40: Annie Duke | How to Make Decisions Like a Poker Champ

This is the second episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/435 On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Discuss Travelling to North Korea: Gabe and Jordan traveled to North Korea (aka Democratic People's Republic of Korea -- or DPRK) together several times between 2011 and 2016. As bizarre as you've heard North Korea can be, the reality is probably even weirder. Do Gabe and Jordan have regrets about spending their tourist dollars in a country that routinely tries to goad the United States into nuclear confrontation and imprisons hundreds of thousands of its own citizens in slave labor camps? What are the dos and don'ts they lay out for Western tourists in orientation? First impressions of the airport and the island-isolated hotel where foreigners are kept. Travelers are accompanied everywhere by a guide/minder. Why tourists shouldn't argue with the locals about differing accounts of history. Is everything a tourist is allowed to see in North Korea just an elaborate "show?" Does everyone who lives there believe what the regime tells them? Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Nov 20201h 8min

Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a coworker who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/434 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab live! We're happy to report a positive update from episode 421's Secret Sappho. Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a friend who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence? Your best friend of 12 years -- who was also your business partner -- just ghosted you on the verge of a game-changing deal. It hurts because you don't know why, but you can't help but wonder if maybe you've just dodged a toxic bullet. What's the right way to deal with this on a personal and professional level? You have numerous interests and talents that seem to be pulling you in multiple directions when you feel you're at the age where you should really focus, choose something, and stick with it. How do you know what to drop and what to carry along on the next step of your journey? You and your wife are in your 50s and working stable jobs, but she's obsessed with moving to Europe ASAP -- and you don't have massive savings or employment leads there. How can you get her to see that, without a realistic plan in place, you might just wind up living on the streets of Europe? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Nov 202051min

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Larry Lawton: How heavy is a million dollars in cash, and how quickly can you haul it away while evading the watchful eyes of authorities and tattletales? What major crimes do not carry a statute of limitations? How should you react if you're ever threatened in a place that's getting robbed? How much of a percentage does a professional robber get from fencing stolen goods? As a master of the skills important for pulling off successful heists -- and then getting caught anyway -- how would Larry have used these talents if he had it to do all over again? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/433 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Nov 202049min

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the rest later in the week! What We Discuss with Larry Lawton: How young Larry fattened his wallet with $125 a week in 1972 (equivalent to over $750 a week today) with various scams, thefts, and hustles. How Larry wound up getting into the jewelry robbery game, and what he did to maintain control over the situation when he had a gun pulled on him his first time out. Why Larry spent over $10,000 to get a professional education in the jewelry trade when he decided this would be the focus of his criminal career. How a business owner can ensure their place isn't the one chosen when a potential robber is casing businesses in search of an easy target. How Larry would plan and execute a heist when he was a career criminal, and what he would do afterward to hide his trail from the inevitable investigation. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/432 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Nov 202052min

This is the first episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/431 On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Talk About Resilience: Resilience is a quality that is literally life-defining. It can make or break a career, open or close doors, and mean the difference between failing and succeeding. What is resilience? When we talk about resilience, what we’re really talking about is the ability to survive the ups and downs of life without taking too much of a hit. We don’t have control over everything that happens to us in life, but we do have control over what it means and how it affects us. Why does resilience matter? The more resilient you are, the greater your chances of overcoming adversity and succeeding. The less resilient you are, the more likely you are to hit a wall, give up, or drop off when things get tough. How do we cultivate resilience? Because it's not a skill like learning a language By making meaning out of adversity, developing and nurturing strong relationships, and seeking out new experiences. Resilience is a process. It’s not a skill you acquire once and then never have to work on again. And no matter how resilient you become, you can always become more resilient, you can always build up more grit -- and you should, because you can never have enough! Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Nov 202036min

You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? We'll cover this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/430 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How Essentialism author Greg McKeown uses the 80/20 rule (aka Pareto principle) to get more done in less time -- and why Jordan is pretty minimal with his posting on social media. You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? You've had to fire and sue a general contractor who bilked you on a house renovation, and now you're forced to live in expensive, short term rentals while you find someone reliable to finish the job. How do you keep your sanity and identity intact while languishing in limbo? A friend with whom you reconnected has been diagnosed with depression, but would rather keep rehashing the same conversations with you rather than seek professional therapy. How can you bow out of your unintentional counseling role so she can get the help she really needs?  You were recently selected by your company for “reverse mentoring” -- a program that connects senior-level managers with younger and less experienced employees in order to exchange fresh perspectives. Your mentee will be the CEO of the company. How do you make this unique opportunity valuable for both of you? You've been strengthening your network thanks to following our free Six-Minute Networking exercises, and now you've been getting clients for your new photography business. After doing one freebie for exposure, how do you start charging what you're worth? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Nov 202052min

Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What's Essential podcast and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, which challenges core assumptions about achievement (e.g., “more is better”) to get to the essence of what really drives success — on one’s own terms. What We Discuss with Greg McKeown: Essentialism: the antidote to the problems of feeling busy but not productive, stretched too thin in one area of life, and fulfilling the agendas of others but not our own. Learn how to live by design, not by default. Find out how to say “no” effectively without getting in trouble at home — or fired. Discover how to set hard boundaries between work and play. Learn why folks who are originally very good at essentialism can end up ruining their career and their sanity by letting these boundaries slip over time. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/429 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Nov 202053min

Jenny Radcliffe (@Jenny_Radcliffe) of Human Factor Security is an ethical social engineer hired to smash security measures using psychology, con-artistry, subliminal linguistics, cunning, and guile. She is also the host of award-winning podcast The Human Factor. What We Discuss with Jenny Radcliffe: How a childhood incident that took place in '70s Liverpool led to Jenny's resolution that she would never again allow herself to be helpless against bad people. What a thrilling break-in to the local zoo's lion exhibit in the middle of the night and an accidental sleepover in a mortuary with a dead body taught Jenny about the illusion of security. How breaking into places to test security for people went from being a side hustle (with assignments that may or may not have been legitimate or free of life-risking consequences) to Jenny's main calling. The strange, supernatural-seeming things someone might experience while alone in massive buildings after hours or asylums abandoned to the elements. What it was like to track people before the Internet, how social media made Jenny's job exponentially easier, and what you can do to protect yourself against being tracked. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/428 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Nov 20201h 9min