147. "I can't get over my ex — are they holding me back, or did they raise the bar?"

147. "I can't get over my ex — are they holding me back, or did they raise the bar?"

Are you loving the listener Q&A episodes? If so, today is your lucky day; we have another one for you! This week, Lily unpacks the idea of "my ex raised the bar," the stories we make up about dating standards, and how to reclaim your agency. The listener's question went something like this:

"I am dating with intention right now. I was dating someone six months ago, and he broke my heart. He also raised the bar, but I feel like it's tripping me up. Is holding on to him or wondering about him hurting my chances? If he raised the bar, is that a good thing?"

This episode reminds you that you deserve a relationship with someone who fiercely chooses you. Plus, Lily explores how and why to reclaim agency over "the bar," recognize that you own it, and can continue to raise it (yourself) based on your needs, wants, and desires.

Hot-takes and how-tos:

  • Reclaim your agency over the bar - it was and is yours - you own the bar, and you can continue to raise it

  • You get to be in a relationship with someone who fiercely chooses you!

  • People who are not right for you make themselves apparent to you quickly. Those who are right for you also make themselves apparent quickly.

Links:
Join us for the Create a Joyful-As-Fuck Dating Life Workshop on 3/28!
Join the Brazen Breakthrough
3-Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care
Date Brazen on Instagram
Date Brazen on TikTok
124.The "Thank You, More, Please!" Challenge!
135. How to create your essence-based preferences
146. "I'm 37 and haven't been on a date. Am I too late?"

Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/did-my-ex-raise-the-bar



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