152: Transformational Leadership: Navigating Authenticity and Innovation with Dan Tocchini

“When we start sharing with people what our values are, what are our boundaries, what are the non-negotiables in our life, and then we start not following through on that… it’s a slippery slope.” – Dai Manuel In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Dai Manuel, a lifestyle business mentor, high-performance life coach, author, and Tedx speaker. Dai is also a dad who’s dating his wife! Why? Tune in to find out! Dai spent too much of his life dishonoring his boundaries, leaving him feeling empty and disconnected. So, he learned how to embrace change and make some very important shifts, both is mindset and behavior. As you know, change doesn’t happen overnight, but the intentional decisions Dai has made throughout his life have truly altered the trajectory of his health, career, and relationships. Do you ever find yourself projecting your insecurities onto others? Do you compromise your boundaries to gain validation or stay in your comfort zone? Are you a champion of change or a victim of change? Whatever your answers to those questions are, start to get curious. Listen in to learn why fear is a big motivator for men to change, how to have a more positive relationship with change, and the question Dai’s wife asked him that changed his life forever. Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [01:02] About Dai Manuel. [05:35] Why do men compromise on boundaries so often? What happens when you compromise boundaries and how do you stop? [13:14] What happens when you decide to prioritize your boundaries and shift your mindset around change? [24:33] Dating your spouse, the power of self-talk, & how vulnerability benefits your life. [37:47] Managing your time isn’t as important as managing your commitments of how you’ll spend your time. [41:34] How to connect with Dai. [43:16] What life experience has shaped the way you view the world as a man?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned:   Connect with Dai: Visit his website: https://www.daimanuel.com  Connect with him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daimanuel  Connect with him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daimanuel  Subscribe to his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9iCx-A0RXQUv5zvL6nlfTQ    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg    About The Modern Man: “The Modern Man” is a series focused on discussing the challenges and obstacles men face in today’s society. It is an open forum of discussion where thoughts, strategies and ideas of men living a happy and fulfilled life are explored.   The Modern Man aims to create a community of men not only sharing and connecting on a deeper level, but also exploring how to thrive and tap into their limitless potential. This is done through intentional conversations strategically aimed at issues that men face in today’s society.

15 Feb 202348min

Are you letting fear hold you back from reaching your greatest goals? Let’s talk about how to reverse that. In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Christopher Dedeyan, a peak performance coach, professional speaker, and advocate for learning disabilities. Chris specializes in helping top tier individuals and entrepreneurs hit peak performance in their personal and professional lives.   Chris is proof that people with learning disabilities or difficult upbringings are more than capable of creating a successful career for themselves. It takes resiliency and the willingness to uncover and utilize your biggest strengths.   Listen in as Chris shares his story with Dyslexia and tells us his secrets for confidently pursuing anything you want to succeed in. He describes the importance of habits and rituals in being your best self and how to use fear as a compass for your life.   Even if everyone thinks you’re crazy or incapable of achieving your goals and dreams… if you step out of your comfort zone and build resilience within yourself, you CAN do it.   “Now, I can very confidently say the main reason why I succeeded is because I am dyslexic and I learned to be relentless.” – Christopher Dedeyan   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [01:09] About Christopher Dedeyan. [02:59] His experience being diagnosed with Dyslexia & How he adapted to his learning disability and found his ideal career. [11:34] The powerful benefits of having an adaptable mindset when you’re facing career/business challenges. [16:27] Why you need to do things that scare you. [20:41] If we increase our capacity for life, we’re more likely to show up when life gets hard. So, how do you do that? [25:20] Success = Habits + Rituals (+ two days MAX of wiggle room) [29:11] Why Chris has 8 coaches and mentors. [34:34] How to connect with Chris + How to get a free 30-minute coaching call with him. [36:51] What life experience has shaped the way you view the world as a man?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Schedule your FREE 30-minute coaching call with Chris: link needed Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman: https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/dp/0374533555   Connect with Christopher: Visit his website: https://www.christopherdedeyan.com Listen to The Peak Performance Greatness Show: https://www.christopherdedeyan.com/tppgs   Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherdedeyan Subscribe to his YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChYsxip-UNPFydaDReRjsVQ Connect with Chris on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopherdedeyan   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg   About The Modern Man: “The Modern Man” is a series focused on discussing the challenges and obstacles men face in today’s society. It is an open forum of discussion where thoughts, strategies and ideas of men living a happy and fulfilled life are explored.   The Modern Man aims to create a community of men not only sharing and connecting on a deeper level, but also exploring how to thrive and tap into their limitless potential. This is done through intentional conversations strategically aimed at issues that men face in today’s society.

8 Feb 202343min

“Leaders can’t afford not to ask people for help because if somebody in your chain of command has a really good idea, that can make your business, it can make your pitch, it can bring people home alive. You need to surface that kind of insight.” – Randall Crowder How does it feel to be told you’re going to war? In this episode of The Modern Man, I speak with Randall Crowder, an angel investor, advisor, entrepreneur, veteran, and COO of the Austin-based tech company, Phunware. Randall is passionate about creating new ventures and the innovative spirit that fuels entrepreneurs and advances technology. He’s here to talk about leadership, entrepreneurship, and translating your military skills to the business world.   Randall has an incredible collection of life experiences that have shaped him as a man, leader, husband, and soon-to-be father. Randall and I talk about what it takes to successfully transition out of the military and into civilian life, how to get a mentor and get your ideas heard, and a few parenting techniques that can help you raise your children to be successful adults.   Are you a veteran looking to transfer your military skills to the world of business and entrepreneurship? Do you have an idea that you think could lead to something great? It all starts with a conversation just like this one. Tune in to learn more!   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [01:50] About Randall Crowder. [06:29] How it feels to go to war & Randall’s thoughts on the war in Ukraine. [10:55] Translating military skills, like teamwork, to the business world. [18:14] The power of mentorship & The difference between mentors and role models.  [23:14] Advice on mastering the art of delegation as an entrepreneur. [25:34] How to overcome the challenges of leading a team and managing people. [30:35] “Some are winners, some are losers, some just haven’t figured out how to win yet.” [37:26] These are the moments that truly define us… [41:02] About Phunware & How they’re disrupting the tech market. [45:48] How to connect with Randall & Phunware. [47:03] What has shaped the way you view the world as a man?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Learn more about Phunware: https://www.phunware.com  Startup Nation: https://startupnation.com   Connect with Randall: Visit his website: http://www.randallcrowder.com  Connect with him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallcrowder Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randallcrowder Learn more about Randall: http://www.randallcrowder.com/qa.html    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg  Lastly… If you’re serious about taking control of your life as a man and stepping toward your potential, don’t do it alone. Tap in to a network ready to help save you time, money, and headaches along the way. Check out The Noble Knight Mastermind and take that first step!

1 Feb 202358min

“When I started exposing my body to cold water, I became so present. It was like my body was saying, hey, I’m here, come back to me. When you go into that extreme state… you’re able to reregulate the mind, the body, your resetting the hormones, activating the nervous system, and at the end of the day, you’re resetting the stress response in the body.” – Wyatt Ewing Did you know cold plunges can decrease anxiety and prevent cognitive decline? In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Wyatt Ewing, Founder, and CEO of Ice Barrel, a company creating cold therapy training units and teaching the world the benefits of cold plunging. Wyatt’s here to share those benefits with you so you can decide if you’re ready to take the plunge. After experiencing burnout and severe stress as a young adult, Wyatt was desperate for a reset button. Little did he know, a cold shower would be the reset that would change his life forever. Listen in as Wyatt shares his experience overcoming burnout, transforming his mental health, and finding fulfillment through radical self-care and entrepreneurship. Do you feel stressed, anxious, and pressured to hustle and grind? Perhaps it’s time to embrace discomfort and introduce a little cold into your life! Tune in to hear Wyatt describe the incredible health benefits of cold therapy, how he finds a balance between work life and family life, and a simple, yet strange way to get better sleep at night.   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:49] About Wyatt Ewing & Ice Barrel. [04:01] What gave you the courage to quit your job and start your own business? [09:35] How does cold therapy affect the body? How do cold therapy impact stress, anxiety, and depression? [13:52] What does it feel like to do a cold plunge or cold shower? [18:21] The benefits of ice baths and cold water immersion for your immune system + How long and how cold should cold plunges be? [20:18] Tips for balancing a business and family life. [23:48] Why nature-based routines are a powerful way to optimize your mental health. [27:51] Why nose breathing is healthier than mouth breathing. [29:31] How to connect with Wyatt & Learn more about Ice Barrel. [30:50] What has shaped the way you view the world as a man?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Ice Barrel: https://icebarrel.com  What Doesn’t Kill Us by Scott Carney: https://www.scottcarney.com/what-doesnt-kill-us    Connect with Wyatt & Ice Barrel: Visit their website: https://icebarrel.com  Connect with Wyatt on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/wyattewing Connect with Ice Barrel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icebarrel  Follow Ice Barrel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icebarrel    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg  Lastly… If you’re serious about taking control of your life as a man and stepping toward your potential, don’t do it alone. Tap in to a network ready to help save you time, money, and headaches along the way. Check out The Noble Knight Mastermind and take that first step!

25 Jan 202336min

“We can’t give up. I think the more we talk about it, the more we interrogate it, the more we speak out against bullying, against people who make fun of people who act differently, and the more that will change. But it’s up to all of us.” – Silvia Dutchevici In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Silvia Dutchevici, a psychotherapist, author, and Founder and President of Critical Therapy Institute, a unique form of therapy that combines the personal with the political/societal. Listen in as Silvia shares her thoughts on why it’s crucial to observe how societal issues such as sexism, racism, and poverty impact men's and women’s mental health. Silvia shines a light on how privilege determines the level of power you have in the world and how you understand that power as well as how we can tap into that power to create positive change. We also discuss the true power of an apology, how to find a safe space to show vulnerability as a man, and the societal behaviors that are vital to changing the world for the better. If we want to end racism, reverse poverty, and dismantle sexism, it’s up to the people who have more power and privilege to work against it. If we want women to have more power and men to show up differently, we need to learn how to share power and have collaborative relationships. If we want to change the system we’re in, we have to work collaboratively.   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:49] About Silvia Dutchevici & Critical Therapy Institute. [03:49] How society and culture impact our behaviors & Why men feel pressured to behave in certain ways. [06:31] Power is always within a dynamic and it exists in every relationship. Why is this important? [08:11] Is innate competitiveness a bad thing? How can I use my ambition to create good in the world? [11:41] In a divisive political culture, how can we foster more collaboration and constructive dialogue?  [15:46] The true power of apologies and forgiveness in healing personal and societal issues. [18:09] How to finally overcome your challenges in dating, job security, parenting, and more. [23:22] How to find safe spaces for showing vulnerability and expressing your feelings. [26:25] Is it easier to learn to function in the world as it is or learn how to change the world? [31:29] How to connect with Silvia & Learn more about Critical Therapy. [32:11] What has shaped the way you view the world as a woman? [34:52] An important message about using your power and what makes strong mana.   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Learn more about Critical Therapy Institute: https://criticaltherapy.org Critical Therapy: Power and Liberation in Psychotherapy by Silvia M. Dutchevici, MA, LCSW: https://criticaltherapy.org/the-book    Connect with Silvia: Connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/silvia-dutchevici Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silviadutchevici    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg  Lastly… If you’re serious about taking control of your life as a man and stepping toward your potential, don’t do it alone. Tap into a network ready to help save you time, money, and headaches along the way. Check out The Noble Knight Mastermind and take that first step!

18 Jan 202339min

“Productivity changes as you get older and what you really want to aim for and how you do it shifts as well.” – Daniel Sih In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Daniel Sih, an award-winning productivity author, speaker, entrepreneur, father, and husband. Daniel teaches people how to rethink their relationship with technology and shift their work and life habits to be more productive. Essentially, he focuses on how to get the right things done in a meaningful, directional way. Daniel believes that none of us should justify resting and living well through an economic or productivity lens. There’s value in being human. There’s value in setting aside your devices, prioritizing non-tech habits and hobbies, and observing how technology impacts you and your family’s happiness. Are you suffering from “digital overuse”? Are you mastering your tech tools or are they mastering you? Regardless of your answer, it’s likely time for you to begin making pace and making space in your life. Tune in to learn how to do that as well as how pace and space can transform your relationship with technology, productivity, and happiness. Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [01:02] About Daniel Sih & Spacemaker. [03:00] How do you stay productive while parenting, running a business, or nurturing a marriage? [05:32] How a slower pace and rest can help you be more productive. [08:35] The true relationship between technology and productivity – How does our productivity and happiness suffer when we use technology? [12:33] The two skillsets of being a Spacemaker. [14:47] What you practice changes your brain… How does our use of technology change and even harm our brains? [20:40] Daniel breaks down the pros and cons of using social media. [25:48] Tips for boosting productivity, better manage your technology use, and build the life you really want. [34:10] How to set your kids up with good tech habits & When is the right time to give a kid a smartphone? [42:09] How to connect with Daniel & Access his free resources. [43:22] What life experience has shaped the way you view the world as a man?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Spacemaker: How to Unplug, Unwind, & Think Clearly in the Digital Age by Daniel Sih: https://spacemakers.com.au/book  Raising Tech-Healthy Humans by Daniel Sih: https://spacemakers.com.au/rtth  Get your FREE Tech-Parenting Resource Pack: https://raisinghumans.au/gift   Connect with Daniel: Visit his website: https://spacemakers.com.au  Connect with Spacemakers on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shiftthewayyouwork  Connect with Daniel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielsih    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

11 Jan 202348min

In this episode of The Modern Man, I’m joined by Alison A. Armstrong, an author, educator, and creator of several courses including Understanding Men and Understanding Women. She also created an audiobook that I’ve been playing on repeat called The Amazing Development of Men. Alison’s work has helped me, along with countless other men, communicate and articulate what I’m going through to the women in my life. I’m thrilled for you to hear the insights and wisdom she’s gained from decades of studying men and women.   Alison was born to be an advocate. She’s been speaking up for various groups of people her whole life, but for the past 30 years, she’s been primarily advocating for men. Why? “Because mostly women can’t hear men,” she says.   Tune in to learn how to hone your communication, understand the meaning behind your commitment, and restore your honor through noble forgiveness.   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:48] About Alison A. Armstrong [05:38] Key insights from The Amazing Development of Men & How men and women think of engagement and marriage differently. [11:58] Understanding the purpose of men’s hobbies. [14:53] “Men don’t try, they engage.” [18:16] How to give women the gift of presence. [21:13] Why progress is everything when navigating the Prince Stage (puberty to 30s). [25:31] How to restore your honor through the power of noble forgiveness. [39:52] Transitioning into your King phase – What does it look like to be a King? [47:38] How to connect with Alison and access her resources.   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Understanding Men & Understanding Women Courses: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/curriculum/und/umuw.html The Amazing Development of Men by Alison A. Armstrong: https://amzn.to/3Grd0Kw  Keys to the Kingdom by Alison A. Armstrong: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/kingdom.html    Connect with Alison: Visit her website: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheAlisonArmstrong  Follow her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alison_Teaches Connect with her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/understandmen  Subscribe to her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/PAXPrograms    Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com  Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820  Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show  Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

4 Jan 202351min

“Men have more to give than they realize.” – Scott Rammage In this episode of The Modern Man, you’ll meet Scott Rammage, a serial entrepreneur and host of The Brotherhood of Fatherhood Podcast. This is an incredibly inspiring and empowering discussion about facing adversity in fatherhood and being a better man, father, and husband than you are right now. Scott has been married for 26 years and has two teenage boys. He’s passionate about helping men become leaders in their homes and communities. That’s why he co-founded The Brotherhood of Fatherhood, a group for men to help each other step up and lead, do hard things, and never settle on good enough. Even if you’ve made bad decisions in your marriage or as a dad, you have the ability to right your wrongs and grow to be a better father and husband. The power is inside of you at all times. Tune in to gain insights from Scott on how to step into your power, face adversity, overcome failure, and build yourself up to the next level.  Remember, be the buffalo!   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:48] About Scott Rammage & [03:15] Scott speaks on how he navigated entrepreneurship and business growth as a new father. [10:41] The dangers of attaching your identity to your work. [12:16] How The Brotherhood of Fatherhood started & Scott’s ultimate goal. [14:10] Oftentimes, we don’t realize our own gifts we can share with the world. Scott talks about the power of connecting to your self-worth and the value you provide to the world. [17:48] How leaning into challenges and uncertainty, instead of staying in your comfort zone, makes you a better father. [20:58] How to use the 3 Pillars of The Brotherhood of Fatherhood to overcome any adversity. [27:01] What common challenges are modern men facing right now? [31:02] The #1 key to being the BEST father you can be. [32:37] If you’ve messed up in your marriage, here’s how to take accountability and fix it. [36:06] How do you succeed as an entrepreneur with kids? [40:44] How to connect with Scott & The Brotherhood of Fatherhood.   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Listen to the Brotherhood of Fatherhood Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brotherhood-of-fatherhood/id1506798772 Listen to the Stories That Sell Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stories-that-sell/id1582826898   Connect with Scott: Email Scott: scott@brotherhoodfatherhood.com Join The Brotherhood of Fatherhood Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/brotherhoodofatherhood Subscribe to his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5lhNHTkm1ly6Maoh4bei5w Connect with Scott on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scott-rammage Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_modernman_show Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

28 Dec 202247min