"Do I have a bad therapist?"

This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses what makes a good and bad therapist, how to know if you’re seeing a bad one, why we need validation from others, and the difference between anxiety and autism. She will also explain why people self-harm, what a block in therapy is and how to overcome it, how to find a good partner, and why trauma and bedwetting are connected. Ask Kati Anything ep.259 | Your mental health podcast AUDIENCE QUESTIONS 1. Hi Kati, I hope you're doing okay. I'm so thankful for all that you do. Your videos have been so helpful to me and sorry in advance for the loaded question. My question is do I have a bad therapist? for context im in therapy for a eating disorder and see a eating disorder specialist. i like her personality and we get along well but every session feels unproductive? i was raped a few months ago and when i told her about it we talked about it for a few minutes not in detail at all, then the next session she brought in my mom (without telling me she was going to do this before hand) talked to her about it and then we never talked about the situation again which is just weird to me. another situation was where she brought my mom in and told her i was still purging (even though i explicitly asked her not to as i just get grounded by my parents) and she told anyways and didnt even let me know she would be sharing this with my mom before hand. every session she asks what i want to talk about and i have a hard time thinking of things to say. i have already told her about the big problems in my life my eating issues, the rape, symptoms of depression , anxiety, and family problems. she knows about all of this but she never gives any homework, or solutions iv only felt worse as iv been in therapy. lm now scared to bring up other things with her like body image and self harm because its embarrassing and , i dont know what will be shared with my family, and she probably wont help with it anyways. im so lost in this situation can you give me some advice on what to do? sorry again for the long question and thank you 2. How do you get over needing validation from someone? How do you learn to be confident if you never get that validation? 3. Hi Kati, how do I tell the difference between what is anxiety related and what is part of my autism. Since my autism diagnosis a lot of things have been falling into place for me especially recognising that certain things I disliked wasn’t me being weird it was due to my autism. But I'm still facing a lot of struggles at work, things I have struggled with in other workplaces too but I can’t help but wonder how much of this is my anxiety and what is my autism? 4. Why do we as people self-harm? Who came up with the idea? Is it something with our society, or is our brain just so ill we do things to hurt ourselves? 5. Hey Kati. My therapist recently said I have a therapy block since I told her I don’t see the purpose in getting better since nothing about my circumstances will change still. What exactly does this mean and does it mean I CANT get better until the block is removed? (Struggle with ED AAN /purging disorder, SH, GAD, MDD, and probably every other letter of the alphabet.) 6. Any advice on meeting a life partner and how to know if someone is the one to get serious with? 7. Trauma and bed wetting - I'd like to know if there's a connection between trauma PTSD / cptsd and bed wetting especially if it happens in children who age up to 18 MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? (pre-order) https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY CHANNEL MEMBERSHIP https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/join ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices