We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

Think about that statement - Your Future Success Equals The Size Of Your Hope. First, how do we define hope? The most common definition is: a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. Do you expect good things? The opposite of hope is despair. And I’d say, pessimism. Cynicism. And expectation of poor outcomes. It’s what I think of when you complain about something and someone responds with, “Right?!” As if to confirm negative outcomes. Where are you on the scale from complete despair to complete hope? So now imagine if someone offered you $1,000 for every percentage of hope you had inside you. And today you’re at, say 25%. A cool $25,000. You can take that all the way up to 89% and $89,000. But if you hit 90%, you get a million. How would you conduct your life and steer your mental trajectory? What you’re about to hear is a 13 minute clip from Zig Ziglar. One of the most hopeful people I’ve ever encountered. He was possibly the world’s greatest purveyor of hope. A few episodes ago you heard me have a conversation with Seth Godin, who cites Zig as one of his greatest mentors ever, and I felt it was a good time to give Zig some airtime. I believe the following 13 minutes with Zig is worth its weight in gold. Following Zig’s talk I’m joined by his son and longtime CEO of Ziglar, Tom Ziglar, to discuss hope further. I’m bringing back this recording from one of my first podcasts when I was host of The Ziglar Show, from 2016. It still remains one of the most downloaded episodes we ever had on The Ziglar Show. This is an absolute classic. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Okt 202452min

To wrap up this series on strategy, there is no need for a strategy and systems and improvement unless there is something that we want. In my conversation with Seth Godin talking through the messages in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans, as he focused on marketing, he said there are 3 things people want. Which means, they are the same three things we want. I found it to be a needed reminder as I try to serve an audience, and…I am an audience, for the world. I’ll take you through them in a moment. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Okt 202410min

Two episodes ago I talked with renowned influencer, Seth Godin about the message in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans. In it he tells a story that points out two options for changing our strategy. I've added a third that I feel he would agree with. Let me tell you a story Seth shared and we'll contemplate what options suit us best in the key areas of life we want to improve. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Okt 202410min

Like you, I’ve worked hard to gain more knowledge. Create healthy habits. And I’ve seen results. From this, I really want to wake up, have a good day, and have everything in my life progress. I get healthier. I get wealthier. My relationships just get richer. I feel spiritually connected. My work is more fulfilling. I'm more peaceful and joyful. What I find however, is that things plateau. Maybe stagnate, or even start eroding. Changing systems in my life often created good change and progress. Until they didn’t. And as I hold on to them, I live out the definition of insanity; doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. W. Edwards Deming famously stated, “Every system is perfectly designed to get the result that it does.” Even if a system gave positive results, if it’s not now, then…it’s not. And “it” won’t change until we change. What does that look like? Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Okt 202410min

I’ve grown up in the human potential movement and world of entrepreneurship. Having a goal, which I refer to as a destination, is paramount, as if we don’t know where we are going, we can never get there. However, to get there, you need a strategy. We generally think we have one, but we very often misinterpret what a real, effective strategy is. So I have for you…the expert. Seth Godin. Seth is known as one of the most pervasive voices in the business world, but just as many people follow him for personal insight. I know so many people who have read his daily blog for well over a decade. Seth has a discerning perspective on a meaningful life and a business that matters and succeeds.. Seth was one of my first guests when I hosted The Ziglar Show, as he cites Zig Ziglar as one of the most influential mentors of his life, again, personally and professionally. I recently sat down with Seth to talk about strategy and as usually, he popped a lot of myths about what is and isn’t strategy. He has culminated it in a new book called, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans. As you’re about to hear, he asks as many great questions as he makes great statements. He asks, “If we don't have a strategy, what do we have?” He says, “A strategy isn’t a map—it’s a compass,” and I think you’ll want to hear how he clarifies this. I asked him where we most miss out on what an actual strategy is. And while the topic is headlined as strategy, Seth gives a lot of focus to systems that work. Again, in our personal lives and in our work. Again, the brand new book is This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans, and you’re going to hear some of the headline topics I wanted to learn more about.  Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Okt 20241h 16min

To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I’m looking at our relationships, from family to friends and in our work, with a focus on how we tend to be all things for all people and we do a disservice to ourselves and others. So I’m sharing a show I did with Laura Tremaine. Laura is host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention a couple years ago and I refer to it often. She focused on the niche for women but I resonated completely as a guy. In it she profiles different friend styles and the benefit of having friends for specific needs. It hit a chord for me as I had become concerned with our growing cultural isolation and tendency to look at one friend or family member or our spouse to fulfill all our relational needs. And conversely, how others will look to us to fulfill all their relational needs. And we can’t. And we shouldn’t. And we not only end up doing too much, but fulfilling roles in the relationships in our lives that drain us and aren’t even serving those we care about that well. I think you’ll get great value from this talk with Laura Tremaine as you address you may be doing too much in your life. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Okt 20241h 20min

As I wrap up this series on doing too much, I’m looking at the issue of responsibility. I was a superhero of responsibility. I did it all. No limits. No excuses. People were awed at how much I took care of. Until…I couldn’t. It reminds me of the attribute of being able to hold your liquor. It was a sign of strength, how many shots or beers you can have and still function. Which mainly means you’ve built up a tolerance to a toxin. How is that something to be proud of? This is what I did with responsibility and I’m thinking many of you can relate. I’ve got a concept to walk you through that I think will give you freedom from and a desire to divest yourself of some responsibilities.  Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Okt 202412min

Imagine meeting someone new and them asking, “So, who are you?” Instead of, “What do you do?” How would you even answer? Famed author Donald Miller writes about attending a therapy retreat and for the first three days nobody could share what they did vocationally. He said it was excruciating not to be able to tell people he was a successful author, and he realized how much his identity was wrapped around his roles. I never knew myself outside of what I did, until…far too recently. Here I’m going to unpack some thoughts around this concept.  Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Okt 202411min