The Anxious To Secure PODCAST30 Sep 2025

86: dismissive AVOIDANT ❤️‍🩹 emotionally UNavailable, or just NOT that into you?

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Have you ever dated someone who felt close one moment and distant the next? Or maybe you’ve wondered if your partner is emotionally unavailable, avoidant attached, or simply not interested at all. 🖤

This episode untangles one of the most confusing parts of modern dating and relationships: the difference between emotionally unavailable men, dismissive avoidant partners, and those who are just not into you.

Inside, you’ll hear:

What “emotionally unavailable” actually means (and why even secure men or husbands can go through it).
The difference between a partner who’s avoidant attached vs. someone temporarily checked out.
How emotionally distant partners show up in dating, relationships, and marriage.
The one question to ask yourself when you feel stuck over their mixed signals.

This episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast,

I break it all down so you’ll finally know whether your partner’s distance is a passing phase, an avoidant attachment wound, or a sign they don’t want a deeper commitment.

If you’ve been replaying texts, questioning your worth, or wondering why your emotionally unavailable boyfriend or husband won’t open up…this episode is for you…

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CHAPTER:

00:00 Understanding Emotional Availability 01:33 What does “emotionally unavailable” actually mean 02:22 SECURE but Emotionally Unavailable 04:34 Emotionally Unavailable (general, not always avoidant) 05:55 Avoidant Attachment (dismissive avoidant) 10:52 The Reddit Take 13:12 The “Just Not That Into You” piece 14:49 Final breakdown 18:17 In short ASK yourself THIS

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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