We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

I wrap up our series on perfectionism and how it is hurting our drive. This is the Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action episode to distill it all down. Being a perfectionist is not something to be proud of, and it in fact points toward our inability to be authentic and a propensity to people please and perform. It points to our insecurity, not strength. My catalyst and expert for the series was Thomas Curran, a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics. Thomas studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. His TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism has received more than three million views. In part three I brought on my brother, Jared Angaza, to discuss our journeys as seeking perfectionists who thought we were being valiant but ultimately realize we were attempting to fill our self-identity voids. Come with me as I boil down the highlights of what I’ve found out, and am striving to learn. You can watch these full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Dec 202329min

We continue our talk on perfectionism and how we’re letting it diminish our success and joy. We kicked off the series with Thomas Curran who is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics where he studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. Check out his TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism that’s gotten more than three million views. Thomas’s new book is The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. Here I’m joined by my brother, Jared Angaza, and for my part will say we’ve both spent much of our lives with an unhealthy pursuit of perfectionism. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Dec 20231h 2min

In this episode I'm back with Thomas Curran in our series on Perfectionism and how we don’t understand what it actually says about us and how it is sabotaging our drive…for the purpose of…getting out of the Perfection Trap. This is part 2 in our series and it’s the What Drives You episode where we go behind the scenes to hear what drives the expert on perfection, in the key areas of life. Thomas again has a PhD in psychology and is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics where he studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. I encourage you to check out his TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism that has received more than three million views. Thomas’s new book and our muse for this series is The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough which you can get. I’m interested in hearing how Thomas deals with perfectionism and good enough in his daily life! You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Dec 202358min

I'm with Thomas Curran to begin a series on Perfectionism and how we don’t understand what it actually says about us and how it is sabotaging our drive…for the purpose of…getting out of the Perfection Trap. Thomas Curran has a PhD in psychology and is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics. Thomas studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. His TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism has received more than three million views and his research has been featured in media ranging from the Harvard Business Review to New Scientist to CNN. Thomas’s new book He is the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Dec 20231h 9min

I ask, What Drives Christmas, and give Ideas On How To Actually Enjoy The Holiday Season & Fuel Your New Year. Sometimes we have an extraordinary experience from a spontaneous event. But for the most part the epic and fulfilling moments in our lives come from intentionality. While there is often much planning around the time from Thanksgiving to Christmas and the holiday season overall, there is seldom intentionality and it feels like every year finds more and more people performing a tradition of obligation more than celebrating a time of actual joy. The season is rife with expectations and “shoulds” and it can often leave you wondering if anyone actually enjoyed it. I surely won’t be so arrogant as to offer a die hard solution. But I’ll offer some ideas and insights that have worked for me and others. And sometimes it helps to simply get honest about what is driving you, even if you don’t decide to change a thing. I’m going to follow along my seven key areas of life, with an addition, and what tends to drive us during the holidays, and help reveal what drives you, so you can course correct the circumstances and/or your mind. You can make this a quick and simple exercise to write down or simply consider what is driving you, or what you want to be driving you…and why. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Dec 202343min

This is our What Drives Your Health show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode we continue talking through stories of people who made big health changes, and why. In this episode we cover breast implant illness, having the consummate dad bod, weight loss after a child called her fat, aching knees and hips from being heavy, quitting tobacco, afib, and type 2 diabetes. I’m with my health guru and best friend Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. He’ll be speaking from his daily experience with patients. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult-themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Dec 20231h 1min

In this episode I wrap up our series on Physical Transformation with my Big ideas, Big Takeaways and Big Actions. I began our series with a conversation with celebrity trainer Don Saladino who regularly trains the likes of Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, and Hugh Jackman. Instead of mere tips and tricks and hacks he gave the hardcore lesson on mindset and how it’s more about how we think than merely how we train. I just watched the new Christmas movie starring Ryan Reynolds, Spirited, with my kids and had fun showing off pics of Ryan with Don, and me…with Don. And I’m actually starting Don’s program, The Long Game, to help me get back in shape after 10 weeks out due to injury. You can get 20% off any of Don’s ePrograms at donsaladino.com and use code Drive. In part 3 I continued the conversation on Physical Transformation with my pal, medical doctor and Functional Medicine guru Randy James, and he shared from his perspective on sitting with patients every day, who are looking for physical transformation, though instead of getting shredded to play Deadpool like Ryan, they are mostly trying to alleviate chronic pains and illness and gain back their physical capacity. From these conversations and my own life experience with physical transformations, I’ve pulled out some primary highlights for achievable and sustainable physical transformation.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult-themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Dec 202330min

We continue our series on Physical Transformation. I kicked us off with celebrity coach Don Saladino who is well known as trainer of the biggest names in Hollywood such as Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, Emily Blunt, Jake Gyllenhaal, Hugh Jackman and more. I appreciate he gets paid big bucks for results. Period. So he can’t sugarcoat or minimize what it takes to transform a body. Which is…hard, and it takes far more than just giving direction on how to lift weights, run, and eat. So I asked my friend, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, Randy James, to join me in this discussion. He, like Don, is paid out of pocket for transformation. While Don often has people coming to him to change their physical appearance, Randy generally has people coming to him to change how they feel physically. But I think the psychology is the same. It means different goals, different habits, and ultimately different beliefs about yourself. Find Don at donsaladino.com and Dr James at truelifemedicine.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Dec 20231h 5min