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Users are falling in love with and losing their minds to AI. Journalist Kashmir Hill exposes shocking recent cases of chatbot-induced psychosis and suicide.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1227What We Discuss with Kashmir Hill:AI chatbots are having serious psychological effects on users, including manic episodes, delusional spirals, and mental breakdowns that can last hours, days, or months.Users are experiencing "AI psychosis" — an emerging phenomenon where vulnerable people become convinced chatbots are sentient, fall in love with them, or spiral into dangerous delusions.Tragic outcomes have occurred, including a Belgian man with a family who took his own life after six weeks of chatting, believing his family was dead and his suicide would save the planet.AI chatbots validate harmful thoughts — creating dangerous feedback loops for people with OCD, anxiety, or psychosis, potentially destabilizing those already predisposed to mental illness.Stay skeptical and maintain perspective — treat AI as word prediction machines, not oracles. Use them as tools like Google, verify important information, and prioritize real human relationships over AI interactions.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Factor: 50% off first box: factormeals.com/jordan50off, code JORDAN50OFFSignos: $10 off select programs: signos.com, code JORDANUplift: Special offer: upliftdesk.com/jordanQuince: Free shipping & 365-day returns: quince.com/jordanHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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[NOTE: This is a repost of the most recent Feedback Friday that many of you reported being unable to hear last week. Second time's a charm, we hope!]Your relative killed pets, threatened to stab his mother, displays psychopath traits, and now you're checking cold cases in his area. It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1224On This Week's Feedback Friday:You've learned disturbing facts about a relative who hurt animals as a child, threatened his mother with a knife, and displays blank emotions at family gatherings. You're checking unsolved murders in his area. What can you do before this becomes a gruesome headline — and are you already too late?You met your wife in a magical whirlwind romance, but an SSRI killed your attraction to her overnight. Now your Schizoid Personality Disorder is back, she's out of patience, and she wants kids. Do you fight for the greatest love of your life — or let her go so she can build the future she deserves?You've climbed from $60K as a nurse to $120K as a director, but the next step means constant stress and burnout. You want $220K so your husband can stay home with your daughter and you can care for aging parents. Can you rise without sacrificing your life — or do you need a completely different path?Recommendation of the Week: The StaircaseAfter Charlie Kirk's assassination, you're grieving someone you never met like you lost a close friend. Why do we hold famous people in such high esteem? And how does a fractured nation come together when our views of America's future couldn't be more different?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps!Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:CovePure: $200 off: covepure.com/jordanBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanBoll & Branch: 15% off first set of sheets: bollandbranch.com, code JORDANProgressive: Free online quote: progressive.comSimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Your brain on revenge looks like your brain on drugs. Here, Dr. James Kimmel, Jr. explores the neuroscience of vengeance and the power of forgiveness.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1226What We Discuss with James Kimmel, Jr.:Revenge activates the same brain circuitry as drug addiction. When we experience grievances, our brain's pain centers light up, triggering cravings for revenge that activate the nucleus accumbens and dorsal striatum — the same pleasure and addiction pathways used by cocaine, gambling, and alcohol. This explains why revenge feels temporarily euphoric but leaves us wanting more.Most violence stems from perceived victimization, not inherent evil. Nearly all forms of human violence — from playground bullying to terrorism and genocide — originate from revenge-seeking behavior. The perpetrator almost always views themselves as a victim first, making revenge the root cause of mass shootings, intimate partner violence, gang conflicts, and even war.Imagined grievances trigger real revenge desires with real-world consequences. It doesn't matter whether victimization is real or manufactured — if it feels real in your head, it produces genuine revenge cravings. This explains how leaders like Hitler used the "stab in the back" myth to mobilize a nation, and why mass shooters nurse perceived slights that no one else remembers.Revenge addiction destroys relationships and keeps you trapped in the past. Unlike self-defense (which protects your future), revenge always looks backward, creating a preoccupation with past wrongs. It damages every relationship, increases anger and anxiety, and paradoxically makes you feel worse after the initial dopamine hit fades — all while fearing retaliation.Forgiveness is the neurological cure — and you can learn it. Science now shows we're hardwired for forgiveness as much as revenge. Forgiveness actually stops pain rather than just covering it up, shuts down revenge cravings, and reactivates your prefrontal cortex. Dr. Kimmel's "Nonjustice System" — a role-play trial method tested at Yale — gives you a practical way to be heard, hold someone accountable in your mind, and ultimately release yourself from past wounds. More tools and insights coming in part two later this week.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/jhsFunction Health: $100 credit: functionhealth.com/jordan, code JORDAN100Hiya: 50% off first order: hiyahealth.com/jordanButcherBox: Free protein for a year + $20 off first box: butcherbox.com/jordanAirbnb: airbnb.com/hostSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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The average penis: smaller than you think, more complex than you know. Michael Regilio gets to the meat of the matter here on Skeptical Sunday!Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by skeptic, comedian, and podcaster Michael Regilio!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1225On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:The penis first evolved roughly 425 million years ago as a more precise method of fertilization — allowing species to reproduce efficiently when eggs were protected inside the body.Humans are unique among mammals for losing the penis bone and spines, evolving instead toward smooth anatomy and longer lovemaking tied to emotional intimacy.Modern men experience anxiety over penis size — despite studies showing the global average is about 5.16 inches and 85% of women report satisfaction with their partner’s size.Pornography, camera tricks, and unrealistic media images distort expectations, fueling insecurity and demand for enhancement products that often solve imaginary problems.Confidence, care, and education matter more than size — regular exercise, stress reduction, hydration, and pelvic floor training (Kegels) improve both sexual health and self-esteem.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!Connect with Michael Regilio at Twitter, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky, and YouTube, and check out War Bar, his new comedy special!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Rugiet: 15% off: rugiet.com, code JORDANArticle: $50 off first purchase of $100 or more: article.com/jordanZipRecruiter: Learn more at ziprecruiter.com/jordanApretude: Learn more: Apretude.com or call 1-888-240-0340Shopify: 3 months @ $1/month (select plans): shopify.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Your relative killed pets, threatened to stab his mother, displays psychopath traits, and now you're checking cold cases in his area. It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1224On This Week's Feedback Friday:You've learned disturbing facts about a relative who hurt animals as a child, threatened his mother with a knife, and displays blank emotions at family gatherings. You're checking unsolved murders in his area. What can you do before this becomes a gruesome headline — and are you already too late?You met your wife in a magical whirlwind romance, but an SSRI killed your attraction to her overnight. Now your Schizoid Personality Disorder is back, she's out of patience, and she wants kids. Do you fight for the greatest love of your life — or let her go so she can build the future she deserves?You've climbed from $60K as a nurse to $120K as a director, but the next step means constant stress and burnout. You want $220K so your husband can stay home with your daughter and you can care for aging parents. Can you rise without sacrificing your life — or do you need a completely different path?Recommendation of the Week: The StaircaseAfter Charlie Kirk's assassination, you're grieving someone you never met like you lost a close friend. Why do we hold famous people in such high esteem? And how does a fractured nation come together when our views of America's future couldn't be more different?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: CovePure: $200 off: covepure.com/jordanBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanBoll & Branch: 15% off first set of sheets: bollandbranch.com, code JORDANProgressive: Free online quote: progressive.comSimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Acting is weird, brutal work. Fargo star William H. Macy breaks down why desperation makes great art — and how he finally learned to act at age 60.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1223What We Discuss with William H. Macy:Character is defined by action, not words or backstory. What you do reveals who you are, making desperation and relentlessness compelling on screen.The best actors are bulletproof against criticism of their craft because they commit fully to their choices without seeking approval or worrying about being flattering.William didn't truly learn to act until his 60s on Shameless. Getting his 10,000 hours taught him to drop baggage and focus only on what's essential in the moment.Really look and really listen. This simple technique transforms performances because genuine attention makes others self-conscious and creates authentic reactions.Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Happiness comes from accepting who you are and doing what you're naturally good at rather than fixing every flaw.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Gelt: 10% off 1st year: joingelt.com/jhsCaldera + Lab: 20% off: calderalab.com/jordan, code JORDANCookUnity: 50% off first week: cookunity.com/jordan or code JORDANTonal: $200 off: tonal.com, code JORDANAirbnb: airbnb.com/hostSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Sextortion, fraud, hacking, car theft, death threats — your ex belongs in prison. How do you make that happen? Welcome to Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1222On This Week's Feedback Friday:[00:11:32] Your ex secretly took explicit photos, threatened blackmail, racked up $19,000 in debt on your cards, hacked your accounts, stole your car, and threatened to kill you multiple times — all while evading a restraining order. How do you finally get the legal system to work for you and hold this criminal accountable? [Thanks once again to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer this!][00:30:25] Your colleagues were laid off, and now their former employees keep approaching them to express sadness and frustration about the terminations — adding emotional weight while the managers process their own job losses. Should they set boundaries or reframe these conversations as something valuable instead? [Thanks to leadership coach and speaker Dr. Arseny Thumb von Neuburg for helping us with this one!][00:37:18] You spent years discovering you have ADHD, RSD, autism, OCD, and stereoblindness — each diagnosis life-changing with the right medication and therapy. You've helped coworkers get diagnosed too. How do you know what else might be affecting you, and how can you help others recognize their own neurodivergence?[01:00:39] Recommendation of the Week: Retro board games (like Trouble, Uno, and Sorry!)[01:03:16] Women use AI 20% less than men across nearly all sectors — with ChatGPT's app users being 85% male — creating a massive economic disadvantage. Women who develop AI skills could earn $2.7 million more over their careers. What's driving this gap, and what does it mean for the future of work and gender equality?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Quiltmind: Email jordanaudience@quiltmind.com or visit quiltmind.comBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanDeleteMe: 20% off: joindeleteme.com/jordan, code JORDANApretude: Learn more: Apretude.com or call 1-888-240-0340What Was That Like: Listen here or wherever you find fine podcasts!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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The intelligence world is evolving rapidly. Former CIA officer Andrew Bustamante explains Cold War tech, Ukraine strategy, and global conflicts. [Pt. 2/2 — catch Pt. 1/2 here!]Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1221What We Discuss with Andrew Bustamante:Jeffrey Epstein was likely an FBI confidential informant rather than a CIA asset. The FBI can grant immunity for domestic crimes, while CIA has no authority to provide legal cover for American citizens committing crimes in the US.Blackmail is the weakest form of manipulation. Once information is released, it can be denied as fake or AI-generated, and the blackmailer has already spent their only leverage with no guarantee of success.Social media isn't a battlefield — it's a mosh pit with all offensive operations and no defense. State actors create chaos cheaply, forcing opponents to spend vastly more resources fighting disinformation.Israel serves as a strategic watchdog for US interests. By weakening Hezbollah, Hamas, and Iran, Netanyahu has secured not just Israel but also Saudi Arabia and the United States for two decades.CIA persuasion and influence techniques are based on empirical science and human behavior patterns. You can learn to build trust, read people, and communicate effectively by understanding these age-old principles in everyday life.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Gelt: 10% off 1st year: joingelt.com/jhsShopify: 3 months @ $1/month (select plans): shopify.com/jordanSimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanProgressive: Free online quote: progressive.comSomething You Should Know: Listen here or wherever you find fine podcasts!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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