We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

Our catalyst for this series is Dr Benjamin Hardy and the concept of his new book with renowned business coach, Dan Sullivan, 10x is easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More By Doing Less. While I’ll testify that the entrepreneurial mindset is key for embracing this 10x concept, you don’t have to be that actual entrepreneur. You can harness other methodologies, which we covered some in part two and I’ll review again here. If you’ve ever heard the concept of 10x, you haven’t heard it this way. It’s not just thinking big, but requires thinking completely differently. And as Ben & Dan showcase, it’s actually easier this way. That is THE point. In part two I dissected the issue more with my Dad, Dan Miller, renowned author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love and host of the 48 Days podcast. We really dug into the self image issues around being able to consider a 10x mentality. I feel this is the crux of whether you will be able to actually leverage the concept in your own life and work. From the two conversations, I’ve pulled out six primary highlights. Join me to walk and talk through them. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Okt 202324min

We continue our talk on Thinking Big. Part 1 and 2 was with Dr Benjamin Hardy who recently co-authored a book with famed business coach, Dan Sullivan, called 10x Is Easier Than 2x. Ben sent me an early copy of the book and I didn’t pick it up until my Dad texted me saying he’d read the book and it was revolutionizing his business. So fittingly I brought on my Dad to discuss this 10x concept further. My Dad of course is…Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work – and Life – You Love, host of the 48 Days To The Work You Love podcast and one of the most well known influencers in business and personal development. He’s also a lifelong learner and for him to say, after a lifetime of successfully running businesses and today mentoring so many others in their businesses, that this concept is revolutionary to him, you’re going to want to hear why. What we uncovered was the need to consider who you are, to entertain the 10x of impossible progress. It may or may not fit you, but there is a workaround to doing it anyway that fits exactly who you are.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Okt 20231h 5min

I’m back with Dr Benjamin Hardy to discuss what drives him. I just had Ben on the show for the 5th time to talk about his latest book, 10x Is Easier Than 2x, which is a psychological paradigm shifter for how we look at making progress. But this is a special episode. I had Ben on a show with me in 2019 where he made a reference to his childhood where he was 19 years old, barely made it out of high school, his very religious parents had divorced and walked away from their faith, his dad became a meth addict, and Ben was spending 14 hours per day playing World of Warcraft. To hear that rocked my world a good bit. Here I was trying to raise kids with work ethic, morals, experience and desire, and Ben had none of it at age 19. Yet he went on and in a fairly short amount of time, turned his life around and was getting six figure deals for his books and living a life of all around great success. I had him come back to talk with me in December of 2020 to unpack the story and understand what took him from zero to hero. What he shared became the lead story in my book, What Drives You, and right here and now you’re going to go hear the initial, raw discussion. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Okt 20231h 3min

We’re talking about how the impossible goal is actually easily and more attainable than the possible goal. Why doubling your income in a year, for instance, can be easier than increasing it by 5 or 10%. This is not some motivational hype, and to prove the point I have with me, Dr Benjamin Hardy. This is the fourth time I’ve had Ben on the show, first with his book Willpower Doesn’t Work which is one of my top shelf go to books you’ve heard me reference many times. Then his book, Personality Isn’t Permanent which is another Hallmark book for me. However, it was in a show about what drives Ben that I heard his personal story, which became the lead off story in my new book, What Drives You. Ben is just a brilliant mind. His blog is read by millions every month and he is just a master and distilling out paradigm shifting concepts that radically change our lives. Lately he’s also been co authoring books with renowned business coach, Dan Sullivan. Their latest is called 10x is easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More By Doing Less. This is our muse today. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Sep 20231h 36min

We look at a key way to give your body a break. If you’ve ever driven a car that was overheating, you know the only way to give it a break is to turn it off and let it cool down. Our bodies in today’s culture, are almost always overheated as they try to digest food. Constant food, too much food, and food our bodies don’t like and struggle with. Even in our sleep our bodies are generally toiling away trying to deal with the foods we’ve put in them. We never give them a break. The term for this that nobody likes is…fasting. I grew up with it as a religious practice, but here we are primarily talking about it from a physiological and psychological standpoint as we truly believe it can be a profound tactic to use for your healing. We includes my co host in this show, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. If you have a chronic illness or disease, fasting may be the best medicine possible. And I’ll preface it by saying...I don’t enjoy it. I’ve broken bones, and I don’t like wearing a cast to heal. But I do. I’ve dealt with psychological things and seen therapists. Not a great joy. But I want the help. The topic today is...not eating food. For a prolonged period. In order to enable the body to heal. Eating throughout the day, from morning till night, is something humans have done only for a very short amount of time. A time where we’ve seen a massive rise in chronic illness and disease. Our bodies were created for and intended to get a break from food. In this episode we discuss just this, prolonged fasting. And you’ll hear me address that I do not, at all, like to not eat. I love to eat. But I also love to feel great. To perform at a top notch level. I don’t want aches and pains, now at 52 or in the future at 92. I want to think clearly and creatively. I want to be fully mobile and spry. I have no reason to give these up. And taking times to not eat and let my body heal is paramount for all this. You don’t have to abstain from food for 30 days. But mere intermittent fasting is not enough to get the full benefits of fasting. So...here you go. The episode your taste buds and belly don’t want to hear, but the rest of your body is starving for. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Sep 20231h 1min

I wrap up our series on Emotional Power with the Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action, after incredible discussions with Dr Julia Digangi, author of Energy Rising - The Neuroscience of Leading With Emotional Power and Britt Frank, author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward. Here I’m taking the opportunity to pull out some of the primary issues I see us blind to as a culture regarding emotions. For context, I’m now focused on a goal of emotional mastery. Or you could say, spending the rest of my life endeavoring to better master my emotions. I’d ask you to think about it like mastering a team of majestic horses; you do so by gently, yet firmly, joining with them and nurturing them along with yourself to make progress in the desired direction. You don’t let them run loose by venting and emoting, and you also don’t stuff and deny them. And the heart of your emotional mastery is not leading the horses, but first, leading yourself. And again, most all of us hearing this right now are existing on the side of 1) Unfettered emotions: negative feelings running amok and overwhelming you, or 2) Imprisoned emotions: walled off, rejected, and ignored. Both sides are controlling you. Leading you. This is your chance to start understanding, leading, and mastering your emotions, and from that, your life. Here we go with 7 keys for emotional mastery and then the big action. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Sep 202336min

We continue our series on Emotional Power. In the last episode my guest expert was Dr. Julia DiGangi, a neuropsychologist who completed her residency at Harvard Medical School. Dr DiGangi is author of the new book, Energy Rising: The Neuroscience of Leading with Emotional Power, and we discussed How To Discover & Correct Your Self-Limiting Patterns. Today I brought Britt Frank back onto the show to go deeper with the discussion. I did a series on anxiety with Britt you can find starting back in episode 1197. Britt is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). She is a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work. Her book which was the muse for our series together, is, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Sep 20231h

We begin a series on Emotional Power. Everyday life happens around us. We judge it all by how we feel about it, and we naturally trust and believe our experience. My guest today however says it’s our emotions that are the final judge of all our experiences. Not fact. Not our logic. But our emotions. To take it further she cites, “The very meaning in your life is determined by the emotions you have about it.” And what you’re about to learn is you have perceptions and resulting patterns programmed into your mind that are influencing how you perceive life overall, good and bad. Of course it’s the bad patterns that are sabotaging you, and this is our focus today, as we can correct these patterns. My expert guest on the topic is Dr. Julia DiGangi. Dr DiGangi is a neuropsychologist, who completed her residency at Harvard Medical School, Boston University School of Medicine, and the US Department of Veterans Affairs, and she is the author of a new book called Energy Rising: The Neuroscience of Leading with Emotional Power. Dr DiGangi has nearly two decades of experience studying the connection between our brains and our behavior and has worked with leaders around the world including the White House Press Office and the US Special Forces. Dr DiGangi shows people—at work and at home—how to harness the power of the brain to lead more satisfying and emotionally intelligent lives. We live in a world where science and emotions are viewed as radically disparate things and I have Dr DiGangi, here to dispel that. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Sep 20231h 20min