56: Playing with Transformation & Navigating out of 'Problems' | Jason Goldberg

Show Notes: Background and how Jason became an international and transformational speaker, trainer, coach, author and host "Don't have to be a prisoner of circumstance, but a self leader in my life" transformational theme that when actually practiced has massive implications for how life feels How he got through the challenging, intense periods? His own coaching experience "What I know to be true is that resistance to change is the #1 reason transformation doesn't occur "sitting in the fire" Lowering the resistance to what it may look like. When we lower the significance, than it doesn’t have to feel like fire, it may be uncomfortable, but if it's looked at through the lens as speaking a new language it will be much lighter. Remove some significance: "if I never change anything about myself I am still fine. I am enough." I remove all the heaviness of transformation and I can just play with it. Let's play with transformation instead of let's overcome every obstacle. Levity. Help client look at their own situation in a humorous way, make fun of their own fears. His most powerful coaching experience from his own coach: So much compassion for what you're putting yourself through right now. "There's never been anything in my life I've gone through that I haven't gotten through" There's a lesson in everything Byron Katie's The Work "Sometimes we overthink things, they are just the way they are." How Jason navigates out of "problems" Increase level of consciousness so we have creativity to solve it. Once that happens, there may actually be no more problem to solve. Story of Barbie doll "Transcend the fact that you think it's a problem" Present but irrelevant: having a feeling be present, but not a relevant part of my experience. Analogy of driving a car with an anxious person in the passenger seat. No matter how that person feels, the car still works the same. It doesn’t have to affect how I drive the car. As long as it's not an in order to . If we try to eliminate the symptom than it's motive based. If I accept it so I can get rid of it, than I haven't really accepted it. Jeff Foster - Falling in Love with Where You Are: "It's not about immunity from stress, but navigation of them when they show up. The less we make them a problematic thing we have to get rid of, the sooner they'll move on on their own." Why Advise s against trying to let things go because it still has a implication of trying to make something happen There's not a right and wrong way to transform "Every system is perfect for the result that it's getting"If you like the result than don't change anything, if you don't than change the system. PBQ's : Prison Break Questions A format for a question that takes something that is a problem and makes it no longer problematic If I knew x, what would I do….How would I show up/respond differently? "if you're experiencing anxieties, its because you're engaging with life, doing something in the world." Usually it’s a good sign because it's something triggered because there's a next level of leadership for you to step into Whenever you feel you're in a funk, go be of service What to look for in a coach the way they see the world is a way you want to see your world. The right coach will ask a question like: "why do you want a coach?" What's the hard part? I'd love to do x, but it's hard to do y