How Trauma Hijacks Your Marriage (And How to Take It Back) Part 2

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheet"Why do we struggle to feel empathy?"In this conversation, we delve into the complexities of empathy in relationships, particularly marriages. We explore why we may struggle to feel or express empathy toward our partners, the misconceptions that often surround empathy, and practical steps we can take to cultivate it. We emphasize the importance of being fully present, understanding each other’s feelings, and overcoming barriers that stand in the way of empathy. We highlight that empathy is essential for fostering intimacy and connection in our relationships.Takeaways:Empathy can be difficult to feel towards our partners despite wanting to be supportive.Understanding the difference between empathy and sympathy is crucial for effective communication.Empathy involves both perspective-taking and emotional connection.Misconceptions about empathy can hinder our ability to connect with others.Being present and focusing on the now is essential for practicing empathy.Empathy is not about giving advice or trying to fix problems.Real empathy requires us to resist the impulse to correct or judge.Practicing empathy can strengthen relationships and foster deeper connections.Negative sentiment override can block empathy and understanding in relationships.Rebuilding empathy is a process that requires intentional effort and practice.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

9 Apr 33min

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheet"Are we actually allowing the healing to happen?"In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we discuss the complexities of rebuilding trust after betrayal and the significant impact of unforgiveness on relationships. What are the emotional costs of holding onto past hurts? Learn about the transformative power of forgiveness. This is a process that can lead to personal peace and healthier relationships. Through personal anecdotes and powerful stories, we illustrate how forgiveness can free individuals from the burdens of resentment and anger, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life.TakeawaysTrust can be rebuilt through full disclosure and accountability.The hurt partner must also work on their healing process.Unforgiveness can distort our perception of our partner.People are not entirely good or bad; they can make mistakes.Forgiveness is essential for personal peace and emotional health.Holding onto grudges can have serious health consequences.Forgiveness does not mean letting someone off the hook.We can choose to see others as human and fallible.Forgiveness can lead to a lighter, more fulfilling life.Creating a new reality requires letting go of past hurts.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

2 Apr 28min

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetIn this episode of Master Your Marriage, we explore the critical theme of trust in relationships. How trust can be broken through both significant betrayals and smaller, seemingly inconsequential actions. We share personal experiences of our own struggles with trust and the emotional turmoil that follows a breach. We also talk about the stages of healing for the wounded partner and the necessity for both partners to engage in the healing process.TakeawaysTrust is the foundation of every relationship.Healing from broken trust takes time and patience.Rebuilding trust requires clear steps and expectations.Both big and small actions can break trust.Vulnerability is essential for intimacy in relationships.Honesty and transparency are crucial for connection.Trust is lost quickly but earned slowly.Full disclosure is necessary for rebuilding trust.Unrealistic expectations can hinder the healing process.Emotional safety is vital for a healthy relationship. Trust is lost in buckets, but gained in drops.Full disclosure is essential for healing.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

26 Mars 32min

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheet"Contempt is the poison killing your relationship."In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we delve into the critical topic of contempt, which they describe as the 'serial killer of marriages.' We explore how contempt manifests in relationships, its detrimental effects on emotional and physical health, and the underlying issue of grandiosity that often fuels contemptuous behavior. We emphasize the importance of connection, empathy, and the need for couples to recognize and address contempt in their interactions. Get ready for some actionable steps for healing and improving relationships, encouraging listeners to commit to a contempt-free approach in their marriages.TakeawaysContempt is a significant predictor of divorce.Healthy relationships require seeing each other as equals.Grandiosity can lead to contempt and emotional violence.Contempt affects not only relationships but also physical health.Empathy is crucial for maintaining connection in relationships.Recognizing contempt is the first step to healing.Communication is key to overcoming contemptuous behavior.Self-awareness can help identify grandiosity in oneself.Repairing relationships is possible with effort and commitment.Small, consistent actions can lead to significant relationship improvements.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

19 Mars 38min

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetIn this episode of Master Your Marriage, the hosts delve into the concept of the 'window of tolerance' and its significance in maintaining emotional regulation within relationships. They share personal anecdotes to illustrate how dysregulation can manifest in everyday situations and emphasize the importance of recognizing early warning signs. The conversation transitions into practical tools for managing dysregulation, including self-check-ins and co-regulation techniques, ultimately highlighting the importance of compassion and understanding in navigating emotional challenges together.TakeawaysUnderstanding the window of tolerance is crucial for effective communication.Recognizing when you or your partner are outside your window of tolerance is key.Dysregulation can manifest as hyper arousal or hypo arousal.Real-life examples help illustrate the impact of emotional states on relationships.Self-awareness through daily check-ins can help identify emotional states.Co-regulation with a partner can provide safety and support during dysregulation.Different tools are needed for hyper arousal versus hypo arousal.Physical symptoms can indicate emotional dysregulation.Compassion for oneself and one's partner is essential during tough times.Practicing these techniques can strengthen relationships over time.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

10 Mars 29min

Struggling with overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional reactivity in your relationship? Our new Window of Tolerance Worksheet helps you identify your triggers, recognize dysregulation, and develop strategies to regain balance—so you can show up as your best self in your marriage.Limited-Time Offer: Get it now for only $5 (regularly $19)!📥 Instant Download HERE: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetIn this episode of Master Your Marriage, we dive into the concept of the 'window of tolerance,' a psychological framework that helps couples understand their emotional responses during difficult conversations. We explore the states of hyper and hypo arousal, how these affect communication, and strategies to widen one's window of tolerance for healthier interactions. We share the importance of self-awareness and practical techniques to manage stress and improve relationship dynamics.Takeaways:Understanding the window of tolerance can prevent stress in marriage.Hyper arousal is characterized by anxiety and anger, while hypo arousal is about numbness and withdrawal.Staying within your window of tolerance allows for better communication and problem-solving.Life events can narrow your window of tolerance, making it harder to cope with stress.Practicing 'micro sucks' can help expand your window of tolerance.Breathing exercises can reset your emotional state before difficult conversations.Grounding techniques can help couples reconnect during stressful moments.Recognizing personal patterns of dysregulation is crucial for relationship health.Sleep and physical health significantly impact emotional regulation.Building resilience in relationships requires ongoing practice and awareness.Next Steps:Get the worksheet: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-worksheetFor more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

1 Mars 34min

In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we explore the concept of small, consistent improvements in relationships, drawing parallels to the success of the British cycling team under Dave Brailsford. Real transformation occurs not through grand gestures but through tiny, daily efforts that accumulate over time. The discussion includes practical strategies for couples to enhance their relationships by focusing on self-governance, conflict resolution, friendship, and shared meaning systems. We encourage our listeners to adopt a mindset of iterative improvements, aiming for just 1% better each day, leading to significant long-term changes in their relationships.Takeaways:Real transformation happens in small, simple moments.The aggregation of marginal gains can lead to significant improvements.Success is often the result of thousands of tiny, often invisible moments.Couples often overestimate the power of grand gestures.Focusing on small daily improvements can change the trajectory of a relationship.Self-governance, conflict resolution, friendship, and shared meaning are key areas for improvement.Iterative improvements can be applied to everyday interactions in relationships.1% better each day can lead to extraordinary results over time.It's important to notice and seize small moments for connection.The journey of improvement is ongoing and requires consistent effort.Next Steps:For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

20 Feb 21min

"Listening is an act of love."In this episode, we talk about the critical role of listening in relationships, emphasizing that effective communication is not just about speaking but primarily about listening with compassion. We explore the challenges of listening, including ego, fear of change, and the urge to fix problems. Why is self-reflection and understanding one's own biases so important, and how can we recognize the value of feedback from partners? You will learn how to provide practical insights on how to navigate criticism and transition from being a listener to a speaker in conversations, ultimately stressing that truth and understanding are essential for healthy communication.TakeawaysListening is the hardest yet most important skill in communication.Effective listening requires humility and the ability to hold two perspectives simultaneously.Self-reflection is crucial for understanding one's own biases in communication.Listening is an act of love that shows care and respect for your partner.Barriers to listening include ego, fear of change, and the urge to fix problems.Internal boundaries help filter out harmful criticism while accepting constructive feedback.Navigating criticism involves acknowledging what is true in your partner's perspective.Transitioning from listener to speaker should start with recognizing the truth in what was said.Understanding must precede resolution in any conflict.Truth itself is not harmful; self-deception is what causes harm.Next Steps:For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

6 Feb 35min