257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Jocko Willink (@jockowillink) rejoins us to discuss his latest book, The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win. What We Discuss with Jocko Willink: What happens when we take the "extreme" part of extreme ownership too literally. Why otherwise positive characteristics can be detrimental to progress when we forget the importance of balance. When to take responsibility, and what the limits of this actually are. Why we should stop being the easy button for those we manage and lead. The concept of leadership capital: how to build it, when to use it, and when not to use it. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Sep 20181h 12min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Boxcutter Guy got married! Congratulations? Love always finds a way. Can a digital nomad who's away for three months out of the year have a healthy relationship with someone who can't travel often and doesn't handle periods of separation well? Why does Jordan study Mandarin? You've been invited to lunch with an executive in your company. How can you make a lasting -- but natural -- impression? Confused about what qualifies as talent stacking (aka skill stacking)? Here's some clarification, courtesy of Ed Latimore. What's your best next move to break out of your post-college rut: teaching abroad or joining the military? Looking for a mentor? Don't forget to apply The Generosity Principle as Jordan taught in this three-part Instagram series: Part 1, 2, and 3 and Six-Minute Networking. What are some steps you can take now, while you're making pretty good money, to work toward your goals? You might be great at forgiving other people, but how can you forgive yourself -- or help someone else forgive themselves? Recommendations of the Week: Empire and Martha & Snoop's Potluck Dinner Party Quick shoutouts to Ankie, Emilie, and Benjamin living in Norway and American Dream University! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Sep 201838min

Isaiah Hankel (@isaiahhankel) is an expert on mental focus, behavioral psychology, and career development. His new book is The Science of Intelligent Achievement: How Smart People Focus, Create, and Grow Their Way to Success. What We Discuss with Isaiah Hankel: Why busy people are easily manipulated. Why 50% of your friendships are fake. How to defend against negativity without becoming negative. How to go on a relationship fast and why you should. How to make the most of your daily productive time by tracking emotions and predicting feelings. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Sep 201853min

Jonathan Haidt (@JonHaidt) is a social psychologist who studies the American culture wars and is widely considered to be one of the world's leading experts on the psychology of morality. He is the co-author of The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. What We Discuss with Jonathan Haidt: Why should we be preparing the child for the road and not the road for the child? How the concepts of safe spaces and trigger warnings are making our society less safe and less prepared for the real world. What we should be doing instead to prepare ourselves and our kids for reality. Cognitive distortions and how we become victims of our own flawed mindsets. The three fundamental untruths being perpetuated by academia and the media and how we can fight these influences. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Sep 20181h 16min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You need to increase your salary so you can adequately provide for your family, but you're not sure your current employer will go for it. Is it time to let go of your dream job? How can you ease the overwhelming loneliness of being on your own for the first time when you're anxious and miss your old life -- especially when the job that moved you to the big city just isn't as interesting as it used to be? Can a man from a blue collar background and a woman who grew up used to the finer things in life build a life together that allows him to feel like a provider without disappointing her expectations? When you're the youngest in a family business that isn't doing so well, how can you tell the other partners -- who once were your mentors and idols -- to level up their mindset and work ethics or else everything will crash and burn? Or is it just time for the family business to crash and burn? What should you do about this habit you have of talking over people? How can you promote yourself without, in weatherman parlance, sending the eye-rolling barometers into the storm zone? How can you learn to have a fluid conversation with people when you're constantly feeling less than? Recommendation of the Week: Zion Quick shoutouts to Simon from Montreal and Timm! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Aug 201843min

Charles Ryu (@freshprinceofpyongyang) escaped from North Korea -- twice -- and now works with Liberty in North Korea to fight for the rights and freedom of those who have been left behind. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Charles Ryu: The risky train ride that began Charles' escape to freedom. How the swift current of a freezing river likely saved Charles' life. What Charles did once he got to China with no money, food, or water. The chance encounter with a good samaritan and the circuitous path that led to the United States. Why winding up in a Thai prison was the best day of Charles' life up to that point. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Aug 20181h 27min

General Michael Hayden (@GenMhayden) is a retired United States Air Force general, former Director of the CIA and NSA, and author of The Assault on Intelligence: American National Security in an Age of Lies. What We Discuss with General Michael Hayden: Why the current administration revoking security clearance of dissenting intelligence leadership is a big deal -- and why General Hayden believes it sets a precedent that threatens national security. The phenomenon of the unpleasant fact knows no political allegiance. Why it's imperative that we know how to tell uncomfortable truths in any field -- whether we're intelligence agents, business owners, or team members. How intelligence agents and operators at the highest levels of power in government create and maintain relationships and handle sensitive conflicts. An inside look at the game of espionage and why it's a crucial force for those of us who live in a democracy. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Aug 201859min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! Corbin Payne (@the_sue_chef) makes a cameo appearance in this one to help us cope with a bit of a legal pickle. If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You got a promotion only to accidentally discover that the person who does your old job makes more than you do now. Now how do you leverage for a real raise? Should you feign interest in something you don't really care about for the sake of mingling with business clients? As a parent of young adults who carry the scars of trauma from your imperfect marriage to their other parent, how can you help them move through their current challenges? Now that you followed the advice from Alex Kouts in our three-part negotiation series and landed a new job, your current coworkers are kind of cold toward you. How can you make your last two weeks with them bearable? As a woman with a loud voice who punctuates her speech with spirited hand gestures in a male-dominated industry, how can you shed the all-too-common impression that you're somehow being unprofessional? Advice and strategies for moving on to new pastures and developing new friendships after the beautiful realization that life doesn't revolve around drinking. When your spouse is fired from the industry in which you both work but wants to make it seem like it was a voluntary move, how can you express support without being caught in an ass-biting, credibility-diminishing lie? Who's at fault when someone crashes into your rental car, you've only been speaking the local language for five years, and the police believe the other guy's story? Resident Jordan Harbinger Show Legal Mind Corbin Payne weighs in. Recommendation of the Week: Upgrade Shoutouts to Max in Germany and Ignacio Flores! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Connect with Corbin on Twitter at @the_sue_chef. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Aug 201849min