152: Transformational Leadership: Navigating Authenticity and Innovation with Dan Tocchini

“Don't do something that you can't see yourself doing for the rest of your life.” -Steve Lutsk Finding time to exercise and get in shape is a real struggle for us, men. After all, there's always something else to do—whether it's changing diapers or making dinner, or running our business.  But here's what I know: if we're going to be healthy and fit for life, then we need to make time for ourselves. In fact, if we look closely, we have lots of opportunities to make small changes in our lives that will help us feel good about ourselves and get healthy in the process.  The problem is that we've been trained to think that a healthy lifestyle is something that only the most hardcore of people can achieve. But guess what? Being healthy isn't a competition between you and your body. It's not about how many squats you can do or how many miles you run every week. It's about making sure your body has the tools it needs to function at its best, in any situation, while still being fun and enjoyable. It doesn’t have to be so complicated!  We have to remember that our fitness journey is as important as the other aspects of our lives. Therefore, I am thrilled to interview LA personal trainer, Steve Lutsk in this week’s episode. Steve has gone from being a skinny-fat nerdy Jewish kid to a fitness pro. Seeing how much this is affecting his social life and self-esteem, he finally decided to make small changes. Steve has been helping his clients get rid of their dad bods and be in shape for 10 years now.  Listen in as Steve and I talk about how much time we really need to get fit and you’d be happy to hear that it’s not that much! We also discuss facts about intermittent fasting, fasted workouts, diet tips, the importance of tracking our progress, how the quality of our sleep affects our results, and the best way to start our fitness journey, and more!    Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube    Highlights:  02:24 How Much Time Do You Need?  06:28 What You Need to Know About Intermittent Fasting 11:44 Fasted Workouts  16:22 Track Your Progress 19:19 Sleep and Rest 23:47 Diet Tips 28:15 Where to Start 31:41 Recap

31 Aug 202235min

“We know what we're capable of, therefore, we suppress it. It's capable of so much bad and it's capable of as much good in the world. And we're robbing the world of that good by completely dismissing it.” -Dylan Roos Boys are often taught that being a man is about being tough, taking charge, and never showing weakness. This idea is so deeply embedded in our culture that it's hard to even imagine that it could be wrong.  But this view of masculinity can be extremely damaging to boys who are being raised by parents who believe that "tough" is the only thing that matters in life. It's time for us to challenge this idea and discover the path to real manhood. It’s time we transform into real men—men who are strong, but also kind and compassionate.   This week, I got to sit down with Masculinity Coach and Mentor, Dylan Roos. Dylan’s mission is to help young boys transition to manhood through The Prince to King Method. Once a troubled young man, Dylan understood what it felt like to lose a sense of direction and to drown in overwhelming emotions. But Dylan also learned that being a man takes courage to embrace the discomfort that growth brings. Listen in as we discuss the biggest drivers to our perception of masculinity, how we can heal our wounds as men, how comfort makes us sick, how to deal with isolation and loneliness in men, and how being vulnerable brings more benefit than we can imagine.    Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  01:44 The Transition from Boys to Men 05:34 How Important Role Models Are 10:32 Why Toxic is Not for Masculinity 14:56 Comfort— A Modern-Day Plague 18:26 Isolation and Loneliness in Men 23:23 Vulnerability is Real Strength  29:05 Create a New Reality 33:59 The Danger Behind What Society Values Most 38:44 Choose Your Role Model 41:32 Recap

24 Aug 202245min

“You are only responsible for your action or inaction. That’s half the equation. What’s the other half? All outcomes… belong to God.” -Joseph Warren Anger and stress can be a massive drain on our personal lives and careers. They not only take a toll on mental health, but they can also impact our relationships— with other people and most importantly, with ourselves. Feelings of anger or frustration cause us to lash out at others unwittingly.  Moreover, male anger is often mislabeled as aggression or hostility. This makes it difficult for us, as men, to express our emotions or ask for help when we're having a hard time. Besides, it can also lead to poor performance at work because it makes it difficult to focus on what needs doing.  It's easy to get caught up in anger and lose track of what's important. That's where stress comes in. So instead of focusing on how angry or stressed out we feel right now, we can choose to focus on finding ways to deal with these feelings so they don't become overwhelming or damaging. In this episode, I got to sit down with the #1 Podcast Host of Broken Catholic and Your FIRST $100K and spiritual coach at The Men’s Anger Coach™. Joseph started his business at 19 and was able to semi-retire for some time. However, the dark side of success had him covered in dark clouds. He was filled with anger and anxiety, his wealth was exhausted, and he almost lost his life on many occasions. Until… he found his greater purpose in life and his life began to turn around— both in his personal life and career.  Joseph and I discuss how to blow up these rocks that hinder our growth. We also talk about the real cause of anger and stress and the necessary steps we need to take in order to manage these emotions. These steps are not easy, but as Joseph says, are guaranteed effective. How do we know? Tune in to find out!    Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  01:09 From Anger and Stress to Peace and Purpose 07:57 Master Your Anger and Stress Step 1: Outrageous Ownership  13:27 Step 2: Radical Responsibility 15:47 Step 3: Loving Leadership 19:47 Step 4: Spiritual Surrender 25:23 90 Days Guarantee 30:18 Are You Ready?  32:49 Recap

17 Aug 202235min

“Compassion is a place of understanding without judgment. And in compassion, we can create change.” -Jonathan McLernon When it comes to weight loss, self-love, and holistic health, the connection between the three is more apparent than ever. Popular culture has made it clear that the first two are synonymous with the third, but the truth is much more complicated than that.  Many people follow diet trends and weight loss tips without taking the time to understand deeper why they do them in the first place. Their goal is to follow a standard taught to them by society. But that standard is often motivated by self-loathing and being unhappy with the person they are inside out.  Our guest this week, Nutrition and Fitness Coach, Jonathan McLernon explains that there’s a lot more to a healthy lifestyle than just what goes into our body. It’s not just about calories and macronutrient ratios— it’s about self-love.  Join us as we attach a deeper meaning to self-love and reframe what we already know about self-care. Coach Jon and I also talk about how healthy food choices may even be faster than fast food, how weight is not a problem but a symptom, why brain-driven weight loss is more effective, how health is affected by many other factors besides food, and how we can lose not only weight but our old, self-sabotaging self.      Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  02:49 Ending the Endless Restlessness 09:07 The Link Between Emotion and Food 14:06 The Spark of Transformation 17:35 The Brain-Driven Weight Loss 22:14 Faster Than Fast Foods 26:33 Health Beyond the Food Factor 30:03 There’s a Journey to Be Had 36:15 Recap

10 Aug 202240min

“In order to scale effectively, we have to be completely removed from the day-to-day operations in the business.” -Patrick Rogers   A scalable business is a company that is profitable but also has the potential to become even more profitable, without the owner being directly involved in its day-to-day processes.  Creating a business model like this can be tough. But there are ways to can create a scalable business that can be successfully exited—and it doesn't have to come at the expense of our integrity.  Exit Planning Advisor and serial entrepreneur Patrick Rogers joins me this week for a powerful conversation on business building. Patrick has mentored CEO’s and business leaders to achieve their goals and transform their organizations into successful entities positioned for a profitable exit.  In this episode, Patrick and I discuss the signs that a company has high growth potential, how to balance our life triangle (relationships, career, and self), the drivers that affect the value of a company, three processes that affect the scalability of a business, and critical attributes that every business owner should possess. Our goal as an entrepreneur should be to make our business as successful as possible— and that’s exactly the core of our discussion. Join in!   Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  03:14 Signs of a Growth Potential 07:53 Stop Running Away  10:14 What is a Scalable Business? 15:38 Why Entrepreneurs Sell Their Business 21:57 Risks that Prevent the Sale of a Business 25:15 How to Make Your Company as Successful as Possible 27:25 Recap

3 Aug 202230min

“Asking ‘why?’ is a valid question for a period, but it's not a place you want to live. You have to make a conscious decision not to live in that place.” -Phil Cohen   All of us have experienced loss- whether it's a person, a job, a relationship, or a property. And we know so well that there's no way to describe the intensity of the pain we have to go through. During the grieving process, we see everything in black and the question of 'why?' only made it worse. We seek answers to make sense of what happened, but there's nothing. Eventually, we drown in grief and can't seem to get out . Therefore, it's important to understand that grief isn’t something we can just get over with. It’s a natural, healthy response to loss. It may feel like we'll never be able to move on, but if we let ourselves get stuck in that place, our loss will only have more power over us.  It often takes a long time and a lot of effort to move forward— we just have to be patient. We remember, we grieve, we heal— but we don’t have to do all of those things at once.  The day Phil Cohen lost his son was also the day he almost lost himself. Every single day of the search and rescue operation was filled with anguish and also hope that his son, Perry, who was only 14 at that time, would be safe and alive. The darkest days eventually came when he was told that his son might never be found again. To a parent, this would be a death sentence. Years later, we see Phil still remembering every moment of that day- but no longer with a heavy heart, but as a man with passion and sincerity. Listen in as Phil and I talk about where we can catch a gleamer of hope when we feel we can never recover from our pain, the unspoken truths about grief, the 3 R’s of healing (Reflect, Repair, React), how we can surpass the stage of acceptance and live our purpose, and a fine lesson about weathering the storms from cows and buffaloes.    Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  02:45 A Really Bad Storm 05:14 Misconceptions About Grief 10:48 Where Focus Goes, Energy Flows 15:40 The Lies Men Were Taught to Believe 19:47 The 3 R’s of  22:11 How to Surpass Acceptance 26:08 Recap

27 Juli 202228min

“You need some help yourself and it's hard to switch to that mindset. But if you don't do that, you can't possibly be the type of person who's going to give your 100% effort to help other people.” -Scott DeLuzio Asking for help doesn't make us weak. It makes us strong! There's a lot to be said for how men can build each other up. But sometimes, some of us men just don't know how to ask for help. It's not that we're trying to be rude or ungrateful—it's just that we've been taught from a young age that it's not polite to ask for help, and so we don't do it. But what if being a man means giving ourselves permission to ask for help?  This week, I got to sit with Surviving Son author Scott DeLuzio to discuss why asking for help is something we should start practicing. Scott is an author, podcast host, and war veteran. He and his brother Steven were deployed to Afghanistan in 2010. Sadly, Scott lost his brother in the war. Following his transition to civilian life, Scott found it hard to overcome his grief and trauma. He almost lost his way, until he decided to man up and do what most of us are afraid to do— ask for help.  Listen in as Scott and I talk about the biggest lesson we can learn about mental health, how we can give voice to the voiceless, why it’s necessary that we share our story to the world, and how we can overcome the fear of asking for help.    Connect The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  03:59 Joining the Military 09:52 The Nightmare of the Surviving Son 14:00 Overcoming PTSD 19:43 The Biggest Lesson on Mental Health  22:38 Ask For Help 27:23 Giving Voice to the Voiceless 31:11 Don’t Take Your Story to the Grave 33:00 Recap

20 Juli 202233min

“It's our values that drive our decisions for our priorities.” -Tyler Foley We're often talking about our priorities in life, but what about the things we value?—the things that make us happy, the things that make us feel fulfilled, and the things that bring us joy. How can we be sure we're making the right choices for ourselves? The key is on how we set and solidify our values. The more we value something, the more likely it will be a priority for us, and the better we’re going to handle it.  In this episode, I was honored to sit across lifelong actor, speaker, trainer, and author of The Power to Speak Naked, Sean Tyler Foley. At an early age, Tyler discovered that there are two sounds in our world- the one we so seek and the one we want to run away from. This helped him to follow a certain path, but more importantly, to set values that would push him closer to the sound he wants to follow.  Tune in as Tyler and I talk about the power we have to speak our voice and how we can use our voice to stand up for what we believe in. We also discussed how our values can lead to monetization, how we can help our children to shape their own values, how men can build each other up, and how understanding what money really is can lead to true abundance.   Connect with The Modern Man: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube   Highlights:  01:45 Appreciate the Art!  05:22 Two Types of Sound 10:50 The Connection Between Values and Priorities 16:57 Men Build Each Other Up 20:56 Money— The Currency of Energy Exchange 28:13 Kids Reflect Who You Are as a Father 37:02 Recap

13 Juli 202239min