#139 Ruby Lola: The Ambition Difference Between Men and Women

#139 Ruby Lola: The Ambition Difference Between Men and Women

Ruby Lola is a Podcaster and Host of The Personal Best Podcast.


What does personal best really mean? And why do men and women get such different messages about how to achieve it?

In this episode of Origin Story, I sit down with Ruby Lola — host of Personal Best — to unpack the surprising truth about ambition, gender, and the pressure to “be enough.”

Ruby opens up about:

  • Growing up with an alcoholic parent and losing her dad in her early 20s

  • The hidden cost of chasing your “best self”

  • Why men are pushed towards discipline and women towards self-love

  • How ambition looks (and feels) different for women

  • The balance between grit and grace in achieving your goals

This is a raw and unfiltered conversation about self-improvement, grief, gender, and redefining success on your own terms.

📲 Follow Me:
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/davidmcintoshjr
Substack → https://davidmcintoshjr.substack.com
Patreon → https://www.patreon.com/davidmcintoshjr


Get in touch - david@davidmcintoshjr.com


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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
1:05 What “Personal Best” Really Means
4:12 Why Men & Women Get Different Self-Help Advice
10:18 Growing Up With an Alcoholic Parent
19:39 Losing Her Dad to Addiction
31:25 The Truth About Ambition for Women
42:00 Balancing Grit & Grace
50:15 Advice for Finding Your Personal Best

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#57 Rory Sutherland - The Human Behaviour behind Harvard, Onlyfans, Woolworths, Toilet Roll and Recruitment

#57 Rory Sutherland - The Human Behaviour behind Harvard, Onlyfans, Woolworths, Toilet Roll and Recruitment

In my second episode with Rory Sutherland we speak about: What time nightclubs and schools should open and close Why its illegal to send emails whilst on holiday in Germany What higher quality paper envelope infers to charity donors Why your work should coordinate your kitchen repairs, car services and dry cleaning Rory’s thoughts on the marketing of Fyre Festival Why Golf is so famous in Portugal Woolworths product strategy  and why Boots meal deals are lead generators for other products Denim, belt buckles and the Japanese toilets Commemorative Benches Psychology of Onlyfans and 50 Shades of Grey and why people should have two dishwashers It was a pleasure to share this part of a 2 hour+ conversation with one of the most respected thinkers in his field! If you love this podcast: Fuel it by buying me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd Rory’s books - Alchemy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Alchemy-Surprising-Power-Ideas-Sense/dp/0753556502 Transport for Humans: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Transport-Humans-Nearly-There-Perspectives/dp/1913019357/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=transport+for+humans&qid=1658598240&s=books&sprefix=tramsport+for%2Cstripbooks%2C82&sr=1-1 Extra Stuff: ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM **Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

27 Juli 20221h 50min

#56 Rory Sutherland - You Don't Make Sense & You Don't Know It: Here's Why

#56 Rory Sutherland - You Don't Make Sense & You Don't Know It: Here's Why

Part 1/2 Rory Sutherland is one of the most respected figures in Behavioural Science. He is also the Vice Chairman of Ogilvy Advertising, an author & a writer for The Spectator. He is a Cambridge Alumni. He penned one my favourite books Alchemy: The Power of Ideas That Don’t Make Sense We are all consumers. We interact with products and services every hour of every day, But we don’t all know the irrationalities embedded in behaviour that make us do the things we do. Especially the things that don’t make sense. Rory brings these into the light. Human behaviour is far less rational and sophisticated than we might claim. In this episode we speak about: Why rich people compete for art but not architecture Why Rory believes in “car free Sundays” Why McDonald’s touchscreens make you consume more calories Rory’s thoughts on Wetherspoons and his “mushy pea bombardment” Rory’s hypothetical “one behavioural reset” during lockdown & the psychology of Uber maps and P*rn. It was a pleasure to share this part of a 2+ hour conversation with one of the most respected thinkers in his field! If you love this podcast: Fuel it by buying me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd Rory’s books - Alchemy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Alchemy-Surprising-Power-Ideas-Sense/dp/0753556502 Transport for Humans: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Transport-Humans-Nearly-There-Perspectives/dp/1913019357/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=transport+for+humans&qid=1658598240&s=books&sprefix=tramsport+for%2Cstripbooks%2C82&sr=1-1 Extra Stuff: ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM **Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

23 Juli 202255min

#55 Brian Pennie PhD - Needles to Neuroscience: Reversing 18 Years of Heroine Addiction

#55 Brian Pennie PhD - Needles to Neuroscience: Reversing 18 Years of Heroine Addiction

Our guest today is Brian Pennie PhD. Brian is a recovered heroine addict, neuroscientist, lecturer and author. He writes about brain health and rejuvenation. Brian swapped one addiction for another. After 18 years of heroine misuse, Brian had a pivotal episode that forced him face his anxiety-caused addiction head on. He became addicted with self-development and health leading him to gaining both a masters and PhD in Neuroscience. In this episode, expect to learn: How addiction and trauma are interlinked What it means to "get out your head" at the weekend. How his working class background deterred him from being vulnerable and seeking psychological safety. Why the remedy to addiction is awareness How your inner monologue dictates the quality of your life Values based decision making vs actions based decision making Different parts of the brain and what they are responsible for the affects of mediation on the brain 12 brain age reversing habits This was a real honour to have Brian on. He is definitely a guest for a second part! Buy Brian's book Bonus Time here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bonus-Time-story-surviving-discovering-ebook/dp/B085RDZ6PW Follow Brian on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/brianpennie78/?hl=en & LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-pennie/ If you love this podcast: Fuel it by buying me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd Sponsor ---Check out Vybey’s Website, buy their delicious products and use “DMAC” for 15% site off wide! - https://embodimentunlimited.com/ ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM **Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

17 Juli 202252min

#54 - Afzal Hussein - How to go from Council Estates to Goldman Sachs

#54 - Afzal Hussein - How to go from Council Estates to Goldman Sachs

Afzal Hussein is a Careers & Finance Youtuber with over 112,000 subscribers, the Founder of tech startup Simpley.io and ex-Goldman Sachs. In this episode expert to learn: How to break into the world of investment banking The day in the life of a trader The salaries and bonuses of the most lucrative graduate schemes How to quit your job to become a Youtuber Why managing your personal finances is important and how to do so How to write the perfect CV What are Asset Managers, Wealth Managers Private Banks, Family Offices, Hedge Funds, ISAs and such terminology. Thanks Afzal for such a fun and educational hour! Extra Stuff: Find Afzal here - https://www.afzalhussein.com/ https://www.youtube.com/afzalhussein https://www.instagram.com/afzal_hussein/ If you love this podcast you can buy me a coffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd More Extra Stuff: ME: Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

5 Juli 202256min

#53 - Nick Yarris - Part 2: Nick Yarris' FINAL Lessons from 22 Years on Death-Row

#53 - Nick Yarris - Part 2: Nick Yarris' FINAL Lessons from 22 Years on Death-Row

PART 2: Nick Yarris is an American writer who spent 22 years on death row in Pennsylvania after being wrongfully convicted of murder. Nick has given us his last podcast appearance ever - almost as a gift. Across these two episodes, he shares his last lessons from death-row. He has shared his story across national television outlets and even on Joe Rogan. We laughed, we cried and we laughed again. In light of the horrific experiences, Nick said that prison was like a fond memory to him - due to learning and practicing neuro-plasticity healing. "best thing" to happen to him. "I have a photograph of the street gang I was in when I was a teenager. There were 27 of us, 26 are dead now. "Death row saved my life. It taught me everything is a luxury to be treasured." He later said: "When I got out, I got a mantra from my mother, who sat me down and said that I had to be a polite and kind man from now on and that I had to be kind, otherwise it was a waste of coming home." Nick goes in depth on the struggle of being on death row telling of some very traumatic experiences and how he taught himself the skills to cope through them and the rest of his life. He then opens up about losing his career during covid as all public speaking opportunities across the globe came to a halt. He also provided us the deepest account of losing his child of SIDS. He ended by thanking listeners of this show and left with a message of love - as he hangs up the podcasting boots. What an honour. Thank you Nick. If you are touched by the story of Alex in this podcast and wish to help him to Scotland - reach out to Nick on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickyarris/ This episode is sponsored by Butterfly Digital Marketing. For websites, digital marketing and social media services: https://butterflydm.com Extra Stuff: Find Nick’s website - https://nickyarrisofficial.com/ If you love this podcast you can buy me a coffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd More Extra Stuff: ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM *Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

30 Juni 202256min

#52 - Nick Yarris - Part 1: Lessons from 22 Years on Death-Row

#52 - Nick Yarris - Part 1: Lessons from 22 Years on Death-Row

PART 1: Nick Yarris is an American writer who spent 22 years on death row in Pennsylvania after being wrongfully convicted of murder. Nick has given us his last podcast appearance ever - almost as a gift. Across these two episodes, he shares his last lessons from death-row. He has shared his story across national television outlets and even on Joe Rogan. We laughed, we cried and we laughed again. In light of the horrific experiences, Nick said that prison was like a fond memory to him - due to learning and practicing neuro-plasticity healing. "best thing" to happen to him. "I have a photograph of the street gang I was in when I was a teenager. There were 27 of us, 26 are dead now. "Death row saved my life. It taught me everything is a luxury to be treasured." He later said: "When I got out, I got a mantra from my mother, who sat me down and said that I had to be a polite and kind man from now on and that I had to be kind, otherwise it was a waste of coming home." Nick goes in depth on the struggle of being on death row telling of some very traumatic experiences and how he taught himself the skills to cope through them and the rest of his life. He then opens up about losing his career during covid as all public speaking opportunities across the globe came to a halt. He also provided us the deepest account of losing his child of SIDS. He ended by thanking listeners of this show and left with a message of love - as he hangs up the podcasting boots. What an honour. Thank you Nick. If you are touched by the story of Alex in this podcast and wish to help him to Scotland - reach out to Nick on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickyarris/ This episode is sponsored by Butterfly Digital Marketing. For websites, digital marketing and social media services: https://butterflydm.com Extra Stuff: Find Nick’s website - https://nickyarrisofficial.com/ If you love this podcast you can buy me a coffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd More Extra Stuff: ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM *Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

24 Juni 20221h 17min

#51 - Dr. Eric Daimler - Learning AI with Obama's Leading Artificial Intelligence Authority

#51 - Dr. Eric Daimler - Learning AI with Obama's Leading Artificial Intelligence Authority

A 10/10 guest. Dr. Eric Daimler is a leading authority in robotics and artificial intelligence with over 20 years of experience as an entrepreneur, investor, technologist, and policymaker. Eric served under the Obama Administration as a Presidential Innovation Fellow for AI and Robotics in the Executive Office of President, as the sole authority driving the agenda for U.S. leadership in research, commercialization, and public adoption of AI & Robotics. In this episode, expect to learn: - The layman's definition of Artificial Intelligence and how it dates back - An expert's opinion on why we should be scared of technology and if it REALLY does looks like the Terminator films - What working for the Executive Office of the White House and being the authority for AI for Obama looks like - Dr. Eric's concerns of the Metaverse and how Augmented Reality can improve our life - What it is like to interview with Jeff Bezo's before Amazon became what it is today - Dr Eric's hope for the future as a technologist and how A.I can save and change lives. ---- If you love this podcast you can buy me a coffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Dbyd ---- Extra Stuff: Follow Eric on Instagram **Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ericdaimler/** Follow Eric on Twitter **Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/ead/** ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM **Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

19 Juni 20221h 4min

#50 - Gordon Belch - The Intersection Between Million Dollar Deals and Self-Care

#50 - Gordon Belch - The Intersection Between Million Dollar Deals and Self-Care

This week my guest is Gordon Belch. Gordon is the co-founder of nutritious food brand vybey and Head of Finance at an international engineering firm. Out with being an entrepreneur, he is also deeply practiced in self optimisation through mindfulness, meditation and cold water therapy. He speaks on the cross-roads between entrepreneurialism and self-care. Together, we speak about: How entrepreneurialism is either learned or heritable but super-powered when they are combined; How childhoods signals of entrepreneurialism mature. Gordon bought and sold sweets on the playground How to turn a problem into ideation and subsequently creation - like Gordon did with vybey; The process of obtaining investment and how the incensed accountability scales dedication; How self-care and entrepreneurialism aren’t mutually exclusive and how Gordon believes the are married; How to find the best co-founder; How Gordon accidentally created culture capital that he could cash in for reward; And, what it’s like to be at the cusp of a million dollar deal. This one was a sentimental one to me as Gordon was one of my very first models. I speak about how my notion to break free from convention (and start this podcast) was an embryo of his mentoring. If you love this podcast - check out Vybey’s Website! From 34p a meal you can buy their delicious products. Use “DMAC” for 15% off site wide! - https://vybey.co.uk/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw-pCVBhCFARIsAGMxhAfFjpUDtu23df5YwMi9LAgsokoTO8a4qWhElRbh0O9uma6o-Fkc9qgaAmPJEALw_wcB Extra Stuff: Follow vybey on Instagram **Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/vybey.uk/** ME:Reach out to me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/developmentbydavid/ The Development by David Podcast on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DV9tUfz5nGCmH0bfZUFrM **Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-development-by-david-podcast/id1542740010**

12 Juni 20221h 5min

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