S6E17: My Friend Likes the Cheeto Man w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we're sharing advice on: Update: Telling sex stories Dating based on astrology Telling someone your real age Liking a man when you're gay Working at a kind-of strip club Don't Blame Them: Telling sex stories Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf Need Advice? www.dontblameme.show Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976 International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Call 1: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I thought of you both to ask this question because I know that sometimes you reference astrology. There is this a dating app it's called like Nuit something like that, but I've been utilizing it cuz I'm into astrology and I met this guy we'll name him Jerry and we got in a 92 in romance. It's basically like gives numerical amount to your synastry connections like if your entire birth chart, so we got a 92. To me, that means that we are meant to be, right? But he's really really dragging his feet on things. I'm an Aries, I'm Venus in Aries so I'm very impatient and we like spent a lot of time in messages, but he doesn't want to meet up like he keeps blaming it on, you know, social distancing which I totally understand but it's like where we live our city we're out of the zone where we're able to like meet up so I don't really get it, I'm having a hard time like moving on cuz normally I'm an Aries that's like if you know if it's not like going anywhere I'm totally done with it but like our charts are so so compatible. So I like lowkey feel like he's the one so I just I'm looking for some advice like you think that he would just make that an excuse like he still messages me all the time or should I just move on even though our stars are aligned and we're literally meant to be. I don't know why he's not recognizing it - a 92 for god's sake. But anyways, appreciate any insight you can give, love the pod, have a beautiful day. Call 2: Hey guys. I'm calling in for some kind of relationship advice. It's kind of just a sticky situation I got myself in. So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now. And when I met him, I told him I was a year older than I actually was. Not because for any specific reason like we just were friends at first, but always told people that I'm a year older than I actually am cuz my birthday is like late, just according to like the school months and I met him when we were in school. So yeah, I told him I was a year older than I actually was and we're we've been dating for two years. So I've only had one birthday like just like with him of that make sense and we're long distance right now. So I didn't have to worry about it like cuz I had forgotten like he thought I was a year older but this birthday coming up I remembered again and I realized like, oh shoot. I need to tell him because when I turn of age or twenty-one, I think that's of age like I'm sure he's going to want to do something like something like that I actually have to be 21 for and I feel really secure in our relationship, but I'm still like like I'm just really like I don't know how to bring it up. Okay, I don't know. I feel like that's kind of like a big confession type of thing. But yeah, I'm a Leo. He's a Taurus. Yeah, we are long-distance again, but I know it was kind of fucked for me to do in the first place and like I acknowledge that and I made a huge mistake. Well, not a huge one, but it's just kind of like a stupid one. Anyways, if you guys have any advice for me, I would love to hear it. Thank you guys. Call 3: Hi friends. I just wanted to call and say one: I love your podcast. I listen to it on all my road-trips. But I was calling cuz I have a little bit of a predicament. So I'm I've always I'm gay. I've always identified as gay since I was like probably fifteen years old. I came out as gay to my super religious family that had kind of a hard time with it. And so like it took them awhile to accept me, but eventually they came around and it was like a thing that made us stronger or whatever. But recently, I've been kind of requestioning my sexuality. I have been kind of curious about boys because there is this guy that I met on OK Cupid and he has like all the qualities of someone that I would like he's, you know a Hufflepuff which is really important me, he's a Libra he's an ENFJ, I think I don't know I know he's ENF something. I'm an Aries. And I love Libras. Like I love Libras. They always crush my heart but I love them and we get along really well and he wants to have sex but I'm really really worried because I've never had sex with a man, and I'm just really confused and just concerned cuz I do have some - I do have some trauma with like men, not really a big fan. So I'm worried it like we're going to try and during I'm going to like freak out on him and it's going to be a whole big thing but I just I don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I'm worried that if I do like him I'm going to have to re-come out to my parents and be like "Hi parents, remember, when, remember I told you that I was gay surprise, there's a man I like is it was all for nothing and they're going to feel emotional and I'm just really concerned. So if you could help me that would be great. Cuz I really don't know what to do. Anyway, like I said love your show. Love you all. I'm like I said, I'm an Aries. He's a Libra. Yeah, I hope you can help me bye. Call 4: Hey you guys so I'm in a bit of a pickle. I'm trying to cut this down short cuz I sent a phone call but it was too long. Anyways, I've been with my boyfriend for over a little over three years. I'm a Leo. He's a Sagittarius. I've known him practically my whole life ever since elementary school and me and his mom were super super close, literally talked almost every day. I visit her at work, we would go to on dinner dates together. She I like saw her as one of my friends not my boyfriend's mom. Well, I used to work at this type of establishment. It was kind of like a strip club but not really but we did dress like strippers but we didn't dance but it was also partial nudity and we kept it a secret and she somehow found out that I worked at that type of establishment and she also found out what I was wearing and when she brought it up to my boyfriend, he was super embarrassed and he got really mad at me and I was really confused. Cause I was like you gave me permission to you know work at this job. I asked you if you were okay with it. He said yes, I was like, okay cool. If he wasn't okay with it, I totally would have left cuz I don't have any problem with that. Anyways, she found out and it's been it was really really awkward. It also was on that the first week of shelter in place here in California, and I haven't talked to her for months and then just one day I decided to reach out and like hey, like I know you know where I used to work at, if you want to talk like I'm really sorry. I just feel super awkward about this situation and then she ended up texting back like hey, we don't have to talk about it if you don't want to but I responded, but I feel like I need to because I'm dating your son and it was really awkward and she was like, okay, like we'll talk about it soon like see you soon, and it's been months since I have last seen her and she never texted me back. So what do I do? I want to reach out and like rekindle our relationship because I'm literally planning on like having kids with this man and marrying this man and we live together and have lived together for like two years. So please if you have any advice on how to reach out if I should reach out if I should not reach out. What do I do? Thanks guys, love the podcast bye. Call 5: Hi Megan, I'm calling in I am in my twenties and I just wanted to get some advice on a current situation that I'm in. So I was friends with this girl who I know through. I don't want to give too much detail, but I I basically know this girl and I've been friends with her for a while and we got really close like the kind of close where like you share really personal information that sort of thing. Well, I started getting more information from like like who she is and like what types of stuff she follows through one of her social media accounts. and turns out she's basically a closeted Trump supporter did not know that about her. I am the literal polar opposite. I hate him with like every fiber of my being and he completely offends me. So I just I guess I'm asking for advice on A: how to handle the fact that due to how I know this person, I can't avoid them, but also like this is like the second person that I've gotten close to who I you know liked as like, you know, like a person in my life and gotten really like gotten along well with them and they've ended up being a Trump supporter and I just I I guess I'm asking for like, how do I find these red flags? Like why am I not seeing them? I'm I am so anti-Trump. Like I am so actively anti-Trump and like I am all the thing against him because he's so terrible and like as a woman like I just I I can't fathom anyone supporting him like wholeheartedly and I just how do I find these red flags cuz like I'm really struggling. Any advice you have would be great. Thank you. Don't Blame Them: Hi ladies, so I am calling about the last episode where the girl had her boyfriend asking to tell him about like previous sex partners and stuff. So I my boyfriend actually likes the same thing and I used to be really uncomfortable with it too but how I figured out that like it was more comfortable for me is like I was kind of like do it like while we were having sex and like let's say like he's hitting it from the back. I'd be like, oh my gosh, like I loved when Josh did it like that and he fucked me like so hard, you know what I mean? I'm kind of bring it up like that and kind of like make him excited or just kind of be like, oh like so-and-so did it like this and it felt so good good like not exactly like, oh one day like on a Wednesday, so and so they like the so that just kind of like made it easier for me and then you know, you kind of get more comfortable with it after doing it so many times. So that's just my advice to her. Thank you guys. Have a great day. Bye. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. 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