join the clean ass club and get 10% with code SHAMELESS at hellotushy.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

6 Juni 20231h 11min

Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then, you've got to listen to one of our favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight on a storied career that brought her so much fame, and why she has decided to leave it all behind. Hosted by director and photographer Holly Randall– a 25 year veteran of the adult industry– this podcast interviews the people who make up this vastly misunderstood industry. From performers to directors to sex educators and therapists, this show explores the good (and the bad!) stories to lift the veil of secrecy surrounding porn, and to give a voice to those who truly understand what it’s like to work in this thriving, but highly stigmatized career. Forget everything you think you know about porn, because this show is going to open your eyes, and possibly change your mind. Holly Randall Unfiltered is available anywhere you listen to podcasts, as well as on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok. Find out more at HollyRandallUnfiltered.com

2 Juni 202320min

How can people move from anxiety, self-doubt, and fear to a confident, proactive state of mind regarding gender and sexuality? What are the tools for developing and celebrating inherent worth and genuine self-love? How can people design relationships, community, and a sex life that lights them up? And what if I live in the middle of nowhere with what seems like zero open-minded folks to date or connect with? Rae McDaniel, author of Gender Magic shares all of this and so much more. About our guest: Rae McDaniel (they/them) is a non-binary Speaker, Author, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator.  Rae helps audiences gain the sheer audacity to be themselves in the world through play, pleasure, and possibility. Their book Gender Magic is a first-of-its-kind practical guide to achieving gender freedom with joy, curiosity, and pleasure for transgender and non-binary individuals, gender explorers, and those who love them (May 2023.) They have been featured in high-profile media such as The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, Time, and Women’s Health. As a sought-after professional speaker, Rae has spoken at Rutgers University, University of Chicago, University of Illinois Chicago, Soho House, The Wing, and Rachel’s Rodgers’ ROI: The Millionaires Summit.  Rae is also the founder and CEO of Practical Audacity, a Gender & Sex Therapy practice in Chicago, serving over 300 clients yearly. When Rae isn’t educating audiences and bettering the world, they can be found drinking too much coffee, snuggling with their dog Gizmo (who might actually be a gremlin), or sipping whiskey with a good book.  Links: www.rae-mcdaniel.com www.gendermagic.com www.practicalaudacity.com Purchase “Gender Magic” IG & TikTok @theraemcdaniel  Facebook @raemcdanielgendermagic  Come Dance For Pride this Saturday, June 3rd, 7:30pm-10:30pm in Santa Cruz. Get your tickets ASAP at sistersproductions.net Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Other links: Get 20% off some of our absolute favorite sex toys by Fun Factory with code shameless at us.funfactory.com Get 7 days free + 25% off your subscription to our new favorite relationship app at paired.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at omgyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

30 Maj 202359min

Why does having a deeper connection to your pelvic floor lead to better orgasms? Does the same apply to penises and asses? How is squatting and peeing related? What are some of the best positions and tools (sex toys!) for a healthy pelvic floor (aka better orgasms)? Oh, and can a penis really break? About our guest: Dr. Meredith Brezinski is a pelvic health and orthopedic physical therapist located in Portland, Oregon. Meredith provides one-on-one, in home, concierge physical therapy services which eliminates the stress of commuting to an appointment, hiring childcare, and worrying about sharing the intimate details of your story with an entire clinic. Dr. Meredith knows that every person has a story to share and having time with your provider is often the piece that is lacking in our traditional healthcare system. Meredith will help you determine the root cause of your symptoms, develop a plan for relief, and help you get back to what is most important - living your best life! Meredith also serves as the Director of Pelvic Health for Concierge Physical Therapists, a nationwide company, that offers all in home services to their clients. We have therapists in 14 different states in the US and continue to grow to more locations. If you are interested in finding a therapist near you, you can find out more info at www.conciergephysicaltherapists.com. Meredith received her Doctorate of Physical Therapy at University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus in 2016 following her Bachelor of Science in Exercises Physiology at West Virginia University in 2013. She has completed numerous courses specific to pelvic health through Herman and Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute.  Meredith loves everything outdoors and can be found hiking, backpacking, on the water, or hanging out with her dogs Luke and Leia. She lives with her husband Will in Portland Oregon. To learn more visit www.drmeredithbrezinskipt.com Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Other links: Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get silky skin with 25% off our favorite adorable razors with code SHAMELESS at athenaclub.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

23 Maj 20231h 3min

Why is swallowing and deep-throating so popular, and why do a lot of people have an aversion toward engaging in these activities? What is the science behind swallowing and how does it relate to all types of oral sex (on vulvas, penises and all the in-betweens)? What are my options if I have a powerful gag reflex? How can I up my oral sex game including (but not limited to) swallowing and deep-throating? And what if I don't like certain body fluids in my mouth or throat? World renown Swallowologist Dr. Ianessa Humbert answers all this and much more. About our guest: Ianessa Humbert, Ph.D. is an accomplished scientist, professor, and highly sought-after speaker with expertise in swallowing and swallowing disorders. With over 100 speaking invitations around the world, the most common feedback from attendees continues to be “This is the first time a course has really forced me to think about what I’m doing”. Dr. Humbert’s teaching philosophy requires attendees to question everything they think they know before learning can begin. Dr. Humbert’s innovative training style has been funded by ASHFoundation and extends to non-traditional learning formats. She is the co-creator of the popular Down the Hatch podcast and has co-founded online learning tools including STEP (Swallowing Training and Education Portal), lovingly known as Swallowing Netflix, and has developed high-quality, no-cost learning tools available on her YouTube Channel. Dr. Humbert has demonstrated her gift for creating images that depict the dynamism of swallowing via her Swallowing Pocket Guide and Swallowing Neuro Anatomy and Physiology Shorts or SNAPS (on STEP). Dr. Humbert has been on faculty at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, the University of Florida, and the University of Iowa. The content from Dr. Humbert’s courses are supported by scientific evidence from her laboratory, from the larger body of research literature, and of course, common sense! To learn more visit www.ianessahumbert.com, and for Dr. Humbert's intimacy coaching visit www.ianessahumbertconsulting.com Attention penis-owners: Repeat guest Fabienne Annick's Sexual Self Mastery for Men 12 week training in erotic artistry and embodied sexual technique will be starting in a few days! Learn to become a brilliant, long-lasting lover through live calls, hours of video trainings, and epic guided practices. Learn from a well-trained woman who is devoted to supporting men and couples in their sex lives. Check out episodes 260 and 284 to hear her nerd out on men's sexuality. Plus you get $100 off with code SHAMELESS. You do not want to miss this one! Sign up ASAP here: fabienneannick.com/ssm Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Other links: Start meditating now with 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at www.calm.com/shameless Make eating healthy, delicious meals easy with 60% off plus free shipping at greenchef.com/shameless60 Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

16 Maj 20231h 3min

Why are a lot vulva owners told that incontinence, dryness, low libido and even painful sex are “just part of life"? Is there a secret to increasing energy, libido and metabolism while decreasing brain fog? What is hormone optimization all about? Can we really work against the aging process by keeping things juicy and supple? What is the latest technology for laser treatments such as the Halo and DiVa all about and how can it lead to healthy glowing skin and genitals? About our guest: April Umek, PA-C is co-owner of Pacific Coast Aesthetics and has been a PA for over 23 years. She has a specialty in holistic aesthetics, women's health, dermatology and emergency medicine. She and the team at Pacific Coast Aesthetics have a passion for using the latest laser and other technologies to help their patients reverse age and enjoy optimized mental, physical and sexual health. To learn more visit pacificcoastaesthetics.com. And guess what? April is offering a special offer only for our SHAMELESS SEX Listeners: 20% off DiVA! Just mention Shameless Sex when you book. IG: @pacificcoastaesthetics FB: facebook.com/Pacificcoastaesthetics Join us November 1st-6th, 2023 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Costa Rica! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Other links: Join the clean ass club and get 10% with code SHAMELESS at hellotushy.com/shameless Get 20% off some of our favorite products to amplify your sensuality with code SHAMELESS20 at HighOnLove.ca Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

9 Maj 20231h 34min