The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club3 Sep 2025

Somatic Healing for Divorce Trauma: Rebuild Confidence with Loni Markman

What if the pain you’ve been carrying after divorce isn’t just “in your head”… but living in your body? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Loni Markman, a neuro-somatic life coach, to explore how somatic healing helps release divorce trauma and rebuild core confidence.

Together, they unpack the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma, how hidden experiences shape our behaviors long after divorce, and why creating safety in your own body is the foundation for moving forward.

From breathwork and EFT tapping to progressive muscle relaxation and daily “miracle minutes,” you’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to calm anxiety, regulate your nervous system, and start reclaiming your confidence.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

The difference between “Big T” trauma and the smaller, stackable experiences that add up over time
How trauma shows up in relationships long after the divorce is final
Why creating safety in your body is the first step toward healing
Tools like breathwork, EFT tapping, and progressive muscle relaxation to calm your system
The importance of noticing “glimmers” (moments of joy) as much as “triggers”
How self-abandonment chips away at confidence—and how to repair it

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

00:00 Introduction
02:17 Big T vs. Little T Trauma
04:56 Personal Experiences and EMDR
08:25 Self-Listening and Safety
17:32 Small Steps to Reprogramming
23:14 Overcoming Despair & Finding Wins
31:44 Tools for Emotional Regulation
32:13 Breathing Techniques for Calmness
36:16 EFT Tapping & Muscle Relaxation
40:47 Building a Supportive Community

44:05 Final Thoughts & Encouragement

🌟 Resources & Links

The Club: Your Divorce Healing Community
A supportive space to get clear, grounded, and moving forward—whether you’re still married and uncertain or taking your first steps through divorce.
👉 Join here: thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Connect with Loni Markman

Website: lonimarkman.com
Instagram: @powerhouse_by_loni
Facebook: Loni Markman
Facebook Group: Powerhouse Healing Community

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