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Ep 558: Vampire Erotica Fiction Excerpt from Birthday Cake by author Johnna Dee, narrated by Ruan Willow. About the Author:Author Johnna Dee is a spicy fantasy romance writer. Initially, her creative journey began with poetry, where she honed her skills in crafting evocative and lyrical verses. As her passion for storytelling grew, she ventured into the realm of novels, weaving intricate plots and enchanting worlds that transport readers to extraordinary realms. Connect with Johnna: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0BRW38RD7 http://www.linktr.ee/johnnadee About the Anthology: Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places). So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint! Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief). Announcements: Did you play spicy book bingo? It's over, but prices have been awarded! Find out more at https://www.intrigueverse.com/ Book raffle! By the upcoming Nomad's Mobile Bookstore! That's right! A bus bookstore! Featuring INDIE AUTHORS! Enter the raffle for just $5 for the potential to win 16 signed books by indie authors PLUS 5 more books! Must be in the US. Void where prohibited. Rules on the site. I have a book in this raffle too! Check out more details and for how to enter at this link. Hurry! It ends January 25, 2025! https://crowdfundr.com/perks/eUNB8?ref=ab_0N1yYvN1qoL0N1yYvN1qoL Find out more also on Instagram: http://instagram.com/nomadsmobilebookstore Ruan's new book: In Scarlet's House witch, magic, Femdom, MF, woman on woman love, sexuality, relationships, erotic horror and suspense novella. ARC https://booksirens.com/book/X6YLPQR/RWYTBAU Purchase: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/inscarletshouse Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

21 Jan 26min

Ep 557: Exploring Sexual Self Discovery in Midlife and Kinky Queer Erotic Writing with Anna Sansom: Reclaiming Desire and Writing to Your Edges. Join Ruan Willow as she delves into an intimate conversation with Anna Sansom, a midlife, kinky queer writer whose work spans erotic fiction and personal essays on sexuality and relationships. Anna shares her journey through the transformative power of masturbation and how it became a spiritual practice that saved her life. Her latest anthology, "Sex Meets Life," is a collection of stories from 17 diverse authors exploring the intersection of sex and life's challenges. (affiliate link) Book "Sex Meets Life" https://amzn.to/4h10sta Discover Anna's insights on the importance of self-exploration, the reclamation of desire, and the significance of writing to your edges. This episode is a celebration of diversity, inclusivity, and the power of storytelling in understanding our sexual selves. Don't miss Anna's captivating reading from her anthology, a piece that will leave you reflecting on your own journey of sexual discovery. 🗣️ Quotes from Anna Sansom "Masturbation was a double act. My mind and body both had to be present for it to work." "I love shining a light on these things, you know, that's partly why I write." "Writing is a doorway in." "We create the things we want to see in the world." 🗣️ Quotes from Ruan Willow "We weren't given these sensations to not feel them." Dive into the world of erotic writing with Anna Sansom! Discover the power of spicy storytelling and self-publishing. Connect with Anna: Substack: https://annasansom.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_sansom_writer/ Website: https://annasansom.com/about-anna-2/ Her erotic short stories have been published in anthologies and online, including Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 10 https://amzn.to/4hkkCxV ; The Big Book of Quickies https://amzn.to/3Wr1039; I Write the Body; and Take it Outside and she is a founding author of Theo Reads. As well as short stories, she has a lesbian, BDSM erotic novel called Coming Close, 2nd Edition  https://amzn.to/40fQVY2 2024 Golden Pigtails Awards for Smut, Erotic books, and audiobooks. Nominate your favorite erotica books by January 21, 2025 at https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdzYvYr10OQY8Li0C82vf7q5Ve-Pg89mDHZ0UPoH_OdXj01wA/viewform Ruan's new audiobook "Protectors" with superheroes, time travel, action, and sex scenes at https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/protectorsaudiobook Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

17 Jan 1h 28min

Ep 556: Wild Magic MMMF Monster F*cker Erotica Excerpt by Rachel J Thompson. MEET THE AUTHOR:  Rachel J Thompson is a writer of smutty and spooky fiction and is based in Los Angeles.  She enjoys long walks through the back shelves of the video store, adding Taco Bell Diablo sauce to everything, and spends an inordinate amount of time trying to remove cat hair from her mostly black wardrobe.  She can be found on Twitter and Instagram as @vhs_kitten Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE & DISASTER FIRE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places). So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint! Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane and other disaster relief). Did you play Holiday Spicy Book Bingo? Turn in your game cards now! Learn more here: https://geni.us/BingoCard Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment! Enjoy the dark sci fi fantasy of a witch getting busy with three demon monsters! Emma's Policy, a new audiobook $7.99, a very taboo male domination, humiliation, degradation, blackmail, BDSM, manipulation, a VERY DARK kinks audiobook I just narrated and is now released. Find out more here: https://alltheseroadworks.com/product/emmas-policy-audiobook-narrated-by-ruan-willow/ Podcast Host Ruan Willow's Books: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

14 Jan 18min

Season 5, Ep 555: Writing the Queer Experience: Mx Sinclair Sexsmith on Kink Storytelling, Erotica, and D/s Relationships. Meet the author! SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer butch writer focusing on sexualities, genders, kink, and relationships. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the editor of 5 editions of Best Lesbian Erotica. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net. Books: Best Lesbian Erotica (affiliate links, podcast may receive commissions on sales through this link. Thank you!) https://amzn.to/3PurEo0 "Your Year in Kink" Workbook https://amzn.to/3WdrOUH "The Harder She Comes: Butch Femme Erotica" https://amzn.to/424GWYb Links: https://theoreads.com/ https://dsplayground.com/ http://writingspicy.com/ Quotes from Sinclair Sexsmith: "I can't stop writing. Like, I need to write to understand myself and understand the world." "I think writer's block is a myth." "I love the inner world stuff and I think writing is one of the best places to express that." "I want to encourage more queers and trans folks, and like kinky folks, to write down their stories." In this episode, Ruan and Sinclair discuss their shared passion for writing, the challenges of titling works, and the complexities of self-publishing in the erotica genre. They explore the nuances of writing about sex and intimacy, the importance of queer representation in literature, and the creative process behind crafting compelling narratives. Sinclair shares their thoughts on the intersection of writing and sex work, the drive to create authentic queer stories and queer fiction, the writing process, publishing, and the transformative power of literature. They also discuss the upcoming platform Theo Reads, which promises to be a haven for erotica and romance writers and readers alike. Timeline: 02:41 Do you like writing, teaching or creating 08:14 I feel pretty strongly that writing about sex is non sex work 10:09 There's still a lack of representation of queer sex in mainstream erotica 16:38 How are you with titles?  18:53 Pretty much everything I write has D/s 28:48 What are other are your favorite kinks to write  29:57 So when you're writing, do you start with your idea or do you 40:22 What is too personal to share, what is too vulnerable to share 43:39 Like separating the writing and publishing process is important 49:12 reading out loud is probably his number one editing tool 53:48 all about like your courses 56:54 This workbook is about reflecting on someone's kink life 01:01:42 What are you working on right now that you can share 01:02:59 When my dad died I was like, why am I not writing more 01:07:24 lgtbq and writing Coming out to your family can be tricky and painful headliner app Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

10 Jan 1h 17min

Ep 553: The Blow Job, My Night as a Truck Stop Hooker written by Kirsten McCurran, and erotic fiction excerpt narrated by the podcast host Ruan Willow. "Kirsten McCurran" is a bestselling wife and husband writing team who've been sharing their sexy stories for over a decade. They love dreaming up fantasies about typical suburban couples finding their kinky side. Find Kirsten McCurran wherever ebooks are sold. Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places). So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint! Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief). Did you play Holiday Spicy Book Bingo? Turn in your game cards now! Learn more here: https://geni.us/BingoCard Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment! Emma's Policy, a new audiobook $7.99, a very taboo male domination, humiliation, degradation, blackmail, BDSM, manipulation, a VERY DARK kinks audiobook I just narrated and is now released. Find out more here: https://alltheseroadworks.com/product/emmas-policy-audiobook-narrated-by-ruan-willow/ Podcast Host Ruan Willow's Books: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

7 Jan 17min

Season 5, Episode 552: Discover the Goddess Within with Mind-blowing Vaginal Gymnastics Pompoir Empowering Women with author and coach Bel Di Lorenzo! Discovering the Art of Vaginal Gymnastics and techniques! Join Ruan Willow in an enlightening conversation with Bel Di Lorenzo, the CEO and founder of Goh!ddess, as they delve into the transformative practice of vaginal gymnastics, also known as pompoir. In this episode, Bel shares her journey of empowering women worldwide through the Goh!ddess Method, a practice that enhances female pleasure, boosts libido, and amplifies orgasms. Discover how mastering the pelvic floor muscles can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience and why vaginal fitness is a game changer for women's health. Get the book "The Goh!dess Method" (affiliate link, podcast may receive commissions on sales, thank you!) https://amzn.to/403GUgj Bel explains the science behind pompoir, offering insights into the intricate control of pelvic floor muscles and the benefits it brings, from increased sexual frequency to the ability to experience penetrative orgasms. Learn about the various exercises and techniques that can be incorporated into your daily routine to strengthen these muscles and improve your sexual wellness, sexual health, and vaginal health. Explore the empowering stories of women who have transformed their lives through this practice, and find out how you can embark on your own journey of sexual empowerment and self-discovery. This is powerful sex education! Quotes from Bel Di Lorenzo "The stronger your pelvic floor muscles are, the stronger your orgasm response." "Your vagina is designed to give you pleasure." "With great power comes great responsibility." Quotes from Ruan Willow "Who doesn't want to have an amazing orgasm?" "Our bodies were created with pleasure in mind." 01:54 Vaginal gymnastics is the art of mastering pelvic floor muscles 13:57 Once you start training consistently, you become aroused much more often 18:33 First thing you want to do is get your pelvic floor muscles strong 22:01 Next step is differentiating between a contraction and the squeeze 26:27 So when people just understand kegel, they don't understand the whole process 33:10 Your vagina is designed to give you a lot of pleasure, and your partner too 36:23 What do you find more helpful getting the book or doing the course 41:14 A lot of women come to us for low libido 45:15 women as we age... 48:24 If you train throughout the week, it's going to make your orgasm stronger 53:09 It's your body. Do whatever you want with this power, use it wisely 54:32 I love helping married couples 57:26 So where do you see yourself going next Website: http://www.gohddess.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gohddess Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/pompoir/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@goh.ddess Show notes created by headliner dot app Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

3 Jan 1h 1min

Ep 551: MMF Wife Sharing with the Biker in the Gas Station Erotica Excerpt. This excerpt is from my story in the erotica Anthology called "Gas Station Biker Ride", where it's MF action with the Dominant M directing, hotwife wife sharing in ethical nonmonogamy, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and mild impact play. This is a spicy erotic fiction excerpt, get the full story in the charity anthology.  Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology  (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time). Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places). So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint! Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief). Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment! Get more of Laney and John's Story: Servicing the Work Men audiobook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventuresaudiobook ebook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventures Anderson Comes Home: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/andersoncomeshome See all the books in this hotwife series: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/hotwifebooks Podcast Host Ruan Willow's Books: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Learn more about Ruan's open door Romantasy book "The Siren Who Couldn't Sing" ARC You can access it here: https://booksirens.com/book/S9V46LO/QZKZJU1 Get your copy of the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thesirenwhocouldntsing Tomorrow is the last day of the Smashwords Sale. My ebooks are 50% OFF!See the books on sale Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

31 Dec 202423min

Ep 549: Crafting Gothic Romance, Romantasy, and the Art of Erotic Storytelling with Author Nikki Flynn. Exploring the Depths of Romantasy with Author Nikki Flynn. Join Ruan Willow as she delves into the imaginative world of author Nikki Flynn, a versatile writer whose works span the genres of fantasy, horror, and romantasy. In this episode, Ruan and Nikki discuss the intricacies of writing across genres, the importance of subverting tropes, and the creative process behind Nikki's latest projects, including her modern gothic romance, "Wanting Fangs: A Modern Gothic Romance" (excerpt at the beginning of the episode). Find it on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited (affiliate link, podcast may receive commissions on sales, thank you for the support!) https://amzn.to/3PdJfQZ Nikki shares her journey from avid reader to author, highlighting the influence of her academic background in psychology, philosophy, and criminology on her writing. Discover how Nikki weaves complex characters and unexpected plot twists into her stories, crafting narratives that challenge conventional storytelling. Explore the role of erotic elements in Nikki's work, her approach to character development, and the challenges of balancing fantasy and romance in her novels. Whether you're a fan of vampires, werewolves, or intricate world-building, this episode offers a captivating look into the mind of a talented author. 00:00:28 - Nikki Flynn writes against expectations with subverted tropes or underutilized situations 00:02:26 - One easy way to promote your work is to make it easy for yourself 00:04:31 - Your book has erotic elements 00:08:21 - Main love interest or like love interests 00:13:27 - Tell us about your favorite character though. Sebastian's teenage son Gideon 00:14:27 - What brought you to wanting to add some erotic elements to the story 00:22:02 -teenage son does most of his meddling through texting 00:23:52 - She started writing as a child and then expanded into multiple genres 00:29:52 - You'll end up a villain in a book. 00:30:31 - I got the idea for modern Gothic romance from a dream 00:36:40 - You would really have to work to make it stay serious at that point 00:38:42 - Do you tend to start with your characters or your plot idea first when writing 00:45:01 - Do you find that your writing and reading tastes align 00:49:40 - Do you experience writer's block 00:55:27 - There are so many different ways people write when they're writing 00:58:37 - Sometimes there's a typo in a story or a book 01:00:12 - So what are you working on now that you can share with people 01:11:29 - Do you think jargon dictates the genre of the book when writing intimate scenes headliner app Connect with Nikki: https://nsflynnwriter.wixsite.com/nikkiflynn https://bsky.app/profile/flynnbulwinter.bsky.social Ruan's ARC Romantasy The Siren Who Couldn't Sing https://booksirens.com/book/S9V46LO/QZKZJU1 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

27 Dec 20241h 26min