Ep. 369: Healing After A Traumatic Birth: Prevention, Treatment, and Real Talk with Krysta Dancy

Ep. 369: Healing After A Traumatic Birth: Prevention, Treatment, and Real Talk with Krysta Dancy

Welcome back to The Birth Lounge Podcast, where we say the quiet parts out loud and hold nothing back when it comes to protecting your power in birth.

In this episode, I’m joined by Krysta Dancy, a licensed trauma therapist, birth doula, and one of the most honest voices in the trauma-informed care space. Together, we unpack what birth trauma really is, how to spot it, how to prevent it, and how to start healing if it’s already part of your story.

We’re digging into:

  • Why Pitocin is showing up in so many traumatic births — and what you deserve to know about it
  • The actual role of doulas in preventing trauma (especially when sh*t gets hard)
  • What your nervous system has to do with the way your birth felt and why it matters
  • How to debrief with your care team, talk to your partner, and ask for what you need in the aftermath
  • Evidence-based trauma therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting, and how to know what’s right for you
  • Scripts and tools for those difficult conversations with providers, family, and friends who just don’t get it

Whether you had a traumatic birth or just want to avoid becoming another horror story statistic, this episode is here to remind you: You are not broken. You are not alone. And there is a way forward.

Timestamps: 00:00 Postpartum Support Is Not Optional 00:56 Welcome to The Birth Lounge 01:09 Pitocin 101: What You’re Not Being Told 02:51 Pitocin and the C-Section Connection 03:44 Grab Your Free Pitocin Guide 05:03 Birth Trauma: Let’s Talk About It 05:50 What Actually Counts as Birth Trauma? 07:37 Meet Krysta Dancy 12:00 How Trauma and Memory Work in Birth 19:12 Signs of PTSD After Birth 31:16 Your Nervous System and Traumatic Birth 39:53 Emotional Trauma Even When the Birth Was “Fine” 44:09 How to Debrief With Your Providers 49:09 The Healing Power of Storytelling 49:36 Why Post-Birth Conversations Are So Hard 50:35 Communication Gaps in the System 52:23 You Were Never Meant to Do This Alone 55:35 The Isolation of Trauma 56:11 When Trauma Runs in the Family 57:40 Healing Starts With Being Seen 58:08 Was That Intervention Actually Necessary? 01:01:30 EMDR, Brainspotting, and More 01:04:18 When Medication Can Be Part of Healing 01:06:50 Scripts for Navigating the Hard Conversations 01:10:34 Supporting a Partner With Trauma Too 01:14:49 When Providers Are Dismissive 01:17:22 Supporting Without Trauma Dumping 01:22:43 Provider Trauma Affects Your Care Too 01:27:32 Final Thoughts and Resources

This episode is full of validation, education, and the tools you need to take the next best step, whether you’re deep in healing or just beginning to realize you’ve got some unpacking to do. You are allowed to feel everything. And you're allowed to heal, your way.

Guest Bio:

Krysta Dancy is a licensed trauma therapist, birth doula, and passionate advocate for healing after a difficult birth.

With over 20 years of experience in psychology, trauma recovery, and perinatal care, Krysta has walked alongside countless families and professionals through some of their most vulnerable moments. She believes that every birthing person deserves to feel safe, heard, and supported — and that healing is always possible, even after trauma.

As the founder and CEO of Dancy Perinatal Counseling, a nationwide organization dedicated to supporting both parents and the professionals who care for them, Krysta’s mission is to make trauma-informed obstetric care the norm, not the exception.

Whether she’s offering therapy, teaching, or simply holding space for someone’s story, Krysta brings compassion, deep expertise, and a fierce commitment to helping people reclaim their strength after a traumatic birth.

Dancy Perinatal Website: http://www.DancyPerinatal.com Therapist Match Tool: https://www.dancyperinatal.com/find-support

Dancy Perinatal IG: https://www.instagram.com/dancyperinatalcounseling/ Dancy Perinatal FB: https://m.facebook.com/DancyPerinatalCounseling Dancy Perinatal Free FB Group for Birth Trauma: https://www.facebook.com/groups/birthtraumasupportgroup/

INSTAGRAM:

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BIRTH EDUCATION:

Grab HeHe’s free guide to pitocin use here!

Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!

Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!

LINKS MENTIONED:

The IES-R scale as a pdf

Check out Krysta’s on demand classes here, including debrief and trauma prevention skills for doulas.

Use the promo code "HEHE" to watch Krysta’s on-demand class "Healing After A Traumatic Birth" for free.

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